Do you ever find your mind wandering during sex–or do you fantasize so that you’re not really mentally present when you make love?
We’re on the final few days of our 29 Days to Great sex challenge, and this one is an important one–because you can’t really experience true spiritual intimacy when you make love if you’re not really “there”. If you need to rely on a fantasy to get yourself aroused, then you’re really just using your spouse–you’re not really making love to them.
Unfortunately, this is a problem many people have, especially if they have porn or erotica in their backgrounds. Their brains have become accustomed to that kind of stimulation, and so it’s hard to get aroused without some sort of fantasy.
I’m not saying all fantasy is wrong–not at all! But if you need to retreat mentally, rather than being mentally present, then you’re missing out on so much intimacy.
So today’s challenge is about learning to be mentally present. However,
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Part of the 29 Days to Great Sex series has been removed from the web, but it’s all available in 31 Days to Great Sex–which is only $4.99 in its ebook format!
Feeling sexually disconnected?
This is the second last post! Next post: Celebrate Great Sex!
29 Days to Great Sex: The Series
Day 1: The Act of Marriage
Day 2: Starting Fresh
Day 3: Loving the Skin You’re In
Day 4: Pucker Up!
Day 5: Reawaken Desire
Day 6: Why Your Hubby Wants You!
Day 7: Dealing with Differences in Sex Drives (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 8: 14 Ways to Play as a Couple
Day 9: Prepare for Sex throughout the Day
Day 10: Ways to Flirt with Your Husband
Day 11: Show Affection (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 12: Hitting the Reset Button on Your Sex Life (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 13: Getting Your Head in the Game (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 14: What if You’re Not “In the Mood”?
Day 15: What is Foreplay?
Day 16: How to Orgasm
Day 17: The Pleasure Center
Day 18: Foreplay Can Be for Him, Too!
Day 19: Little Changes that Increase Pleasure for HER and for HIM (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 20: Deciding on Sexual Boundaries (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 21: 5 Ways to Spice Things Up
Day 22: How Often is Enough?
Day 23: Quickies Are Great!
Day 24: Initiate, Baby!
Day 25: Sex Once Kids Come (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 26: New Positions to Try–to Ramp Up the Fun! (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 27: Experiencing Spiritual Intimacy when you Make Love
Day 28: Being Mentally Present When You Make Love (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex) (This one!)
Day 29: Celebrate! And Keep Up the Momentum (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
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