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Join 46,000 others who have decided that having a “blah” marriage just isn’t enough!

“Sheila taught me that sex in marriage is a great thing- not something that is just OK and that you have to do, like my mother told me.” – Blog Reader

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What if Great Sex Was Just 31 Days Away?

You and your spouse + 31 days of awesome challenges = one hot marriage!

Get out of a rut. Reignite your sex life. Discover real fireworks!

“It’s a new way of exploring and having fun!” — Reader, married 18 years

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Stressed out about "The Talk"?

We want to help YOU have these conversations with your kids–without them being so awkward! Introducing The Whole Story, our video-based course on sex, puberty and growing up, where Christian young people tell your kids what they need to know–and make it easy for YOU to continue those conversations. 

“My daughters and I are all loving (especially me!) how easy and how thorough it makes everything. It’s so fun and accessible!” – Course Student

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Feel like you're missing what God made sex to be?

It’s your complete guide to making sex awesome–physically, emotionally, AND spiritually. The go-to-guide for every woman.

“…so beautiful and freeing!” – Reader

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Is Your Libido Sub-Zero?

Do you want to WANT sex again? This video course can help you discover that you’re not broken–and that you can unlock the key to desire!

“This course was an answer to prayer!” – S.

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What if Christian pat answers about marriage are making your relationship worse?

Sometimes the way we THINK about marriage is what’s stopping us from having the relationship we dreamed of. In 9 Thoughts, I challenge you to think bigger and messier–and find real intimacy.

“This is my favorite of all your books!” – Maria

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They're Spicy. There's 24 of Them. What's not to like?

Want to spice up your marriage and have some fun? Try our 24 Sexy Dares. They’re easy. They’re quick & cheap (or free) to do. But they’re unforgettable!

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A Real MIshMash of Podcasts for the Week!

We're taking the month of July off of The Bare Marriage podcast, but I've got some other podcasts to share with you today. Until July, when I've tried to give myself time to slow down, I've been...

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Can Christians Use Sex Toys?

Today I want to revisit a rather controversial topic. Except "want" is really not the right word. I'd love to run as far away from this one as possible. But I keep being asked about sex toys, and I...

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Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love

What do you do if your husband doesn't want to make love? That's such a lonely place to be in a marriage--but it's far more common than we might normally think. When we were conducting the research...

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Meet the To Love, Honor and Vacuum Team

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Sheila Wray Gregoire

Founder of To Love, Honor and Vacuum

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Content Creation & Project Management

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Newsletters & Research

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Keith Gregoire

Contributor & Podcast Guest

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Connor Lindenbach

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