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Every weekend I like to post a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. This week’s question comes from a reader, who longs for greater intimacy with her unbelieving husband:

I want to feel really intimate with my husband. He’s a great guy, and I love him very much. But he isn’t a Christian, and I feel like I can’t share the most important part of me. How can I stay intimate with him when I’m always reminded that we have less than the ideal?

Thanks, everybody!

What do you think?  How can she boost her intimacy with her husband?


A Survey Plea

Now, a special request... A reader, who is working on her Ph.D.  needs help with some research she’s doing. She says:

Participate in a survey on couples and alcohol use and enter to win a raffle!

  • Are you and your spouse legally married and at least 18 years of age?
  • Do you or your partner currently consume alcoholic beverages at least once a month?
  • Is alcohol use an area of disagreement in your marriage?

If you answered yes to the above questions, you and your spouse are eligible to participate in a research survey regarding the relationship between your marriage and your alcohol-related help seeking behaviors. When you both complete the survey, you will each be entered into a raffle for one of four $50 Amazon.com gift cards!

The survey will take each participant approximately 20 minutes, and survey responses will be anonymous.


This study has been approved by the Clark Committee for the Rights of Human Participants in Research and Training Programs (IRB). Any questions about human rights issues should be directed to the IRB Chair, Dr. James P. Elliott, 508-793-7152, [email protected] The study is being conducted by C.J. Fleming, M.A. and James Cordova, Ph.D. in the Psychology Department at Clark University. Please feel free to contact the researcher ( [email protected] ) or the research supervisor ( [email protected] ) with any questions or concerns.

Thanks, ladies! Now chime in on our question: how can she boost intimacy with her husband?

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