Top 10 March Posts and Products

Christian marriage blog: Top 10 Posts It’s Top 10 Tuesday, and today I thought I’d post the top trending things on this site from March–both the top posts and the top products!

Today I’m going to start with the top 5 posts that were published in March, and then the top 5 older posts (the big ones from this blog). If you read one of these posts and like it, I’d so appreciate you sharing them on Facebook or Pinterest! They’re good ones, and I’d love for even more people to see them.

Top 5 Posts from March

February was the biggest month I had ever had here on To Love, Honor and Vacuum–until March came along. I had almost three quarters of a million people on this blog last month! And here’s what they were reading:

Top 10 Effects of Porn on Your Marriage and Sex Life1. Top 10 Effects of Porn on Your Marriage and Sex Life. I’m so glad this got a lot of traction, because I’m totally PASSIONATE about this post. I want more people to realize that Porn is Not Harmless! I’ve got a great new graphic up to share at the bottom of the post, so head on over and pin it!

2. Screwtape Writes About an Exhausted Mom. Thanks to Kelsey from Organizing Life with Littles for this awesome guest post, warning us to keep our eyes open for attacks.

3. Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Yeah, this one was kinda fun!

4. Sexual Options Beyond Intercourse. Great guest post from Julie from Intimacy in Marriage. Thank you!

5. Marriage in Africa vs. Marriage in North America. Thanks to Ngina for this great look at her native Kenya vs. her new home in America. Some awesome insights we can all learn from!

Top 5 Posts from Earlier in the Blog

Often the same posts tend to be my biggest traffic generators, though this month we have a Valentine’s Day addition. If you haven’t read them, do click through. These are the posts I’m most well-known for!

7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage1. Why I Didn’t Rebel. My 19-year-old shares why she thinks she didn’t rebel. She’s not claiming that if you do these things your kids are guaranteed NOT to rebel; she’s trying to dispel the myth that all teens WILL rebel. What she wrote brought tears to my eyes.

2. The 50 Best Bible Verses to Memorize. Make it a habit to learn one verse a week for a year.

3. 7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage. I just signed a contract with Waterbrook for a new book based on this blog post! It should be out September 2015.

4. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. Choose 1-2 to start doing today!

5. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love? It’s one of the most common searches that lands people here at this blog.

So there you go–my top 10 posts. My Bible verses post has ALWAYS been my top post–until February when Why I Didn’t Rebel beat it. And it beat it again!

And I do so appreciate it when you all share stuff. The only way I get known better is when people choose to share my posts, so I do want to say thank you, especially after this great month. It’s very humbling, and it’s so neat to see what God is doing–especially with my daughters’ words.

Now I want to share with you another Top 10:

The Top 10 Products Purchased at My Store

31 Days to Great Sex1. 31 Days to Great Sex (ebook edition) It’s such a fun one to work through with your husband! I’ve sold over 10,000 copies now.

2. 50 Best Bible Verses to Memorize Printables (available in both ESV and NKJV). Here’s the list of the best Bible Verses to memorize that the cards are based on.

3. 50 Best Bible Verses to Memorize Printed Out and Mailed

4. Deck of Dares–want to spice up your marriage? Here’s a really fun way!

5. How Big is Your Umbrella. When you’re going through rough times, it’s my short book of the things you yell at God when life is tough, and what He whispers back. Based on a weekend retreat that I often give. You can also get it in ebook format!

6. 31 Days to Great Sex (paperback)

7. The Sex Savvy Wife ebook. Written by J from Hot, Holy and Humorous, it’s everything you ever wanted to know about sex to make it work great!

8. The Talk(s). Want to keep a great relationship with your kids so that they make good decisions about the opposite sex? Here’s an awesome book that helps you do just that!

9. Crafting an Effective Signature Talk. Did you know that I have a whole line of products to help Christian speakers grow their ministry? Here’s my most popular download on how to create a great talk.

10. The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. I don’t sell a lot of these because quite frankly it’s cheaper to buy them on Amazon when the postage isn’t as much (I have to mail from Canada). But some people do like autographed copies! :)

So there you go! If you haven’t stopped by my store in a while, go check it out! I’ve got lots there to help you build your marriage–and your speaking ministry.

Top 10 February Posts

Christian marriage blog: Top 10 Posts It’s Top 10 Tuesday, and today I thought I’d list the top 10 posts from February, to make sure you didn’t miss any good ones!

I like to think of To Love, Honor and Vacuum as a Christian marriage blog–where I share marriage and parenting advice from a Christian perspective. And I’m always thrilled when a post takes off and gets tons of attention, because I do want some Christian advice to make it into the mainstream.

Today I’m going to start with the top 5 posts that were published in February, and then the top 5 posts that were published before February. If you read one of these posts and like it, I’d so appreciate you sharing them on Facebook or Pinterest! They’re good ones, and I’d love for even more people to see them.

Top 5 Posts from February

February was the biggest month I’ve ever had here on To Love, Honor and Vacuum–and it was largely due to my daughters! (Thanks, Becca and Katie). My top two posts of the month were ones that they wrote. It was so neat to see their faces on my sidebar this weekend! And here they are:

Trending Posts with Girls1. Why I Didn’t Rebel. My 19-year-old shares why she thinks she didn’t rebel. She’s not claiming that if you do these things your kids are guaranteed NOT to rebel; she’s trying to dispel the myth that all teens WILL rebel. What she wrote brought tears to my eyes.

2. Why I’m Not Dating in High School. My 16-year-old shared a video on why she’s chosen not to date right now. Keep sharing it–especially with any youth pastors you know!

3. Top 10 Ways to Discipline without Spanking. I really liked this one–and I’m glad you all liked it, too!

4. 5 Ways to Let Him Know you Enjoy Sex. Thanks to J from Hot, Holy and Humorous for this guest post!

5. Top 10 Cheap Date Nights for Parents of Young Kids. 5 Date Night Ideas out, and 5 Date Night Ideas in. Thanks to Leigh Ann from Intentional by Grace for this guest post, too!

Top 5 Posts from Earlier in the Blog

Often the same posts tend to be my biggest traffic generators, though this month we have a Valentine’s Day addition. If you haven’t read them, do click through. These are the posts I’m most well-known for!

Valentine's Day Gifts for Your Husband1. Valentine’s Day Gifts for Your Husband. Pin it for next year!

2. The 50 Best Bible Verses to Memorize. Make it a habit to learn one verse a week for a year.

3. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. Choose 1-2 to start doing today!

4. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love? It’s one of the most common searches that lands people here at this blog.

5. 50 Best Marriage Quotations of 2011. With great quotes from all kinds of marriage bloggers!

So there you go–my top 10 posts. This was the first month ever where I had not one but TWO posts which beat out my Bible verses post. My Bible verses post is ALWAYS my top post, but this month Why I Didn’t Rebel and Valentine’s Day Gifts beat it. Neat to see stuff getting shared!

And I do so appreciate it when you all share stuff. The only way I get known better is when people choose to share my posts, so I do want to say thank you, especially after this great month. It’s very humbling, and it’s so neat to see what God is doing–especially with my daughters’ words.

Top Ten Posts of 2013

Best Christian Marriage Posts of 2013

On Tuesdays in 2014 I’m starting a new feature: Top 10 Tuesdays, where I’ll be publishing a list of something. I want it to be more of a “fun” day, so we’ll have Top 10 kisses, top 10 ways to make sex feel great, or even more innocuous things, like top 10 marriage novels.

I thought, then, that today would be a great day to launch it, with the Top 10 Posts of 2013. These are the ones that were read and shared the most, and if you missed any, check them out!

Here’s how you can really help me: If you find any that you particularly like, could you “pin” them or share them on Facebook? That’s how I get most of my new readers, and I’d love to reach more people with my marriage affirming message! Thank you!

Top 10 Posts of 2013 from this Marriage Blog

1. 7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage (psst: I’m signing a contract as we speak to turn this one into a book!)

2. Top 50 Most Romantic Movies You all helped me to choose these!

3. 2 Player Games to Play with Your Husband

4. 25 Quick Ways to Show Your Husband Love These really do work. Choose a few today!

5. Sexy Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband (Pin this one for next year!)

6. My Husband Doesn’t Find Me Attractive–A Round Up I get a lot of traffic from Google for this one, from women who are quite sad. It is a difficult situation.

7. My Husband Plays Video Games Too Much

8. Why is it So Hard to Say Yes to Sex? If you find sex a hassle, here’s some encouragement for you.

9. Is Masturbation in Marriage Wrong? This post is popular almost entirely because of search engine traffic. What a difficult situation so many spouses are in, if their wife/husband prefers masturbation to sex. Here are some thoughts.

10. How Technology Threatens Marriages I liked this column. I think you will, too!

Top 10 Posts Overall for 2013

Only one of these posts was actually written in 2013, but these are the top posts for this blog for this year. Most of them have gone viral on Pinterest, so that’s why they’re so popular! If you don’t follow me on Pinterest yet, please do! I share a lot of great marriage stuff there.

1. 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize Now that the New Year is here, why not start working through these?

2. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband

3. Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband (Pin this one for next year!)

4. 7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage (from 2013!)

5. How to Stop Temper Tantrums Before They Start This one went totally viral on Pinterest recently. It really does sum up my parenting philosophy. Instead of focusing so much on discipline, let’s just engage our kids.

6. 7 Steps to Raising a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young And I’ve written a more recent follow-up to that post, now that my girls have gone through a lot of the teen years, here.

7. 50 Best Marriage Quotes of 2011

8. 29 Days to Great Sex Day 1: The Act of Marriage (now’s a great time to start the 29 day challenge! Or pick up my ebook for the more in-depth and expanded 31 Day option, written for couples, not just addressed to the wife)

9. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love? Another post that people read mostly from arriving from search engines. If your husband has a low libido, and seems to always reject sex, you can feel so alone. Here’s the first in a four-part series I wrote about it.

10. 25 Marriage Tips It’s a fun one!

I hope you enjoy these! Thanks so much for being part of my blogging community in 2013, and I hope to bring you lots more great content in 2014!

Happy New Year!

Did You Miss These Posts? Top 10 Posts for May!

Top 10 Marriage PostsI did it! I pulled off a surprise 70th birthday party for my mom last night. I’ll tell you all about it later this week (with pictures) in case any of you ever want to try it, too. But boy am I tired!

Anyway, because I’m a little exhausted I thought I’d run a Top 10 post today. I love seeing which posts actually get traffic, and, of course, some of these you may have missed.

Now, many of my most popular posts are older ones that have been pinned a lot, or that rank high on search engines, so we’ll do the Top 10 Older Posts first, and then the Top 10 that were actually written in May.

Top 10 Posts Overall

1. 50 Best Bible Verses to Memorize
2. 50 Most Romantic Chick Flicks
3. 16 Ways to Flirt with your Husband (29 Days to Great Sex Day 10)
4. 50 Best Marriage Quotes of 2011
5. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love?
6. Act of Marriage (29 Days to Great Sex Day 1)
7. 7 Steps to Raising a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young
8. 7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage
9. 25 Marriage Tips
10. 14 Ways to Play as a Couple (29 Days to Great Sex Day 8)

And here are the Top 10 Posts from May! Be sure you didn’t miss any:

1. Reader Question: My Husband Wants Something in Bed I Think is Gross
2. Avoiding Disappointment this Mother’s Day
3. What are Your Trigger Points for Conflict?
4. What if My Husband Doesn’t Find Me Attractive Reader Question Round Up
5. Wifey Wednesday: I Have No Libido
6. 3 Steps to Amazing Sex if You’re Remarried
7. Wifey Wednesday: What is Real Intimacy?
8. Reader Question: I have no one to talk to about my marriage
9. Reader Question: How much is reasonable to expect from your spouse?
10. Wifey Wednesday: When Your Past Hurts Impact Your Marital Battles

Some interesting things I’ve noticed: It used to be that my Wifey Wednesday posts dominated the top 10. They’re still there, but it looks like people really like the Reader Questions now that I’m doing most of the answering. So that’s awesome! I’ll keep up that feature. May was the month that I changed the Reader Question so that I now give my answer to the question before asking you all to chime in (I used to just make it a free for all). Obviously people are enjoying that more! So I’ll keep that up.

It also looks like the guest posts I published in May were among the most popular, too. I just love my fellow marriage bloggers, and I’m so glad I can showcase them on this blog every now and then.

Thanks so much for reading this blog! It means so much to me that so many of you show up here everyday. I hope and pray I continue to encourage and challenge you.

Top 10 Posts for February

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Hi all!

I know many of you are newer readers, and so you may have missed some posts last month. And many of you are occasional readers, and really want to focus on “the best”. So every now and then I like to post the top posts from the previous month.

I think I’ll take it one step further, though, and talk about some posts that have also been “rediscovered”. One of the things I like every morning is sitting in my robe, sipping hot chocolate, and checking which older posts that I had forgotten about got “pinned” overnight. And sure enough, this week some great ones did! There’s Women Are Not Like Slow Cookers (so true!) and My Rather Imperfect Home. They’re fun! Check them out.

As for the top trafficked posts, I’ll post the top ten overall, and then the top five that were written in February. I have some older posts that are always really popular, so if I just posted “the top 10 posts from February” it would be the same list just about every month. So I like to do two lists: one overall, and one list of the new stuff.

We’ll start with the Top 10 Overall for February:

1. 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize. I really love this post! If you’ve ever wanted to start memorizing, but didn’t know where to start, here are my 50 favorites–one a week for a year. Start today, and in a year you’ll know 50 verses! I’ve also just created some printables where you can print them out as little verse cards. (all proceeds to our next missions trip to Kenya!)
2. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. It was part of my 29 days to great sex series (and it’s expanded in the 31 Days to Great Sex!)
3. 7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage. Yay! This one made both lists. My most viral post since #2. I think #1 Thought is my favorite.
4. 7 Steps to Raising a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young. Pinterest is responsible for this one being so popular! It gets pinned a ton.
5. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love? This one is popular not because it’s been pinned (it really hasn’t) but because it’s the most common search that lands people here. This is a huge problem for many of you reading this blog, and I do understand.
6. 29 Days to Great Sex Day One: The Act of Marriage. If you’ve never worked through this series, you can! And the 31 Days to Great Sex is expanded, and written just for couples. Take it to the next level!
7. 25 Marriage Tips. Love this post!
8. 14 Ways to Play as a Couple. Part of the 29 days series.
9. 50 Best Marriage Quotes of 2011. A big search engine favorite! And a great way to discover other marriage bloggers.
10. How to Have an Orgasm. Another post from the 29 days series. And there’s lots more on this topic in The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

Now, what about posts written just in February?

1. 7 Thoughts That Will Change a Marriage. It made both lists!
2. 10 Not so Helpful Things to do For Your Spouse. A great guest post.
3. A Valentine’s Day He’ll Love. Let’s not stop trying to woo him!
4. What Is Real Intimacy? So important to understand.
5. When Your Husband Says His Porn Addiction Isn’t About You. So many women are walking through this; this post may help clarify some things.

What’s Coming:

This Sunday I’m launching a new monthly feature–I’ll be doing a HUGE giveaway! Three different items are up for giveaway, and you can see them on the right sidebar. Come on back next week to enter.

Facebook Highlights:

We’ve had plenty of great discussions on the Facebook Page this month, too.

1. Last night I asked: What can an engaged couple do to withstand temptation?
2. Earlier I asked, A reader says, “our sex life is stressful because we’re trying to get pregnant (to no avail). What can we do to make it less stressful?”

Travel:

I’m heading off to Minneapolis next week to talk to two different churches about marriage and sex! So excited. If you think your church would be interested in having me (it’s a great night with laughter and lots of practical information), contact me here.

Remember to follow me on Pinterest and on Facebook to keep up with everything! And if you can all do me a favor? If there was one post in those lists that really stood out to you, please share it on Facebook or Pinterest or Twitter! Thank you so much.

2012 in Review

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Happy New Year, everyone! I’m spending the day relaxing with some friends and playing games and then welcoming in the new year.

So I thought it was a good opportunity to look back over 2012.

2012 was a huge year for this blog! I had over 7,000,000 page views, which is astonishing. Last February I launched the 29 Days to Great Sex and pretty much my top 29 posts for the year were all from that series. I am so, so amazed that it helped so many people. I just love getting emails from people working through it, and I will keep it up in perpetuity in prayers that it continues to help couples.

Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

Still 30% off at Amazon!

Then in March The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex was finally published. I am so happy with that book. It’s what I wish someone had given me when I was first married, and I’m so happy that it’s becoming a resource of choice for so many churches when couples get married. If we could start off our marriage together on the right foot, we’d avoid so many other marriage problems!

My traffic continued to grow throughout the year, leading up to November when I published the 31 Days to Great Sex, an ebook based on my blog series (though much more in-depth).

I know, therefore, that many of my readers haven’t been around for the whole year. You’ve stumbled onto the blog at various times, and many of you are new to me. So I thought it may be a good time to do a year in review, introduce myself again, and give you my top 10 posts!

Top 10 Posts of 2012

Here are the top 10 posts that were written in 2012. I had other posts that were just as popular but older (like this one about the 50 best Bible verses to memorize), but here are the posts written this year that had the most readers.

1. 29 Days to Great Sex
All of them. They beat out every single other post this year. If I were to post an actual “top 10″ list it would be all posts from this series, but instead I’ll just lump them in as the top post. Go check it out–or pick up the ebook!

2. How to Deal with a Husband’s Pornography Use: A Man’s Perspective
This post took on a life of its own. It was actually based on a comment that an anonymous man made on a previous post asking Is Porn Cheating (which also made the top 10, but I’m going to combine it here since it was a series)? I thought the comment was so insightful that it warranted its own post. And so many women show up on that post after searching in Google for what to do if their husbands use pornography. My hearts go out to women in that situation, and I hope that post, along with some others I’ve written this year, help.

3. The 50 Best Marriage Quotes of 2011
I forgot how popular this post was! Last year I pulled 50 quotes from different marriage bloggers and put them together in one post. I think I may do that again next week!

4. Why 50 Shades of Grey is Bad for Your Marriage
Here’s the post that first landed me on the Huffington Post webinar! I started writing about why this whole trend towards women’s erotica can be very damaging to marriages. It isn’t harmless. Here’s why.

5. Stocking Stuffers for Your Husband
I put this post together last month, and I’m so thankful so many of you passed it around! I’ll have to put it up again next December.

6. Why Doesn’t My Husband Want to Make Love?
It’s the most common question I get. We tend to think that it’s the man in the marriage who has the higher sex drive, but in between 25%-30% of marriages it’s actually the woman. And many of these women are quite desperate, because their husbands have shut them out sexually entirely. I wrote a series on how to deal with this last March, and here’s the first post, with links to the others.

7. Why Kindles Can Wreck Your Marriage
Another look at the problems with women’s erotica.

8. What To Do When You Discover Your Husband’s Having an Affair
This post was actually a Reader Question of the Week, and so many of you chimed in and gave some great thoughts! I started the Reader Question feature earlier this year, and I’ve really enjoyed it. Often the wisdom that’s in a group of people is much better than just my thoughts.

9. Men: Here’s What I Wish I Could Say to You About Sex
I went on a bit of a rant in this one. I get so many emails from women who are just at their wits’ end, and I guess I was in a bit of a snit when I typed this post. But boy did it get shared! I think I hit some nerves, as you will see if you read the comments.

10. Why Your Husband Won’t Meet Your Needs
So #9 was a rant to guys. #10 is my rant to women. I like to be an equal opportunity ranter. So if you’re feeling distant in your marriage, you may want to read this. I’ll duck if afterwards you want to throw tomatoes at me.

Posts That I Loved

Those were the ones that had the most readers–often because they were shared on Pinterest or Facebook, or they had high Google rankings. But here are some that I wrote that I really like.

God Is Not Your Red Bull.
Short but sweet. :)

What Does Submission in Marriage Mean?
I take on a common thread I see in a lot of Christian books: that if wives are suffering, we’re closer to God. Nope. Bad theology. Here’s why.

My 7 Pet Peeves about Worship Music in Church
Sometimes I just have to rant about something other than marriage!

Insights Into My Life

T-Shirts vs. Sheets: The Control Freak Rises Again
Here’s a look inside my linen closet. My oldest daughter comes along!

Sex Is Emotional, Whether We Admit it Or Not
My reflections after a Huffington Post webinar. If you want to know what it’s like always blogging about marriage & sex in a rather pornographic culture, here are some of  my struggles.

Be Great Parents. Gross Out Your Kids.
I shared this photo on Facebook and it was shared about 20,000 times to date. I love it! So here’s Keith and me, as we’re scarring our youngest daughter for life (she had to take the photo).

Why I Blog. And Why I’m Done with Marketing
I had a mini-meltdown online in October. I just couldn’t take the negative comments anymore. It ended up being one of the best things, though, because I really wrestled it out with God about what I should be doing. And God showed up.

How God Used Poison Ivy
I tell a story of a friend of mine, and weave it into what I’ve learned from my son’s death and some of the harder things in my life.

Turning Junk Into Something Beautiful
Want to see something I knit? Here’s a blanket–with a story.

An Outhouse, -20, and a Ton of Fun!
What my family did on a very weird winter vacation. With pictures!

Other Insights Into My Life

If you really want to see funny things about my life, though, do join my Facebook Page! I post shorter things there, along with more pictures! And don’t forget to follow me on Pinterest, too.

Top Posts for October–And a Giveaway!

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Every month I try to post the top posts from the month before, because I know you all may miss some posts, and, of course, I have lots of new readers!

This was a strange month on the blog because I had a mini-meltdown and threatened to quit. I was absolutely overwhelmed with your lovely comments and encouragement, and it totally changed my whole mindset and made me rethink my purpose. A very difficult thing to go through, but it’s often in the wrestling that we really grow. So thank you!

Now, often my top posts are older ones that get “pinned” a lot. So I’ll do the top 5 posts by traffic last month, and the top 5 posts that were actually written in October. Make sure you didn’t miss any of these good ones!

First, the new ones:

Top 5 Posts Written in October

1. Bloggers are People, Too. Perhaps not surprisingly, my mini-meltdown got top billing!
2. 7 Ways Hollywood Messes up our Sex Lives. I liked this post! I’m glad you all did, too.
3. Revive Your Marriage: Revive Your Sex Life. The last post in our revive your marriage series got the most hits!
4. Do Not Deprive Each Other series: What Does Regular Sex Mean? The second post of my three-part “do not deprive” series on 1 Corinthians 7:5 was the most popular. Interesting, because I liked the third one better.
5. On Piercings, Tongue Rings, and More. The post that caused all the controversy (and inadvertently caused my mini-meltdown).

Now, the older top 5:

Top 5 Posts from October Overall

1. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. I do love this post, and apparently other people do, too!
2. The 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize. If you’ve always wanted to memorize Scripture, here’s a great place to start. According to what I see on Pinterest, people are even using this list as a jump-start to print out verses and hang on their walls. Awesome idea!
3. 7 Ways to Raise a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young. This one was pinned a ton on Pinterest this month, and so received new interest.
4. 29 Days to Great Sex: The Act of Marriage. It’s Day One of the 29 Days to Great Sex! If you haven’t worked through it with your husband, why not start now? And great news for those of you who already worked through 29 Days to Great Sex: I’m launching an ebook version of it at the end of October, with more challenges, and more for HIM, too!
5. 14 Ways to Play as a Couple. Lots of fun ideas here to add laughter into your marriage!

This was the first month when a new post made the top 5, so that was kind of interesting.

Now, a couple more cool things.

Living the Sweet Life is hosting a giveaway of my book The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex. Head on over to win! The giveaway ends tonight.

And here’s my top video of the month, for those who haven’t seen it. Please share on Facebook or Pin it, too!

Now tell me in the comments, what did you like this month? Or even more importantly, what else would you like me to write about? I’m always open to suggestions!

Top Posts for September–and a Giveaway!

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In September I had so many new readers sign up. And I know that not all of my regular readers can make it here everyday! So at the beginning of the month I like to post links to the top posts from the previous month.

Now, often my top posts are older ones that get “pinned” a lot. So I’ll do the top 5 posts by traffic last month, and the top 5 posts that were actually written in September. Make sure you didn’t miss any of these good ones!

First, the new ones:

Top 5 Posts Written in September

1. Why He Won’t Meet Your Needs (hey, this one made the top 5 overall, too, plus it was a new one!). It’s bound to step on some toes, but I really think it’s true.
2. Revive Your Marriage: Revive Your Prayers for Your Husband. In September I participated in Revive Your Marriage month with 3 awesome bloggers, and this was the most popular of all the posts!
3. Revive Your Marriage: Revive Your Attitude. The first in our series, about how to change the way you think in marriage. Such an important post!
4. Emotional Affairs: The Dangers are Real. A guest post that packed a punch.
5. Do We Expect More of Our Christian Teens than we Expect of Ourselves? A controversial post with a lot of discussion in the comments! The only parenting post to make it this month to the top 5!

Now, the older top 5:

Top 5 Posts from September

1. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. I do love this post, and apparently other people do, too!
2. The 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize. If you’ve always wanted to memorize Scripture, here’s a great place to start. According to what I see on Pinterest, people are even using this list as a jump-start to print out verses and hang on their walls. Awesome idea!
3. 29 Days to Great Sex: The Act of Marriage. It’s Day One of the 29 Days to Great Sex! If you haven’t worked through it with your husband, why not start now? And great news for those of you who already worked through 29 Days to Great Sex: I’m launching an ebook version of it at the end of October, with more challenges, and more for HIM, too!
4. 14 Ways to Play as a Couple. Lots of fun ideas here to add laughter into your marriage!
5. How to Have an Orgasm. Okay, this one isn’t pinned as much (people don’t like to share it), but it’s still really popular!

This month the only changes were that #4 and #5 switched places!

Now, a couple more cool things.

Courtney at Women Living Well is giving away a copy of The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex, and the Time Warp Wife’s The Good Wife’s Guide. Head on over to enter to win!

And here’s my top video of the month, for those who haven’t seen it. Please share on Facebook or Pin it, too!

Thanks for hanging out with me. I really appreciate my faithful readers. And just so you know, my blog has gone from 12,000 viewers a month a year ago to 300,000 now. So you’re all helping me so much! And if you can keep spreading the word, that would be awesome!

Now tell me in the comments, what did you like this month? Or even more importantly, what else would you like me to write about? I’m always open to suggestions!

Top Ten Posts for August

'Trophies' photo (c) 2008, terren in Virginia - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/

I so appreciate all my faithful readers! It’s been fun getting to know many of you through the comments and the Facebook Page. But I’d also like to welcome my new readers, and point out some posts that you may not have seen yet. July and August were my biggest months yet, with 300,000 visitors each month! That’s awesome! So if you’re relatively new, take a look and see if you’ve read these posts. And if you’re a regular, but you were on vacation in August like I was, you may have missed some of these.

Now, often my top posts are older ones that get “pinned” a lot. So I’ll do the top 5 posts by traffic last month, regardless of when they were written, and the top 5 posts that were actually written in August. Make sure you didn’t miss any of these good ones!

First, the new ones:

Top 5 Posts Written in August

1. Wifey Wednesday: Stop the Urge to Correct Him! A great guest post that made many women say, “Ouch!”
2. Sex Should be Mutual. A rather controversial post about how sex should have give and take–and thus a husband should recognize and be okay with occasional times when a woman just can’t.
3. Submission Doesn’t Mean Lying Over and Taking It. My post about submission, abuse, and Debi Pearl’s book. I’m actually surprised this one didn’t rank higher, but I think it’s because the post was right at the end of the month, and so the traffic from the few days after doesn’t count because it was in September!
4. Reader Question: Can You Get Over Adultery? Great thoughts from you great readers!
5. Is Honesty Always the Best Policy? Great comments on this one, too, concerning whether it’s good to confess absolutely everything to your husband.

Now, the overall top 5:

Top 5 Posts from August

1. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. I do love this post, and apparently other people do, too!
2. The 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize. If you’ve always wanted to memorize Scripture, here’s a great place to start. And now that the new school year has started, why don’t you try to begin a new habit now?
3. 29 Days to Great Sex: The Act of Marriage. It’s Day One of the 29 Days to Great Sex! If you haven’t worked through it with your husband, why not start now? And great news for those of you who already worked through 29 Days to Great Sex: I’m launching an ebook version of it at the end of September, with more challenges, and more for HIM, too!
4. How to Have an Orgasm. Okay, this one isn’t pinned as much (people don’t like to share it), but it’s still really popular!
5. 14 Ways to Play as a Couple. Lots of fun ideas here to add laughter into your marriage!

There you go! My top 10 posts from last month. If you particularly like any of these, share one on Facebook or Pinterest for me? Thanks!

Top Ten Posts for July

'Trophies' photo (c) 2008, terren in Virginia - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/

I so appreciate all my faithful readers! Thanks for coming back, and for all the encouraging emails you send! But I’d also like to welcome my new readers, and point out some posts that you may not have seen yet. July was my biggest month ever, with over 300,000 unique visitors. That’s awesome! So if you’re relatively new, take a look and see if you’ve read these posts. And if you’re a regular, you won’t want to miss these!

Now, often my top posts are older ones that get “pinned” a lot. So I’ll do the top 5 posts by traffic last month, regardless of when they were written, and then the top 5 posts that were actually written in June. Make sure you didn’t miss any of these good ones!

Top 5 Posts from July

1. The 50 Most Important Bible Verses to Memorize. If you’ve always wanted to memorize Scripture, here’s a great place to start. Plan to launch into it in September with your family.
2. 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. I do love this post, and apparently other people do, too!
3. 29 Days to Great Sex: The Act of Marriage. It’s Day One of the 29 Days to Great Sex! If you haven’t worked through it with your husband, why not start now?
4. Magic Mike, Marriage, and Women’s Libido. I tell you what I think of the movie. Hint: don’t see it. This one’s actually a recent post!
5. How to Have an Orgasm. Okay, this one isn’t pinned (people don’t like to share it), but it’s still really popular!

Top 5 Posts Written in July

The first one was Magic Mike, but that’s in the list above. Here are the next five:

1. Men: Here’s What I Wish I Could Say to You About Sex. I go on a rant!
2. Dear Young Christian Guys: Love Her Like a Man. Wow, another post addressed at men made it into the top 5. Maybe I should write more!
3. Top Ten Things Hardest Things to Share After Saying I Do. An awesome guest post from my friend Rajdeep!
4. Katie Holmes, Tom Cruise and What Their Divorce Tells Us. My post about how difficult it is to be married to someone who doesn’t share your beliefs.
5. Fifty Shades of Grey Replaces the Bible. Wow. A hotel pulled the Gideon Bible and put in 50 Shades of Grey instead!

There you go! My top 10 posts from last month. Do me a favour? If you particularly like any of these, share one on Facebook or Pinterest for me? Thanks!