We’re nineteen days into our 29 Day to Great Sex challenge, a series leading up to the launch of my book The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (update: now available!)
Day 19 is a fun one–it’s all about little changes that we can make when we make love to increase pleasure for HER–along with little changes that we can make so HE goes wild, too!
Sometimes it doesn’t take much to shift from “okay” to “oh, wow, this is amazing!” But these aren’t things that we’re born knowing. Someone often needs to tell you.
This content is exclusive to 31 Days to Great Sex, the book.
Part of the 29 Days to Great Sex series has been removed from the web, but it’s all available in 31 Days to Great Sex–which is only $4.99 in its e-book format!
Do you find it hard to talk about SEX?
Want to try new things--but don't know how to start?
No more wondering how to talk about what feels good or what you'd like to try. This fun challenge will get you talking and trying new things without the awkward.
Coming up in this series: 5 Ways to Spice Things Up and How Often is Enough?
29 Days to Great Sex: The Series
Day 1: The Act of Marriage
Day 2: Starting Fresh
Day 3: Loving the Skin You’re In
Day 4: Pucker Up!
Day 5: Reawaken Desire
Day 6: Why Your Hubby Wants You!
Day 7: Dealing with Differences in Sex Drives (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 8: 14 Ways to Play as a Couple
Day 9: Prepare for Sex throughout the Day
Day 10: Ways to Flirt with Your Husband
Day 11: Show Affection (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 12: Hitting the Reset Button on Your Sex Life (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 13: Getting Your Head in the Game (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 14: What if You’re Not “In the Mood”?
Day 15: What is Foreplay?
Day 16: How to Orgasm
Day 17: The Pleasure Center
Day 18: Foreplay Can Be for Him, Too!
Day 19: Little Changes that Increase Pleasure for HER and for HIM (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex) (This one!)
Day 20: Deciding on Sexual Boundaries (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 21: 5 Ways to Spice Things Up
Day 22: How Often is Enough?
Day 23: Quickies Are Great!
Day 24: Initiate, Baby!
Day 25: Sex Once Kids Come (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 26: New Positions to Try–to Ramp Up the Fun! (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 27: Experiencing Spiritual Intimacy when you Make Love
Day 28: Being Mentally Present When You Make Love (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Day 29: Celebrate! And Keep Up the Momentum (BONUS content in 31 Days to Great Sex)
Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 27 years and happily married for 22! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
What an excellent post. God gave His Son so we could live a full and abundant life and I want that. I want it as a woman, a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, a volunteer….everywhere. I want to live in the beauty He has created and not the destruction the enemy leaves behind. Thanks for sharing!
Megan
“But ultimately you cannot do this by yourself.” I love that you added this, too often self-help stuff forgets to mention this very important detail.
Great post Sheila! This says so well what I have learned to be true in the last 3 months. I only wish I would have known it before 20 yrs of my marriage had past. So I totally agree with the mind set of buy and give this book and others like it to the newly married couples in our lives. I feel a revolution coming on! 🙂
Awesome, Cheri! Thank you!
you are right on sheila…wife and i read these together every night….you are doing an awesome job…
Thanks, James! I’m so glad you’re finding these helpful.
Thanks for this amazing series. We have been blown away since day one. It has gone hand in hand with One Flesh Marriage’s 10 day sex challenge which we did. God has been using both you and them in big ways.
To be honest we are not where we want to be,we are still struggling, but for the first time in our 30 year marriage I (David) think we are on the right road. I do believe God is putting flesh on our dry bones. Pray for us as we pray for you.
Thank you so much for that encouragement! It means so much to me! And do pray for the book as it comes out–I really want it to get in the hands of people who feel very “dry”, but also in the hands of young brides so that fewer couples will experience this. I’m so glad you’re sticking with it and seeing the hope that God offers you!
I have loved reading the 29 day challenge blog. It has made me more comfortable & confident to talk about sex with my partner. By communicating with him, it has brought our already amazing sex to a higher level of amazing! THANK YOU!
another great one, my favorite part, “Move together to make it work”, TOGETHER…..is always best.
I’ve been wrestling with whether to show this series to my bride and if so, how best to approach it. I think today’s entry might be a pretty good intro, honestly. Prayers, if you feel so inclined, would be much appreciated.
Awesome, David! I will pray. And have you shown her this one: Why Your Husband Wants You To Read This Marriage Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2012/01/why-your-husband-wants-you-to-read-this-marriage-blog/
Whoa, how did I miss that? Thanks!
It’ll still be a “swallow-hard” sort of action, but that would indeed be a great place to start. Prayers greatly appreciated!
I pray this post speaks loudly to all of your readers. It is so very true and I hope to encourage you by saying YES and AMEN! This is in no way a shout out to another book, but recently I read Eden Derailed, a Theology on Sex by a Pastor. What spoke so loudly to me is that sex is not some separate issue in our lives. The breakdown of marriage and sex can be traced back to the fall. The fall broke down our communication as husband and wife. It broke down our intended roles. We cannot separate this issue from our other marital issues.
You show me a strong marriage and I’ll show you a marriage with a great sex life. You show me a marriage that you know to have a great sex life and I’ll show you a strong marriage.
Thank you, again, for doing this series. It challenges us but the benefits are so worth it.
I wanted to add one more thing. What you said about things that come from God bring life resonated with me. Simple truth. *Praying for lots of LIFE in my marriage including our sex life. 🙂
Oh, how I wish we could pray together! I’ve never been comfortable with free-form prayer but have no problem with praying The Lord’s Prayer with anyone; however, mine is a spiritually unequal marriage and I can count the number of prayers together on my hands. That won’t stop me from praying though.
Heather, that’s really tough. I’m sorry about that. But God is faithful, and He does hear our prayers!
Relationships with passion are always better at communicating. Communication is a gift that we give each other each day! Along with heart felt listening! Thanks for another good article!