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Can We Deal with Mental Load Without Having a Contest of Who Has it Worse?

Jun 5, 2020 | Homemaking | 47 Comments

How does mental load affect stress? This week we've been talking on the blog about mental load and emotional labor, in three posts: What is emotional labor and mental load? The Fair Play solution Our podcast on mental load A bunch of you have sent me emails, and there...

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The Emotional Labor and Mental Load Podcast!

Jun 4, 2020 | Homemaking, Podcasts | 17 Comments

Emotional labor and mental load take their toll on a marriage--because they often exhaust the wife. So many women experience this, and yet we don't really have a name for it. We know something is wrong, we feel guilty because we dream of getting away for just a day,...

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Can We Pause and Just Lament Together?

Jun 3, 2020 | Grief | 84 Comments

What is happening in the United States right now, and around the world, is a wake up call and a time to lament. Yesterday I was on FaceTime with my oldest daughter Rebecca as she got her baby Alex out of his crib from a nap. He snuggled into her, and she was laughing...

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EMOTIONAL LABOR: How the Fair Play System Helps Share Mental Load

Jun 2, 2020 | Homemaking, Resolving Conflict | 29 Comments

How does the Fair Play system help you divide up mental load in marriage? We're just launching our June series about mental load, where we look at how to balance the mental work that goes into keeping the family together. Yesterday we looked at what mental load is,...

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THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: Let’s Talk Emotional Labor and Mental Load

Jun 1, 2020 | Homemaking | 97 Comments

Mental load and emotional labor make women exhausted. We're starting our mental load and marriage series today, where every Monday in the month of June (as well as a bunch of podcasts and some extra posts) we'll be focusing on how to balance the mental load and grow a...

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Perifit: The Video Game That Helps Your Pelvic Floor!

May 29, 2020 | Healthy Living, Making Sex Feel Good | 11 Comments

Thanks to Perifit for sponsoring today's post! We talk a lot on the blog about pelvic floor health, vaginismus, and postpartum sexual pain. Rebecca and Joanna (with whom I just finished writing The Great Sex Rescue, due out from Baker books next year!) both have had...

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Start Your Engines Podcast: Do You Rush Through Foreplay?

May 28, 2020 | Men's Corner, Podcasts | 18 Comments

Let's talk gender differences--and gender differences with foreplay! On the last Thursday of every month we like to do the podcast that's aimed more specifically at men (though women will enjoy it, too!). And this week Keith and I tackled the problem with overblowing...

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Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus?

May 27, 2020 | Men's Corner, Resolving Conflict | 90 Comments

Are we overblowing gender differences? Are men from Mars and women from Venus? It's Keith on the blog today for our men's corner! It seems you can’t go to a marriage conference, or read a book on marriage or even have a conversation about relationships without at some...

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9 Fast & Free Ways to Help Bloggers and Authors that You Love

May 26, 2020 | Sheila Snippets | 22 Comments

Did you know there are small things you can do--things that cost nothing--that can really help bloggers and content creators that you love? Because it was my 50th birthday yesterday, I feel like this may be a good time to post this (like, here's what you can get me...

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Sheila turns 50! A Thank You from Her Readers

May 25, 2020 | Sheila Snippets | 29 Comments

For those of you who don't get the weekly newsletter, Sheila's 50th birthday is today! In the Friday newsletter last week I (Rebecca) sent out a request for birthday wishes and wow--we got a lot! Sheila started this blog in 2008. That's twelve years of doing this....

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Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 25 years and happily married for 20! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.