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We want to help YOU have these conversations with your kids–without them being so awkward! Introducing The Whole Story, our video-based course on sex, puberty and growing up, where Christian young people tell your kids what they need to know–and make it easy for YOU to continue those conversations. 

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Do you want to WANT sex again? This video course can help you discover that you’re not broken–and that you can unlock the key to desire!

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What if Christian pat answers about marriage are making your relationship worse?

Sometimes the way we THINK about marriage is what’s stopping us from having the relationship we dreamed of. In 9 Thoughts, I challenge you to think bigger and messier–and find real intimacy.

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Want to spice up your marriage and have some fun? Try our 24 Sexy Dares. They’re easy. They’re quick & cheap (or free) to do. But they’re unforgettable!

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