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The Search for Intimacy: When Your Husband Doesn’t Care About Your Emotional Needs

Nov 14, 2018 | communication, intimacy | 13 Comments

Do you feel like your husband doesn't care about your emotional needs? This month, on Wednesdays, we're talking about intimacy on three levels--emotional, spiritual, and physical, and how we can feel closer. Last Wednesday I introduced our theme for the...

10 Reasons Why Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

Nov 13, 2018 | libido, Sex | 53 Comments

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys, and the most common problem I hear about is, "my wife never wants sex!" So today I want to present 10 of the most common reasons I've come across why a woman may say "no". If you're one of my...

Reader Question: My Wife Says We Never Make Love

Nov 12, 2018 | intimacy, romance | 3 Comments

What does it mean if your wife says you never make love? Every Monday I like to film an "Ask Sheila" video, and today's is a sad one from a husband whose wife doesn't want sex--and who feels that they are drifting apart. He writes: My wife and I married 18 years ago....

Enthusiasm: The Secret Ingredient to Intimacy

Nov 9, 2018 | communication, intimacy | 4 Comments

Looking for a great gift to give to an engaged couple that will help them get spiritually prepared for marriage? Are you half of an engaged couple and want to enter marriage prayerfully and thoughtfully? Gary Thomas’ newest book, Preparing Your...

What a Harvard Study Tells Us About the Only Real Way to Find Happiness

Nov 7, 2018 | friendship, spending time together | 10 Comments

"If you were to invest now in your future best self, where would you put your time and your energy?" That's the question Robert Wadlinger asks in this awesome TED Talk about happiness. In my quest to THINK more and VEG less, I've been trying to replace...

10 Reasons to NOT Kiss Dating Goodbye

Nov 6, 2018 | culture, romance | 31 Comments

I didn't grow up in the "I Kissed Dating GoodBye" culture, but my kids did. I made Rebecca read the book when she was 14 (sorry, Becca!). I told the girls no dating until they were at least 16, and I strongly discouraged it until later. Over the years, as...

Ask Sheila: My Long Distance Boyfriend Won’t Propose

Nov 5, 2018 | preparing for marriage | 19 Comments

What do you do if you've been dating someone for a long time--but he won't propose? On Mondays I like to take a reader question and take a stab at answering it, and today's is from a woman who has been dating a guy seriously for quite a few years--and who...

What Do I Do if My Husband is a Workaholic?

Nov 2, 2018 | resolving conflict, working | 16 Comments

How do you deal with a husband who is a workaholic? This month on the blog we're going to be talking about intimacy, and how to build your relationship so you feel closer. All the Wednesdays will be dedicated to different aspects of intimacy! Yesterday I...

When Your Spouse Changes: Is Your Marriage Indivisible?

Nov 1, 2018 | communication, resolving conflict | 31 Comments

How do you stay close if your spouse goes through something really tough--and seems to change because of it? With thanks to Harper Collins for sponsoring this post on behalf of the Indivisible movie. "I stopped by the English department today," Keith told...

Which Birth Control Method Should YOU Choose?

Oct 31, 2018 | Sex | 13 Comments

Now that you know all about the different birth control methods--how can you figure out which one is right for you? Here at To Love, Honor and Vacuum, I try to pick a big topic to tackle every Wednesday each month, and this month has been our birth control...

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Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 25 years and happily married for 20! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.