I am amazed by Anthony Weiner.
Have you heard that story? He’s a Congressman from New York who was caught sending lewd pictures of himself to a 21-year-old he hardly even knew on his Twitter stream. He denied it; claimed his account had been hacked; and then denied it some more. Then some more women came forward (some just high school seniors) to say they, too, had received such pictures. And so he confessed.
Here’s a man who is a Congressman. He’s got power, and money, and prestige. And he blows it by sending lewd pictures to young women.
Or there’s Arnold Schwarzenneggar, who just blew apart his marriage by admitting he fathered a child with the maid.
Or the head of the IMF near-raping a hotel maid.
Why do powerful men make such stupid mistakes? Why are they so sex-crazed that they would compromise all they have?
Yesterday, at his press conference, Weiner apparently said that his wife asked him “how he could be so stupid”. I’m sure that’s not all she asked him; I would have attacked him for doing it in the first place; getting caught is rather secondary to the whole issue. But it does seem as if these men take inordinate risks for various sexual thrills.
I don’t really have time to comment much on this today–I have to edit my book by next week, and I have a ton of work to do–but I just want to point out that for many men this is a HUGE temptation. HUGE. Big enough to bring down an entire career.
We can’t shut our eyes to this. We have to be aware of how big a weakness this is for many men. And know what your husband is doing! Be part of his whole life. So many married Christian guys are involved with porn, or strip clubs, or worse, because it is a huge temptation. Just know what he’s up to. Spend time with him. If he wants to be on the computer, do something in the same room as him. Don’t set up the computer in a private place in your house, where he can be alone. And if he has a notebook, just go with him to whatever room he’s in.
If he travels for business, call him and text him frequently. I don’t mean that you should spy; I only mean that if we’re heavily involved in our husbands’ lives, we can be a buffer for them so that it’s easier to withstand the weakness, if that makes any sense.
Not all guys are tempted by porn, but most are. Let’s not kid ourselves. So pray for your husband. Know what your husband is doing. Spend time together having fun. Talk with him frequently. And don’t live separate lives. Then things like this are far less likely to happen.