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It’s Day 4 of the 29 Days to Great Sex series, and today we’re going to talk about kissing and marriage!

29 Days to Great Sex is a series I’m writing leading up to the release of my book, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. (Update: Now available!)

Over this first week we’ve talked about some of the barriers that we can have from enjoying sex–whether it’s wrong ideas about sex, or feeling that we’re just not attractive. I know yesterday was a challenge for many of you–trying to find 5 things to feel positive about with your body.

PuckerUp - 29 Days to Great Sex Day 4: Pucker Up!Today I want to get really practical–and so I hope for many of you today’s challenge will be fun and easy. Let’s smooch!

Do you remember practising kissing when you were 11 and 12? You spent your nights imagining when a boy would actually kiss you passionately (and that’s really as far as the dream went, because that’s pretty much all you wanted back then). You fantasized about kissing. You dreamed of kissing!

Then you met your now-husband, and chances are those dreams became a reality when you were dating. You kissed every chance you could get.

And then, for so many couples, you got married and kissing almost came to a halt.

I think it’s because of a misunderstanding of what kissing is for. Often men think kissing is foreplay–as in, it’s necessarily going somewhere. Because many women are reluctant to put a down payment on something they may not want to purchase later, so to speak, they stop kissing, so that he doesn’t get the wrong idea.

Kissing then becomes something that you avoid unless you’re about to have sex.

But that’s too bad, because kissing actually makes us women feel closer to our men! It’s fun. It’s intimate. And it grosses out the kids (in a good way!).

Just because you’re not sure you’re going to want to make love in the evening is no reason to avoid kissing earlier in the day (now if you always turn your husband down, that’s a problem, but we’re going to get to that later in this series). If you avoid kissing, then you deprive yourself of one of your primary ways to get your libido up–and almost guarantee you WON’T want to make love later.

Most couples only kiss today as foreplay–not throughout the day. Or if they do kiss, it’s just a quick peck. So I want you to start kissing–really kissing–everyday!

If you avoid kissing, then you deprive yourself of one of your primary ways to get your libido up–and almost guarantee you WON’T want to make love later.

Quick kissing tips:

  • Saliva: some like it. Some don’t. Find out what preference your husband has (and let him know yours).
  • Breath mints are your friend. Have some in your purse and use them throughout the day (and share them with your hubby!)
  • Tongue: Same thing. Some really like it. Some don’t. Keep it light! If your husband is too tongue-happy, tell him, “Let me kiss you for thirty seconds and show you how I like it”. And then do so enthusiastically!
  • Use your hands. Let them caress his back, or his arms, or his head, or wherever you like!

Some inspiration to get you going (watch it with him, and then do it!)

Great Sex Challenge: Pucker Up for 15 Seconds!

Set the kitchen timer and kiss for at least 15 seconds straight. It’s amazing how long 15 seconds actually seems. And then start repeating this, everyday, during the day (as in not just at night while you’re lying in bed). You’ll find yourself feeling more warmly towards your husband, and likely more warmly towards sex!

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SheilaSidebarAboutMe - 29 Days to Great Sex Day 4: Pucker Up! Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 27 years and happily married for 22! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
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