Please welcome our guest author, Lindsey Bell, who is posting with us as part of her December Blog Tour. Today she is sharing great tips for how to be a merry mom this Christmas–words to live by every day, really . And be sure and enter her mega- giveaway–details are at the end of this post!
Christmas is my favorite holiday, but it also has the potential to be VERY stressful. With parties to attend, goodies to bake, programs to prepare for, gifts to purchase, and cards to send, Christmas can sometimes be far from joyful.
We might say “Merry Christmas” to the checker at the grocery store, but many of us don’t always feel merry. Here are a few tips that might help!
How to Be a Merry Mom:
Most of us are on the go WAY too much. I read a book recently called Hands Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford, and she said something in the book that stuck with me.
What she said was this: “My child cannot kiss a moving target” (23).
Our kids can’t kiss us or hug us or cuddle with us if they can’t catch us. If we’re always on the go, when will our kids have the opportunity to just BE with us?
As much as we’d love to attend every Christmas event, there are times when it’s wiser to stay at home and be with our families.
Simplifying begins by prioritizing. Decide which events you most want to attend, and then allow the rest of fall off your calendar.
2. Begin your day well.
About six months ago, I attended The Better Together Conference put on by The MOM Initiative. At that conference, one of the speakers challenged each of us to begin our days with our faces on the ground in prayer.
I’ve been doing that since then, and my days have drastically changed.
I think the reason they have changed so much is because God is filling me up early.
Before, when my children challenged me, it was me that spilled over (me, plus a little bit of impatience, frustration, and irritability). Now, when my kids push my buttons, it’s God that spills out of me.
Because I take time each morning to have Him fill me with His presence, it’s His Spirit that seeps out of me throughout the day.
3. Work on your marriage.
When our marriages are strong, we are happier people.
As much as we’d like to believe living in an unhealthy marriage doesn’t affect our moods, that’s not reality. Happy marriages make happy people; unhappy marriages make unhappy people.
Take time this week to work on your marriage. Buy a marriage book to read together. Have a date night. Have sex with your spouse. Pray together.
4. Count your blessings.
Many of us mistakenly assume we have to feel thankful to voice thanksgiving.
Instead, it’s often the voicing of thanks that creates the feelings of thanksgiving.
In other words, if you take time to count your blessings, you will grow more thankful. You’ll begin noticing more blessings in your life. Your focus will gradually shift off the hard things in your life to the blessings instead.
5. Take care of yourself.
A happy mom is a mom who takes care of herself. Sure, there are seasons in our lives when we can’t get a full night’s sleep. There are seasons we can exercise every day.
But do your best to take care of you. Eat well. Exercise regularly. Rest as much as your little ones will allow.
6. Get away from time to time.
Nothing makes you adore your little ones more than being away from them occasionally, so if you’re able, go on vacation with your spouse, go on regularly dates, take time to yourself, and don’t feel bad about doing it.
7. Stop comparing your life to the lives of others.
Steven Furtick once said, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
Stop comparing your life to the lives of those around you. Sure, their life might look great on Facebook or Pinterest. But you’re not in their home everyday.
The key to happiness is to stop looking outside your surroundings to find it.
8. Laugh and smile more.
Laughter is good for the body, mind, and soul, so choose to laugh more. Instead of getting angry when everything goes wrong of a morning, choose to laugh instead.
When your holiday plans don’t turn out as you expected, choose to smile and laugh instead of blow up in anger.
9. Do something you love.
Writing has always been something I loved. When my son was first born, though, I thought I needed to put my writing aside until my kids were grown.
I’m so thankful my husband told me to write then instead of waiting until later.
When moms use their gifts, talents, and abilities, they’re happier women…And when we’re happier women, we’re happier moms.
Granted, there are certainly seasons when I can’t write as much. But that doesn’t mean I can’t do it at all.
10. Be present.
It’s tempting—especially on the hard days—to escape with my phone…to log into Facebook or Pinterest and only be half-there with my children.
What happens when I do this is that I stop enjoying my kids.
It’s only when I’m fully present that I fully enjoy my life. My guess is, I’m not the only one.
So if you want to be a merry mom this Christmas, choose to be with the ones you’re with.
What other tips would you add to this list?
This post is part of Lindsey Bell’s December blog tour. To enter to win Lindsey’s MEGA-GIVEAWAY (the winner will receive 6 books!), leave a comment on any of Lindsey’s guest posts this month (including this one).
For a full list of participating blogs (and ways to enter!) visit this post on Lindsey’s blog.
About Lindsey Bell:
Lindsey Bell is the author of Searching for Sanity: 52 Insights from the Parents of the Bible. She’s also a stay-at-home mother of two, minister’s wife, avid reader, and chocolate lover. You can find Lindsey online at any of the following locations:
Her blog: www.lindsey-bell.com
Her website: www.lindseymbell.com
Have you ever looked at your beloved children and wondered, what in the world am I doing? Why did God trust me—of all people—to raise them?
Motherhood is the most difficult job many of us will ever take. Searching for Sanity offers moms an opportunity to take a breath, dig into the Word, and learn from parents of the past. In short devotions designed for busy moms, this book uses the parents of the Bible—both the good and the bad—to inspire today’s mothers.