'Questions?' photo (c) 2008, Valerie Everett - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/Every weekend I’m going to institute a Reader Question of the Week, where I throw out a question from the comments or from my email bag and I ask all ofΒ  you to chime in!

Let’s recap last week’s: A woman wrote in talking about her husband’s work schedule, and how they had so little time together. Can a marriage survive on quickies?

Lots of you wrote in for ideas on how to find more time together, including waking him up in the middle of the night! And the conclusion was, unfortunately, that it’s hard to live like this indefinitely. Anyone can do it if there’s an end in sight, even if the end is a few years away. But at some point something has to give.

Now for this week:

I’ve actually combined a number of similar emails I’ve had into one composite, and I hope that you all can give some thoughts, especially you older women who read my blog:

I’ve been married for about 5 years to a wonderful man. I’ve recently had some health problems, and I’ve gone through menopause.

Now, I feel completely dead from the neck down, dried up and finished up! At 50?!!!
He doesn’t push me though I know he too feels this is wrong. And now he’s starting to have problems, too. We are affectionate, but we aren’t sexual; we only make love maybe 2-3 times a year.
I’ve been put on Hormone Replacement Therapy, and I’ve been exercising and we’re in good health otherwise. I’m attractive and I look 10 years younger than I am. But sex just isn’t working. In my head I want to love my man but the idea, even of being touched, just leaves me cold!
How do other women get through this menopause time? I’m a Christian, I believe in God’s healing, and I want to get through this!
If you’ve been through menopause, or if you know a lot about menopause, can you comment and help? A number of women are asking me similar things. I have thoughts, but since I haven’t gone through that change, I’d rather the rest of you who have chime in first!
Thanks, everybody!
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