How do you decide your sexual boundaries?

In any marriage, one spouse is going to feel more adventurous in the bedroom than the other.

We’ve been working through the 29 Days to Great Sex, leading up to the release of my book The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (update: available now!). Last week we were concentrating primarily on how to create those fireworks–how to make it feel as wonderful as it was meant to (and one commenter actually reported that she and her husband broke the bedframe 🙂 ).

But as we’re starting to spice things up, it’s important to ask:

How do you decide what’s okay to do and what’s not?

Over the last few years, the vast majority of anonymous questions I’ve received have been about that sort of thing: my husband (or my wife) wants to try something in bed, and I’m not comfortable with it. What do I do?

In many marriages, one spouse is more adventurous than the other. That’s only natural. How you negotiate, though, can be tricky. Today’s challenge takes us through how to make those decisions.


This content is exclusive to 31 Days to Great Sex, the book.

Part of the 29 Days to Great Sex series has been removed from the web, but it’s all available in 31 Days to Great Sex–which is only $4.99 in its e-book format!

Feeling sexually disconnected?

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Like you've lost your groove?

Like you're on two different planets when it comes to sex in your marriage? 

31 Days to Great Sex can help you talk through what's gone wrong and try some new things to figure out how to make it RIGHT!


Coming up next: 5 Ways to Spice Things Up, Quickies are Great, and How Often if Enough?

SheilaSidebarAboutMe - 29 Days to Great Sex Day 20: Deciding Your Boundaries Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 27 years and happily married for 22! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
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