I’m speaking this weekend in beautiful Collingwood, Ontario, at the Blue Mountain Resort, with my husband for a Weekend to Remember conference.
The conferences are all over North America, put on by FamilyLife. And they’re awesome.
Tonight’s was on the five threats to marriage (done by Walt and Anne, the other speakers), and communication (done by Keith and me).
I want to give you one thought, told by Anne, that I thought was brilliant:
We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge our spouses by their actions. No wonder we think we’re better!
Isn’t that the truth? If we’re going to build a good marriage, it’s time to start being honest, and stop trying to achieve this 50/50 balance, where he does his part and I do mine. If you’re trying to get to 50/50, you’ll never achieve it, because you can’t honestly judge what you’re both doing. You’ll always overestimate yourself.
So instead, concentrate on being the best wife you can be!
Here’s me saying it (I was having a REALLY BAD HAIR DAY, so no comments on that, please):
Have a great weekend!
Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 25 years and happily married for 20! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
I love that quote by Anne! So true and important to remember, especially during times of conflict. Thanks for sharing. Hope you indeed have a Weekend to Remember! 🙂
So true! The quote and your comments shot right at me! Just what I needed to hear! God is giving me messages, including this one, which are what I need. My poor husband! Realizing my calling is to give him love! Thank you so much for speaking truth!
Love it! So true. Enjoy the weekend, Sheila.
Thanks, everybody! We’re having a great time (and just got home from date night!). I’m going to post today’s highlights in a minute!
For those of your readers on the other side of the Pond, these conferences are also orgainised by the Family Life division of Agape UK. Contact Mark and Christine Daniel at Agape UK for details.
I’m blessed so much. “We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge our spouses by their actions. No wonder we think we’re better!” I am a married woman, my husband work abroad, for the first 3 months of his work in Saudi, we have a good communication. A months followed, we kept on arguing and we had this time that we both argued in all matters. I’ve been so depressed, I’ve been so down. He is now giving up on our relationship. He is pointing always on the things I’ve done wrong, He is also judging my capability, everything in me that turns out I’m no good at all. That’s why when I surf the internet and find more courageous words to inspire me, I found your page and it inspires me and blessed me.