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How to Bless an Engaged Couple: The Best Approach to Support their Marriage

Jun 17, 2019 | Preparing for Marriage | 2 Comments

How best can you help a couple you know to start marriage well? I've got to tell you--I really want people to feel passion! And so I write all of these posts trying to help people unravel marriage problems and get back to the passion, but it's occurred to...

What’s Your Favourite Part about Being a Dad?

Jun 14, 2019 | Parenting Small Children, Parenting Teenagers | 27 Comments

What's your favourite part about being a dad? That's what I asked dads this week on Facebook to give the men a chance to have a say as Father's Day is around the corner! To celebrate the awesome dads in our lives, I thought we'd do a round-up of some of...

PODCAST: Aiming for Arousal, Questions about Masturbation, and More!

Jun 13, 2019 | Podcasts, Sex | 12 Comments

It's time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! I hope you all will listen, but if you don't have time, I'll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can read all you want as well! And consider this podcast "extras". If you want...

Preparing for the Wedding Night: 4 Reasons Sex Often Goes Badly!

Jun 12, 2019 | Preparing for Marriage | 21 Comments

If you're a Christian preparing for your wedding night, likely sex is the biggest thing on your mind. I know it was for me. Like, seriously. That's the whole point, right? For couples who are saving sex until marriage, your first time on your wedding night...

10 Things to Know to Plan the Perfect Honeymoon

Jun 11, 2019 | Preparing for Marriage | 21 Comments

We're told our whole lives, "The honeymoon is the most glorious time of your life!" And so we want to have the perfect honeymoon. It's part of that whole perfect wedding package--you'll go off into the sunset with your beloved, and you'll make mad passionate love and...

The Honeymoon Course: Let’s Start Marriage (And Sex) Well!

Jun 10, 2019 | Preparing for Marriage | 5 Comments

My wedding night was a big disaster. Sex hurt; it was awkward; and I felt so guilty about it that I rushed things when we really should have slowed down. Before I was married I was given a book that was all about how to reach orgasm on your wedding night. It was all,...

Non-Sexual Touch: It’s a Thing and We Need It

Jun 7, 2019 | Spending Time Together | 10 Comments

Not all touch needs to be sexual. We need non-sexual touch in our marriages! Thanks so much to Melt Massage for sponsoring this post! This past April, the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum team went to Mont Tremblant for a Family Life Marriage conference. Many of...

PODCAST: Keith Jokes Around, Awkward Newlyweds, and More!

Jun 6, 2019 | Podcasts | 14 Comments

Keith's joining me for part of today's To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! A number of you said that you wanted to hear more from him, so we decided to record at night when he was home. You'll get a sense of what we're like together--we were kind of joking...

Finding the Root Cause of Marriage Problems Using the 5 Whys

Jun 5, 2019 | Resolving Conflict | 13 Comments

Why are you feeling distant in your marriage? What if asking "why" five times in a row, based on the answers you were given, could reveal the root problem? Lately I've been critiquing the way that some churches do marriage counseling. I want to get away...

98 Ways Women Can Sin Against their Husbands–Without Knowing It

Jun 4, 2019 | Theology of Marriage and Sex | 77 Comments

Sometimes marriage counselling goes very, very badly--especially if it's focused on making sure women don't sin against their husbands, rather than focused on building oneness and intimacy. Allow me to tell a story that unfolded last week and took a ton of my...

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Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 25 years and happily married for 20! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.