For those of you who are new here, I’m Sheila Wray Gregoire, a speaker and the author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.
And I want to come and speak at your church or group!
Let me explain. I’ve been speaking at women’s retreats and women’s outreaches for about a decade now, heading all over North America encouraging women. I’ve spoken about loss, I’ve spoken about how to say “God is enough”, and I’ve given women a message of the joy we can experience when our focus is on Jesus, and not on our circumstances.
But as I’ve spoken and written, I’ve found that increasingly what women wanted me to talk about was sex. You see, my husband and I also speak together at FamilyLife marriage conferences, and we tended to do the sex talk because other speaker couples were glad to give that one up. And speaking about sex has never been that scary to me.
Finally, I decided it was time to write a book–but not just any book–on sex. I wanted it to be the kind of book where you feel as if you’re talking to your big sister, asking her all the questions you want answers to but you don’t know where to go. In The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, I explain how God created it to bring us together in three ways: emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The problem we face is that our culture has divorced sex from marriage, and thus all they have left is the physical. And so sex has become distorted.
I spend the book looking at how we can find the real joy and intimacy that God intended for our marriage.What I’ve found in writing this book and this blog is that women are eager to have a safe place to discuss something that’s personal, but also vitally important. We know it’s central to marriage. We know it’s supposed to be wonderful. But all too often it’s not.
It shouldn’t be that way, and I wrote the book to dispel some myths and to help women experience real joy.
But now I want to expand that and bring the book’s message to your church, through Girl Talk, a fun evening for women where we talk intimacy!
We’ll open with a 15 minute comedy routine on sex, and then have some practical teaching for married women on how to create a marriage that thrives. After intermission we’ll have a Q&A (don’t worry, the questions will be screened and tasteful), and then some more practical teaching. And the evening will be punctuated with fun video and interesting multimedia with some of the results from the surveys I took for my research. Here’s just one video that I’ve created for the evening:
Why such an evening?
Marriages are falling apart. Even those that are still together aren’t necessarily thriving. And if we want our witness to be strong, and for children to grow up in security, loving God, we need to support families. Sex may not be something that churches normally talk about, but here’s a chance for the church to host a fun evening for women, with great teaching, with little effort on the pastor’s part.
Pastors can’t always preach about sex from the pulpit, because children are present, and pastors don’t want to alienate single people. But it’s too important a topic to ignore. If you think your church would benefit from this night, then just enter!
Here’s how it works.
Enter either with Facebook or your email (that gets you 1 entry). But you can earn 40 more entries just by completing some tasks once you’ve logged in–easy tasks, like entering your church’s name, sharing the “How to Turn Your Husband Off” video on Facebook, or signing up for Marriage Newsletter! And if you already are signed up for my newsletter, or you already follow my Facebook Page, you get points for that, too!
If you really want to win, email friends from your church and get them to enter, too. In fact, you get extra points for emailing them in the first place, but the more enter, the more likely your church is to win.
The contest is running until 12:01 am on April 21. Some tasks, like sharing on Facebook or Twitter, you can repeat everyday to get extra entries, so check back! I would love to meet some of you in person, so enter away, and perhaps I’ll arrive, with my famous flannel nightgown, ready to bring a wonderful evening to the women in your community.