Thought I’d share some quick things I’ve seen around the web this week!

About the Church Activities Article

Great comments, everyone! I loved the discussion.

One person emailed me and asked a really good question: why do we need food at everything? I only eat three meals a day–breakfast, lunch, and dinner. When I’m at home I don’t eat a bunch of snacks at 7:30 at night or at 11:00 in the morning. So why do we expect there to be food at Bible studies? Shouldn’t people just come to study the Word?

I think that’s an excellent point. I sometimes feel that the main atmosphere of the church is, “we can’t afford to lose anyone who is coming, so we have to make church attractive to them.” So we bring food everywhere. We try to have fun activities. And no where is this more apparent than youth group, where often instead of real, in-depth teaching there’s just fun activities. That portrays a real insecurity on the church’s part. How about we just get back to the basics and people can eat at home?

Another woman emailed me and wrote, I would rather speak in front of 500 people than bring a casserole to a potluck. I don’t think people realize how intimidating that is to so many of us. Exactly! We’re not all made the same.

Here’s an article one woman linked on my Facebook PageYoung Moms need Help, not God. She’s not serious; she knows she needs God. But what she really needs right now is someone to watch the kids so she can go to the grocery store–alone. She makes a good point. What is real community? Is it a bunch of events at the church, or is it helping out those around us in need?

“Hot” vs. “Pretty”

My 16-year-old daughter filmed a great video about how teenagers need to understand the difference between “hot” and “pretty”. Watch it here! It’s short, and I know she’d appreciate a “thumbs up”!

More Porn Statistics

My post on the Top 10 Effects of Porn on your Marriage went quite viral this week, and I put up a new infographic for it. I’ll post it here, too:

Top 10 Effects of Porn on Your Marriage and Sex Life

If you want to see more stats and more science behind all of this, the best site I’ve found is Fight the New Drug.

About that Common Core Math…

Have you seen the pictures making their way around Facebook about absolutely RIDICULOUS math homework? Here’s the latest:

Common Core Math Ridiculous Problem

A few quick thoughts:

In teaching math there are two areas: the conceptual and the practical. You need to understand the math theoretically, but you also have to be able to just simply do the calculation. What researchers have found is that many kids don’t really get the concept of what 48×62 really represents. And so Common Core decided that we needed to stress the conceptual tools, not the calculations.

I homeschooled; we used concepts like number lines and groups of things and all of that all the time. It helped illustrate the problem for the kids. But then we moved on to the calculation part, and taught them the correct way to do the problems. And we made them memorize their math facts.

What Common Core does is it tries to teach calculation using the conceptual tools–which doesn’t work. It’s totally cumbersome and absolutely ridiculous.

Yes, number lines are great. Yes, 100 number charts are awesome. Yes, blocks of 10 are useful. But if a kid needs to pull those out to calculate 317-162, that kid is going to have major issues.

Kids can do the calculations even if they don’t understand the concept behind it. It’s not ideal, but you can teach kids the steps and they’ll master them. But if they never learn the steps, but only the concepts, math will always take a huge amount of time and be a big chore.

Teach your kids the proper way to do calculations at home, even if they’re not teaching it in school anymore. If you want your child to ever be able to add up a row of numbers, or multiply, they’re going to need it.

40% of British Kids are Insecurely Attached to their Parents

A new study out found the shocking stat that 40% of kids are insecurely attached. And that’s a probem because insecurely attached kids tend to become more violent and have more behavioural and educational issues later on in childhood (and in adulthood). Many parents just don’t know how to emotionally bond with their kids. It’s not good.

But what’s weird about this article is the solution proposed–more funding for day cares. My daughter did a big research project last year in Psychology about attachment and day care, and what she found was that kids who were already insecurely attached became more so in day care. In other words, day care didn’t cause insecure attachment, but where it was already present it made it much worse. Maybe the best solution is trying to get parents to spend more time with kids–and encouraging a culture of marriage again where kids are born into a safer and more welcoming family structure.

There it is–a few things that have caught my attention and made me think this weekend. Have a wonderful weekend with your family!