'Questions?' photo (c) 2008, Valerie Everett - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/Every weekend I like to throw up a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. Here’s a difficult one, and I’ve received about 4 versions of this question this week. I’m hoping that some of you who have walked through this can give these women some encouragement. Here’s a composite of their emails:

We’ve been married for a few years now, and I honestly don’t enjoy sex. I find it rather disgusting. I don’t want to be like this; I desperately want to have a great marriage. I know I’m hurting my husband. I can try to “throw myself into it” but my body just doesn’t follow. It’s like I shut down. What should I do?

Great question! And a really tough one. I know so many of you have experienced this, but many of you have also come out on the other side. If that’s your story, can you give them some encouragement?

Leave your thoughts in the comments!

And don’t forget: The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex makes a great gift for any woman about to get married. So if you’re going to a bridal shower this spring, bring it along! And it makes a great Mother’s Day gift to yourself, as well! I’m sure your husband won’t mind :).