Love Your Lashes: Super Fun Younique Giveaway

I’ve got something different for us today!

I have to admit that I just love makeup. I know not all of my readers do, but I just love the fact that makeup can be such a quick pick-me-up: put on a bit of lipgloss and some good foundation and some mascara, and you just feel better. I’m not talking caked on makeup; I’m talking makeup that’s natural that helps you look put together.

But one problem I’ve always had is my bottom lashes. I don’t have very many. So it doesn’t matter how much mascara I put on; they never really “pop”.

So when reader Christy Mather asked if she could share her Younique 3D Fiber Lashes with my audience, I said, “sure!” (especially since she sent some for me to try out! :) ).

Here I am wearing it on one eye and not the other:

Sheila YouNique

And here’s an “official” picture:

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How does it work?

You get a really pretty case:

Younique Case

With two wands in it. One is a gel that provides the “binding agent”, I suppose, and the other the tiny fiber lashes.

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You start with your own mascara:


Sheila Mascara

Then you add the gel, and then the fiber lashes.

Sheila Gel

And then your lashes look a ton longer!

Sheila Younique Done

Younique isn’t just 3D Fiber Lashes–it’s also a full line of makeup and skin care. But the lashes are what makes it truly unique. I’ve never seen anything like it before, and it’s so fun! I wore them at a wedding I went to recently, and they stayed on beautifully.

And Christy wants you to know that if you love makeup, and if friends are always asking you for tips, this may be a great business opportunity, too. You can become a Younique distributor. Here’s lots more info about that.

Want to see more? Here’s the official video of how the 3D Lashes work:

Christy is generously giving away one set of the fiber lashes. I’ll do the draw next Friday, and the winner will be notified by email. To enter, just fill out the Rafflecopter below!

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What I’m Reading This Summer

Top 10 Summer Reads

Summer is one of the only times I get to read novels. Or rather, it’s one of the few times I let myself read novels, because I’m one of those people that can’t put a book down until I’ve finished it. So I’ll ignore everything else in my life until it’s done. That’s why I only read on holidays.

Recently my husband and I were camping just outside of the city where my husband works, so that his commute wouldn’t be as long and so that we could relax together at night at the campground.

I brought my Kindle along, but it wouldn’t connect to their wifi, so I ended up browsing the library of the campground to see if there was anything interesting.

I picked up a romance novel by a very popular writer (it doesn’t matter who) and sat down to read it. It was SO BAD. I mean really, really bad. My daughters make fun of how formulaic Christian romances are, but secular romances are just as awful.

In this one, she described a man’s eyes like this (when the woman first met him at an airport):

His eyes were mesmerizing and intoxicating….no, almost dangerous. They were so dark she could almost swim in them. She felt herself shivering, trembling, as he turned his gaze towards her. And then she knew: in that brief, ten second glance those eyes knew everything about her.

Okay, what exactly do those eyes look like? I turned to my husband and said,

Honey, can you gaze at me as if your eyes know everything about me?

We ended up laughing hysterically for about fifteen minutes.

I couldn’t read it. It was just too awful.

I did pick up a thriller I enjoyed by Jeffrey Archer, though. So I thought I’d write a post on ten books I’m now reading, or have recently read, that I’ve enjoyed, to help you as you try to find something worthwhile to read this summer! I’m going to start with novels, and then finish the list with three non-fiction books.

1. Eve’s Daughters by Lynn Austin

One of my favourite Christian novels of all time. Lynn Austin writes the tale of a woman having trouble with relationships, but you can trace the root of it back several generations. And as she looks at how different generations of women have handled love, marriage, and heartache, she shows how understanding your roots, and understanding the real grace of our Saviour, can help rebuild a broken heart. From an immigrant woman not sure if she loves her husband, to a woman who lets passion result in a hidden pregnancy, to a modern woman trying to figure out whether to stay with her husband, we see how real love and commitment does triumph.

Eve’s Daughters is such a hopeful book, and it’s lovely.

2. Don’t Let Me Go by Catherine Ryan Hyde

The world is full of broken people, and everyone in this book is broken. An 8-year-old girl, living in a run-down small apartment building, is being neglected by her drug addicted mother. Her neighbors, though, are determined that she not be apprehended by children’s services and placed in the system. So they step in to fill the gaps.

In doing so, many of these neighbors have to overcome their own brokenness. And as they administer tough love to the mom, they start to see a family repaired. It’s just such a touching book. Not a Christian one, but it still shows the truth that even in broken people grace can break through. I don’t often weep at books, but I did at this one.

One of the big insights is that much brokenness is really isolation, and the cure for it is community. If we all lived in community, we could heal so much more easily. I think there’s a major message in there from the church. I thought Don’t Let Me Go was beautiful.

3.  Safely Home by Randy Alcorn

One of my favourite novels ever. I can’t read it without crying. It’s about the persecuted church in China, but it will touch you like little else you’ve ever read. The description of the motivations of Christians in China cut right through you. There’s a story in the book that actually happened–a village had everyone move out. They left all their homes behind. The reason? Everyone in the village was already a Christian, so there was no one left to witness to. They had to spread out. The whole book is like that. Tons of spiritual warfare stuff, too.

Safely Home will change you (in a good way).

4. Dominion, Deception, and Deadline by Randy Alcorn

I do love well-written Christian books with a great plot, and Randy Alcorn always delivers. Here’s his modern series focusing on homicide detective Ollie Chandler, investigating different murders with characters we’ll come to love. More John Grisham than the typical Christian novel, but with a huge focus on the spiritual element, with glimpses of heaven and spiritual warfare, too.

I really enjoyed the whole series, but you can buy each book separately, too.

5. The Atonement Child by Francine Rivers

This wasn’t my favourite of her books (I enjoyed Leota’s Garden and the Mark of the Lion series better), but I did like this one. A young student at a Bible school is brutally raped and impregnated one night by a stranger. The Bible college requires her to announce her rape publicly so that others don’t assume she has “sinned”. She refuses, and eventually is kicked out.

The book is more about the relationship between her former boyfriend, her new boyfriend, and her best friends and how everyone handles the rape. I thought it was far-fetched when I first read it (how can a Chrsitian institution blame a girl for being raped?), but my eyes have really been opened this year about how much legalism there still is in the church, and so I think Atonement Child is an important one to revisit.

6. Anything by Jeffrey Archer

I’m not the kind of girl who escapes to romances (and I’ve written about why romance novels can bother me). When I want to escape, I want a sweeping epic story. And I do love Jeffrey Archer for that. He’s not a Christian author, but he tells a good story, and there aren’t usually graphic sex scenes at all (unlike Ken Follett, who also writes sweeping epics).

I found The Fourth Estate in that library at the campground and devoured it, and it reminded me how much I like him!

7. Atlas Girl by Emily Wierenga

What do you do when you grow up in a legalistic family to parents who have different dreams in life–and you’re caught in the middle? You develop anorexia at 9, and spend your life trying to please everybody.

Emily has written a touching memoir about battling anorexia, finding love, experiencing grace, and finally finding healing. The memoir takes us around the world as Emily tries to escape pain, but ends up right back where she started, as she finally finds healing.

Emily’s written on the blog before, and shared an excerpt of Atlas Girl here. She also wrote a while ago on why she couldn’t get undressed on her wedding night, a confession she also makes in the memoir. I’m reading it by the beach this summer, and I’d encourage all of you who need healing from your past to pick up Atlas Girl, too!

8. Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas

And now we’re on to nonfiction!

Do you struggle with doing devotions? Do you struggle with hearing God and experiencing God when you sit down for half an hour with a Bible and highlighters and a prayer journal? Maybe you just have a different Sacred Pathway.

Gary Thomas’ premise is that there are nine pathways, or ways that we most relate to God and experience God. One of those ways is through reading your Bible analytically, but many of them are not. You may experience God through nature. You may experience God through service. You may experience Him best through liturgy and candles and tradition.

I can’t say enough good things about this book. My whole family has read it now (my mother and my daughter are both trying to get Bible studies started in their respective circles of it). It helped me understand myself better, and why I need to go camping every year, especially in the rain!

As I’ve written before, many women don’t think their husbands are spiritual leaders, and long for someone to lead the family in prayer. But perhaps your husband just has a different spiritual pathway. Read Sacred Pathways. It’s awesome!

9. Why Gender Matters by Leonard Sax

In this world where people are saying that men and women are interchangeable, Leonard Sax, a scientist, writes a groundbreaking book showing that gender is, indeed, hardwired into us.

I so enjoyed this easy to read book, and any parent will! It’s got great commentary and what kind of schooling works well for most boys and for most girls; for what moms and dads contribute to a kids’ development; to what discipline techniques work better for boys and what ones for girls; for how to handle teenage risk-taking among boys; and more. If you’re raising both genders, you’ve probably noticed how they’re different. This book will assure you that you’re not crazy; that girls and boys really do need different parenting–and different schooling.

Every teacher should read this, too, because it’s a great commentary to why boys are also getting left behind in schools. Check out Why Gender Matters.

10. People of the Lie by M. Scott Peck

Scott Peck took the New York Times Bestsellers List by storm in the 1980s, I believe, with his groundbreaking book The Road Less Traveled. Peck was (is?) a clinical psychologist, and his book about grace resonated with people (my daughter’s reading it now and loves it!). He wrote several more, and then followed up with this one, his most Christian. Peck was on a spiritual journey as he wrote, and I believe became a Christian in the middle of writing People of the Lie.

In this book, he’s making an argument that “evil” should be a psychiatric diagnosis. Some people are just plain evil, and there is no way to treat them. They aren’t just narcissistic or disturbed or anything like that. They are actually evil, and the only way to deal with it is with a spiritual, not a psychiatric, approach. And if we realized that some people were evil, we’d stop using psychiatric ways to cure them.

And who are these evil people? They’re everywhere. They’re often married. They’re often professionals. They’re all among us. Peck shares stories of patients he’s tried, and failed, to treat, that he now believes are simply evil. I started reading the book when my husband was having trouble with someone at work, and Peck’s description fit this person to a T. People of the Lie is riveting, and it will make you see the world in a new way.

Maybe that’s not a good book to end my list on, but it is hopeful at the end. And it is a fascinating summer read!

So there you are–whether you like fiction or non-fiction, I hope there are some books that can entertain you this summer while also making you think and turning you more towards God.

Now I’d love to know–what are you reading? What do you think are great summer reads? Let me know in the comments!

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My Daughter Being Hilarious–and More!

My youngest has an awesome YouTube channel, and here’s her latest installment:

What Books Taught Her (that the authors never intended). I dare you to get through the Twilight rant without laughing:

And now for Katie being more serious:

Last week she was one of 15 quizzers from the Eastern Canada district of the Christian and Missionary Alliance Church sent to the international competition for Bible quizzing, which was held this year just north of Toronto (yay! We didn’t have to travel much. Next year it’s in Minnesota). They were quizzing on the books of Romans and James in the English Standard Version.

My daughter at internationals quizzing

Her team made it to the finals of the Consolation A division, and ended up winning that quiz. You can watch the whole thing here (hit the video that’s 79 minutes long–the times when Katie is featured are listed in the next paragraph). The first part of the video is a 20 question quiz. You get 30 seconds to answer a question, and most questions are jumped on after two syllables (in the district meets throughout the year you tend to get the whole question out–but this is internationals). To “jump”, the kids are sitting on benches with a sensor that’s hooked up to a board, and when you take your weight off the sensor, your light goes off. So that’s how they know who got the jump.

At 2:00 Katie leads in the national anthem. Katie jumps and answers 4 questions correctly–at 14:30, 28:15, 30:50, and 40:40–to win the quiz. It’s really pretty awesome to watch how well these kids know these books! Like I said, they have to be able to answer after just two words.

Katie (the captain) congratulating one of her rookie quizzers on pulling an answer out of nowhere.

Katie (the captain) congratulating one of her rookie quizzers on pulling an answer out of nowhere.

Katie can quote ALL of Romans and James, word perfectly. And she can tell you any verse. So proud of her!

Katie jumped on basically nothing, just said an answer--and actually got it right. Here's her surprised look.

Katie jumped on basically nothing, just said an answer–and actually got it right. Here’s her surprised look.

She ended up 6th out of 120 quizzers, and top Canadian. (But before you Americans get too proud, last year the top quizzer WAS a Canadian. Booyah!)

A Note About the Comments Section

I just want to take a moment and say something about the comments.

I want this blog to be a safe place where women can get great encouragement and inspiration for their marriage, their sex life, and their parenting. I’ve thought and prayed a lot about my perspective, and I’m quite comfortable with it, as are my publishers and the many people who hire me to speak.

However, I’ve run into trouble over the last 3-4 years with commenters who completely disagree with my stance on many things–specifically people who think that women don’t do enough in marriage; that most porn use is due to women’s refusing sex; that women should not set boundaries, since that is the job of the man who is in authority; that divorce is almost always women’s fault; and that the aim of marriage seems to be hierarchy rather than oneness.

In general, these commenters have been male, and they tend to comment critically multiple times on posts–and on multiple posts.

What I started to notice about two years ago was that my regular commenters–the women who come here day in and day out–were no longer commenting because the comment section was getting so nasty. My comment section was actually more dynamic 3 years ago than it is today, largely because of the negative tone that took over.

I didn’t want that, and I finally banned about ten commenters who were really spreading dissension. There is absolutely no problem with people having their own viewpoint, but I want this to be a safe place for the women who come here. And if my regular, faithful readers–who are the target of this blog–are being chased from the comments section, that isn’t good.

My eyes were really opened at the meetup I did in Ottawa a few weeks ago, because those women–who read me everyday–in general don’t read the comments because they either don’t care what other people think, or they don’t like it being so negative.

So once again, I think it’s time to restate my policy. I do not want to spread a view of Christianity which I feel is wrong, because 9000 people a day arrive here from Google alone–people who may have no Christian background at all, or who may be searching. For these people, in particular, I want to portray a positive image of what I believe Christ wants for marriage.

If people want to spread another view, they are free to do so on their own blogs.

Therefore, I will delete comments that I feel are harmful to the mission of this blog. I will let through contradictory comments, but, in general, I will only let through one from each person on a blog post. I won’t let arguments go on and on. And if certain people insist on criticizing me on every blog post, I will ban them, too. If I believe that comments spread a view of marriage that I think will turn visitors off of the church, I will also delete them, because I care very much about the witness of this blog and its chance to influence those who don’t know Christ.

And now I’d like to let my husband say something. Here’s Keith:

The main problem (it seems to me) is that these men are relentlessly putting forward the erroneous teaching that Biblical headship mean absolute authority.  In their view, women should not be permitted to set boundaries for their husband as he is “in authority over them” (as one commenter put it) and thus wives must submit without question to all the husband’s demands regardless of his attitudes and actions, be they sinful or not .  They further go on to characterize women who do not submit in this extreme sense as being disobedient to God and try to convince people that women (like my wife, Sheila) who teach a more moderate view are not following proper Christian doctrine.

Now I know there is a great deal of debate about what headship means, but I think we can all agree on one thing: our model as husbands is our Lord Jesus Christ Himself.  But a subtle (and deadly) error has crept into these men’s teaching. They feel they ARE Christ to their wives and demand the same obedience from their wives that she would give to Christ Himself. This is a gross misinterpretation of Ephesians.  In my mind, although Christ is my model as a husband, I fully recognize that (unlike Him) I am prone to sin, error and selfishness.  I have no problem with my wife “calling me” if I am slipping.  I believe the VAST MAJORITY of Christian husbands feel the same way.  And I think we all feel the same disapproval of men who demand this kind of absolute submission from their wives.

When Sheila first told me there were men specifically coming to her blog to disagree with her on issues of submission, I couldn’t believe it.  Do they honestly have nothing better to do with their time than troll around on women’s websites looking for fights about this issue?  That would just seem pathetic to me if it hadn’t been so hurtful.  So to all the women who have been hurt by what these men have said: Please know they are not the majority opinion and they do not have the monopoly on Biblical truth that they claim.

A successful Christian marriage works best when God is the one in complete authority and both husband and wife, in submission to Him, are seeking each other’s best interest. True, God has given a role of leadership to husbands, but the clear model of Christ is servant-leadership, not despotic-leadership.  Rather than proof texting from specific verses, we need to look at the whole teaching of Scripture in this area.  The clearest commentary I have is this: Jesus said you would know them by their fruit.  The Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  To me it is very clear which sort of home is more likely to provide an environment for these fruits to flourish.

May God bless you in your marriages as you seek to honour Him.

What I Learned About My Readers from an Ottawa Meetup

Ottawa MeetUp

Last week I was in Ottawa staying at my oldest daughter’s townhouse while my younger daughter was practising for a quizzing tournament with her team. And since I was in a different city, I thought I’d try a “meetup”.

Ever heard of those? Basically it’s when an online community decides to meet “in real life”, and then chat a bit. So I put an announcement out on Facebook and sent a note to people on my newsletter group who were in the Ottawa area, and told everybody I’d be at a certain Menchie’s at 7 p.m. on Friday if they wanted to drop by.

Nine lovely women came by–(let’s see if I can remember all their names): Sonya, Alexis, Colleen, Louise, Danielle, Amelie, Christa, Leanne, Tracy, and me–and one little man:


We started out the evening with something very important. We all got frozen yogurt (which is awesome) except for one poor woman who was on a cleanse. But she’s getting healthy, so that’s good! I was not getting healthy. I used a lot of chocolate toppings. And I don’t regret it.

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And then we just gabbed. I asked people’s advice on a Reader Question I’m trying to get ready in the next little while: how do you prepare for marriage long distance? Like, how do you make sure that he’s not a serial killer or something? And we had a great chat about that.

Amelie asked me how in the world I ever got started writing about sex, and we chatted about how it’s hard to find a safe place to talk about it. A number of women said that on getting married they faced an interesting dilemma: they had become Christians later in life, and they wanted to follow God, but they didn’t know what was okay in bed. And so they felt like everything was dirty.

Then another woman piped and said, “you feel that way even if you WERE a Christian your whole life!”

Alexis commented, “that’s why I’m glad Sheila’s here–to reclaim sex. Christians are supposed to know what’s best about it!” And we laughed.

We chatted about how ugly the world has gotten–with pornography, and child prostitution, and erotica. We chatted lots about breastfeeding and keeping your house liveable when the kids are little.

And then, speaking of keeping the place liveable, I decided to open the box of books of my new edition of To Love, Honor and Vacuum in front of everybody.


If you ever feel like you spend your life cleaning up, and nobody really helps you or appreciates you, then this book is great for you!


I had fun figuring out where everybody had first heard of me. Danielle and Sonya had heard me speak years ago in Ottawa. Amelie had found my book report download for homeschoolers (if you sign up for my homeschooling newsletter you’ll get it!). Tracy had met me when Keith and I spoke at a FamilyLife marriage conference. And a number of them commented that I had emailed them back after they asked me a question. That made me feel a little badly because I only answer about 5% of the emails I receive now. I receive so many that my assistant goes through them first. I wish I had more time for personal touch!

Then, after everybody had asked me questions, I had some of my own. A few of the ladies there–like Leanne and Alexis–do comment quite a bit on Facebook and sometimes on this blog, and I’ve met them before. But most read but don’t say a whole lot. Friday, the day of the meetup, was a day with an odd comment thread on the blog after my post “Where’s the Dad?” I was saying that whenever you read a news item of some horrible family thing gone wrong, there’s usually no dad in the picture. We need more dads in the picture.

A number of commenters took me to task, saying that dads aren’t there because of welfare laws, and child custody laws, and rape shield laws, etc. etc., which make men feel marginalized. I agree that the law marginalizes men; I just don’t think that’s an excuse. When you’re standing before God, and He asks, “why didn’t you care for your kids?”, you can’t say, “Because the welfare laws made my one-night stand girlfriend (I forget what her name was now) feel like she didn’t need me.” And then some commenters said that this was actually my fault because I argued that marriage should be a partnership, rather than giving all authority to men. So it’s my fault that men have one night stands with drug addicts? Thanks.

Anyway, these women told me that they hardly ever read the comments, and when they do, they often think these people are bizarre. I think I get caught up in the debate because it’s often these fringe comments that do get made. People who agree don’t say much. So I tend to think everyone thinks the way some of the commenters do. It’s good to know I’m not alone!


And we talked about the polarization in the online world. Here’s an example: with the modesty debate, one side says that women must watch what they dress because they can cause men to lust, and they are responsible for that; the other side says women should be able to wear whatever they want, and men are responsible solely for themselves.

The problem is that if I argue the modesty end of the spectrum is too extreme, people think I’m then saying, “anything goes!” Really, on the vast majority of the issues, I’m just saying the answer is in the murky middle. And yet I get accused of all kinds of things on this blog because I don’t tend to be on either extreme on pretty much any issue.

It was very nice to hear that the vast majority agree with me.

Then Alexis asked a really good question:

how do you teach your 4-year-old not to show her underwear in public without making her ashamed of her body?

Great question! I’m going to have to use it as a post soon, but I’d love some insight. If any of you have any thoughts, please leave them in the comments!

So it was a ton of fun, and the yogurt was great, and it was neat to see people in real life whose names I’ve seen on Facebook. And I think I’ll do it again! So sign up for my newsletters and then check your inbox and check on Facebook. If I’m coming to your neck of the woods I’ll let you know!


6 Ways to Get Great Marriage Inspiration

Hello, everybody!

You have NO IDEA how good I feel now that my book, 9 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage, is in with the publisher. I’ll still have edits to do later this summer, but at least it’s written. And I actually kinda like it. :)

So I’m visiting with my oldest daughter right now (and getting to know her boyfriend a little bit better), and helping my younger daughter study for Internationals for Bible quizzing which is coming up. She’s memorized all of Romans and James, and she’ll be competing against kids all over North America. She’s awesome (I’ll put a video up after the tournament).

And I’m reading a novel. It’s a long time since I’ve read one!

So I’m taking it a little bit easier right now. But at the same time I’m doing some housekeeping and changes to make the information I give you even better, so I thought I’d share 6 ways you can keep up with me, and get great marriage inspiration, since I do slightly different things all over the web–and you don’t want to miss any!

1. Don’t Miss a Blog Post!

I know it’s a hassle to click through to the blog everyday. But if you want to make sure you don’t miss anything, here are two easy ways to do it:

OR, if that’s a bit much,

Every week I send out an email with my Friday opinion piece, along with links to everything new on the blog, highlights of the most popular stuff on Facebook, links to older posts that are becoming popular again, and more. So you get a round-up of everything that’s going on on the blog, on Facebook, and on Pinterest–and you can read it all at your leisure! Here’s a recent one, just so you get a sense of what it’s like.

And when you sign up for the weekly roundup, here’s something else cool:

Best of Reality Check

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2. Check out Facebook

The blog is where all my new material is published, but on Facebook I also post inspirational graphics that you can share, links to all my new posts, links to older posts, and questions that readers send in so that other people can give their input. I get a TON of questions, and I can’t turn them all into blog posts. But often my Facebook fans have a lot of wisdom, too!

Do follow me on Facebook–and tell your other Facebook friends about me, too!

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3. Follow Me on Pinterest

Pinterest is so much fun! That’s where I post pins to all my new posts, and a lot of my older ones, but also neat things I’ve found around the web, including some of the latest research on marriage and parenting.

So come on over and follow me there, too!

4. Subscribe to my Marriage Newsletter

Every month I send out my marriage newsletter, and it’s a little bit different from what you’ll read on the blog.

See, right now I have over 1,500 posts at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. That’s a lot! And so every month I try to pick a different theme, and then link to posts on that theme–even (or perhaps especially) if those posts are old. It’s a great way to discover things I wrote years ago that are still relevant, but you likely haven’t seen in your news feed.

Then I also link to all the great marriage posts from the previous month, as well as neat stuff on Facebook and Pinterest.

Here’s June’s newsletter, where the topic was “Getting Ready for Marriage”.

And I’ve just put together a free ebook when you subscribe to my marriage newsletter:

5. Check out To Love, Honor and Vacuum–the Book!

To Love, Honor and VacuumI’m going to be telling you a LOT more about this starting next week and the week after, but the second edition of To Love, Honor and Vacuum has just launched (my official launch will be later this month). If you love my marriage and parenting philosophy, here’s a great book where it’s all rolled up together. Yes, I do talk about sex, but it’s not the primary thing. It’s more about fostering relationships where everyone in the family respects each other, no one feels taken for granted, and you don’t feel like you’re constantly rushing around.

I really love this book, and I know you will, too. If you’ve ever felt more like a maid than a wife and a mother, I know that it will help you refocus and make some changes so that your relationships feed you rather than bleed you. And you’ll learn how to focus on God’s goals for your family rather than the things that seem urgent at the time, but really don’t matter in the long run.

It’s a great summer read to get you on track to launch next year well!

6. Are in Ottawa? I’m doing a Meet up on Friday.

Ever heard of a meet-up? Basically we just pick a date, time, and place, and anyone who reads the blog or is on Facebook is invited to come. And then we all chat, get to know a few people, and laugh about marriage together.

So since I’m in Ottawa visiting, I thought it may be fun to try my first one! I’ll be at the Menchie’s at 1537 Merivale Rd. at 7:00 p.m. on Friday night. I’ll either eat frozen yogurt with way too many chocolate toppings all by myself, or hopefully some of you will show up and we’ll have a great chat and take some selfies. And if it gets too busy, we’ll head over to Salem Storehouse’s coffee shop around 8, which is pretty much next door.


So please come on out! I’d love to meet some of you–and I really don’t want to eat frozen yogurt alone. But if I have to, I will. I’ll update everyone via Twitter about where I am and who is there, and on Facebook as well.

And here’s the really cool thing–I haven’t actually SEEN any paperback copies of the new edition of To Love, Honor and Vacuum. So I’m going to bring the box that was shipped to me and open it there–in front of everyone. So you’ll all see them for the first time with me!

And here’s the official Facebook Events page–if you’re planning on coming, just click “Join”, so I’ll know how many to expect (but you can always drop by unannounced, too!)

For all my Canadian friends, Happy Canada Day! We’re watching the fireworks tonight from Mooney’s Bay. The girls decided there would likely be too much pot being smoked down on Parliament Hill, so we’ll avoid that. But it’s neat to be in the nation’s capital on July 1!

So pick one of the above and start following me more. I’d love to stay in contact with all of you more, and deliver you great information in easy ways–that make it easy to share. :)

10 Things Going on in My Life

It’s Top 10 Tuesday! And I thought that today, rather than share on a particular topic, I’d pull back the curtain a bit and let you know about some things going on in my life!

1. I Have a Book Due in on Friday. And I’m Not Panicking. Of Course Not.

I have absolutely everything under control. :)

Honestly, I’m really excited about this one, and I’m frantically going through the final edit this week to make sure it makes sense. It’s 9 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage (based on this viral blog post), and it will be coming out with Waterbrook in September 2015. I’ve been working on it for a few months now, so I’ve had a bunch of guest posts up. I’ll be so relieved to have it in on Friday–and so proud!

Remember this horrible picture of me at my daughter’s house quite a few weeks ago, writing? That’s when I began it. Now I’m almost done. Yay! (And seriously, I let a picture like this of me be on the internet. That takes guts! Oh, and those pyjama bottoms are glow-in-the-dark, too.)


2. My Surgery Recovery is Going Quite Well

Remember when I shared too much information and scarred you all for life about my overactive uterus? Well, I’m now six weeks post surgery, and so far all looks really well. I appreciate so many of you emailing and asking for updates.

I don’t want to share too much information AGAIN, but let’s just say that things have slowed down quite a bit in that department, and I have a feeling I’m not nearly so anemic. So I’m very grateful. I just don’t think I’ll know if my energy will really return until after this book is in and I’m not under pressure anymore.

3. My Daughter Has a Boyfriend

After not dating in high school, my daughter now has fallen quite hard for someone she met through her university Christian Fellowship group (IVCF). He seems like a great guy, but it’s an adjustment getting used to your daughter dating! I’m really happy for her, though, and I’m learning a whole new way of praying for my kids now. I likely won’t write too much about them just because I want to protect her privacy, but maybe in ten years when both of my girls are settled (if they are by then) I’ll be able to say more about how to guide kids through this, and how to pray for them! And how to start letting go and not trying to live vicariously through them.

Did I already say too much?

We were in Toronto recently and my younger daughter wanted to take “third wheeling” photobomb photos for one of her YouTube videos. I thought this one was cute:

Third Wheeling

4. To Love, Honor and Vacuum Second Edition is Now Available!

I’m really excited about this one! My first edition came out in 2003. It was the first book I ever wrote. And I’ve updated it now for 2014–with lots more information and lots more thoughts on how to create a great marriage.

It’s for every mom who feels more like a maid than a wife and a mother!

Amazon just uploaded it so you can order it now, but I’ll be doing a big launch for it next month. But if you want it early, here’s your chance!

This is really the heart of so much of what I think goes into creating a great family, including a husband and wife who respect each other and kids who pull their weight. I hope you get so much out of it!

5. I’m Just Back from the Canadian Christian Writers’ Conference

I was on the faculty of Write! Canada, the Canadian Christian Writers’ Conference last week. Had a great time teaching on how to brand yourself, how to market your books, and how to run a blog. Ted Dekker, the author, delivered one of the keynotes, and I grabbed this selfie for my girls. I just love his novel Blink. It’s still my favourite.

Ted Dekker

(Seriously, I let you guys see such embarrassing pictures of me. Why do I do that?)

6. IMPORTANT: I’m starting an Invitation Only Facebook Group for My Biggest Fans

I am so grateful for those of you who read my RSS feed faithfully, who comment here faithfully, who like me on Facebook and interact there, and who just in general encourage me on a daily basis. You make what I do worthwhile.

And I want to set up a “group” on Facebook where I can give all of you a little “extra”–maybe host some chats every now and then, and give you a chance to take a sneak peak at some of my new books, and even a chance to win some free stuff. And I’ll likely do some free videos for you, too!

How do you get there? Hopefully next week (after the book is in) I’ll be sending an invitation to my newsletter readers who read me the most (who open the newsletters and click, etc.). And I’ll try to figure out how to send invites to those of you comment here most frequently, too (I’m not sure how to do that yet, so be patient. But I’m sure there’s a way).

If you want to be invited, all you have to do is sign up for one of my newsletters (like my monthly marriage one), and then read them when they come to your inbox!

7. I am seriously addicted to Call the Midwife

I just love Netflix, and my mom and I have discovered the Call the Midwife British TV series. I think I like it even better than Downton Abbey. I read the book, and it’s really quite Christian. The author grew to know Christ as she served as a midwife in the 1940s in the poorest section of London, alongside some Anglican nuns. Lovely stories!

8. My Husband and I are Considering an RVing Sabbatical

I don’t know when we’ll take it, but we’re looking at cutting down his work schedule at some point in the future and spending a lot of time on the road in an RV. I’ll speak along the way, and we’ll explore North America! I just know so many people who have died recently in their 50s and 60s, and I don’t want to wait until I’m 65 to do some of the things I’d like to do with Keith. My aunt and uncle took 7 years off in their late 40s early 50s, and then went back to work. It sounds divine right now (but maybe that’s still because I’m so tired and under pressure!)

So any of you who have RVs, a question: is it cheaper in the end to buy the pick-up truck and the RV, or to buy the self-contained RV? I’d love some opinions!

9. I Like Iced Teas

Okay, I think I’ve finally kicked the Diet Pepsi habit and replaced it with iced tea. I never thought I’d like iced tea, but it’s growing on me. So thanks to all who suggested it!

10. Let’s Say, Theoretically, That You Left Wet Laundry in the Washer for 8 Days….

Not that I would EVER do that, but if, THEORETICALLY, someone did, anyone have any advice on how to get the mildew smell out?

So there you are–ten things that are going on in my life. I’ll try to still keep up with posting while I’m finishing my book, but forgive me if I’m a little spotty, especially on Facebook! Exciting times.

Appreciate you all!

Me and Diet Pepsi, Some Inspiration, and Some Links

Yesterday was my birthday, and I had a lovely day birding in the morning with my husband, then going to church, out to lunch, and then out for a beautiful drive exploring with my mom and my hubby.

My husband and I have recently started bird watching as a hobby so we can spend more time together. And one of the challenges we do is to try to see the number of bird species on your birthday as your age. So I was supposed to see 44 yesterday. We ended up seeing 43. We only went out for 2 hours, so that’s not bad, but I think we didn’t make it all the way to 44 because I’m still only 43 at heart! Anyway, we got up at 6:30 and went out for a while before church. Here we are at a board walk 10 minutes from our house. The boardwalk was under water in places, and I didn’t have boots!

Out bird watching with my husband

Lots of fun, though.

Here’s the biggest discovery I made yesterday. I quit Diet Pepsi on December 20. I had been drinking 2 a day for  years, and I decided I just couldn’t do the aspartame anymore, so I quit cold turkey. It was hard. And the cravings never really went away. I just longed for something fizzy.

I made a deal with my daughter: every year, on my birthday, I could drink as many Diet Pepsis as I wanted! I was so looking forward to my birthday–not for the presents or the fun, but for the drink!

So here we are, out to lunch, and I have my Diet Pepsi:



Seriously. I tried a whole bunch of it yesterday and I hated it. I’ve been craving it for six months, and I don’t even like it anymore. I guess I’m now officially cured. I didn’t finish even one whole Diet Pepsi yesterday.

To my American readers, I hope you’re all enjoying a beautiful Memorial Day weekend!

Since it is a long weekend for the majority of my readers, and since I did just have a birthday, I thought that instead of writing a big post today I’d share some inspiration and a few links that you may enjoy.

Keep your husband as your priority

I shared that on Facebook last week (are you on my Facebook Page? We have great discussions and lots of great inspiration!).

Because it’s a long weekend for many of you, I thought I’d share some ideas on how to spend some time together, and the importance of spending time together. So I just browsed what posts have been pinned from Pinterest lately (follow me here), and here are some of the more popular ones about building your relationship:

25 Funny But True Marriage Tips for a Long and Happy Life TogetherWant a date night? Here are the 50 most romantic movies to watch as a couple (as chosen by my Facebook fans).

10 Cheap Date Night Ideas for parents of young kids. Great ideas here!

25 Marriage Tips. They’re fun! Share them with friends.

2 Player Board Games to play with your hubby. If the weather’s lousy in your neck of the woods today, this may come in handy!

My Husband Never Wants to Spend Time with Me. Finding ways to spend time together that work.

Finally, if you have some one-on-one time today, especially if you can make a picnic and go out in nature to work this through together, what about talking to your husband about your vision and purpose as a family (or a couple)? I’ve got some printables here, and it’s a great exercise to start!

I know some of  you are away from your husbands today because of work, or because he’s deployed and he’s on the other side of the world. I just want to give a big shout out to the military wives who read this blog (or the female military personnel themselves), and who serve their countries well, and yet sacrifice so much. We do appreciate you, and we wish you all the best on this day, too!

Have a wonderful day, everyone!

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The Night My Husband Talked in His Sleep

The night my husband talked in his sleepWhen my daughters were babies I tended to be the one who got up in the middle of the night with them. First, because I was nursing; and second, because my husband was doing his residency in pediatrics and worked such ridiculous hours he really needed the sleep when he could get it.

But occasionally he’d be on a light rotation, and so we’d agree to split the nights. On “his” nights, if the babies woke up, I’d shake Keith. “Rebecca’s awake,” I’d say. “I know, I can hear her,” he’d reply. “Are you going to go get her?” I’d ask. “I will in a minute. Let’s just see if she goes back to sleep,” he’d say. And then we’d continue to have this two-way conversation, and I could never get him out of bed.

One night, I got up, went to the phone, and dialed the hospital. His pager went off, and he was up like a rocket. He dialed in, and the receptionist said to him, “Go get your baby. She’s crying.” Mission accomplished.

Keith has this amazing ability to carry on full conversations while he is totally asleep.

So last Wednesday, at 11:30 p.m., when we were all in bed, the phone rang. It was the alarm company. My mom was out of town, and the alarm at  her house was blaring. “There may be intruders at Mom’s place,” I told Keith. “That’s awful. Are you going to check on it?” he replied. “Well, I thought you could,” I told him. “I’m kind of tired, honey, and I don’t even know all her codes for her doors and alarms and such. Why don’t you just go?” And this went on.

Once I realized he wasn’t budging, I put on a sweater, got in the car, and thought about how terrible my husband was for making me go battle potential burglars by myself. Thankfully the police were there when I arrived, and they checked out the place with me and ensured a lack of People of Evil Intent. I headed home. “What happened?” he asked. “The police were there,” I told him. “They sent backup, since they never go into a potentially dangerous situation alone,” I said. “That’s smart,” he replied. “Just glad you’re home now, honey.”

The next morning he called me. “Sheila, did something happen last night? Something about police?” I laughed, and told him that he had sent me off to battle burglars. He laughed too, but then he was a little perturbed. “You know me,” he said. “You know I’d never send you in a dangerous situation alone like that. You should have really woken me up.”

And I do know him. And I should have woken him up. But his conversation seemed so normal I forgot all of that right then. I forgot that he was acting out of character. I forgot that he would never really do that. And I assumed the worst and got caught up in the moment.

I have put my husband through several similar things lately. As I shared last week on the blog, this whole perimenopause thing has not been treating me kindly. My hormones are totally out of whack, and there are times when I almost feel like I’m having an out-of-body experience. I’m mad at the world, though the world has done very few mean things to me. If my husband dares to smile or have a good time while I’m in the middle of one of my funks, I take personal offense. How dare he have fun if I have work to do? How dare he not share in my mood?

And then the day passes and I’m fine again, and I look back on the monster I manifested the day before and I so wish I could banish her forever.

But most of all, I wish that people would see that that is not the real me.

And so my husband and I have come to an agreement.

We will not assume the worst of each other.

Do we assume the worst in each other? The night I believed something my husband said in his sleep.

From now on, when someone says something out of character, we will not assume the worst. We will try not to take offense. He will back the truck up and say to me, “You look like you’re just really overwhelmed right now, and I don’t want to contribute to that. I love you, and I want you to relax, so I’m going to leave you alone for this afternoon and I’ll take care of myself and Katie.” That’s far safer for both of us. And me? I’ll get a spray bottle of water by the bed so if I ever do need him to wake up, I know it will be a done deal.

How many times do we cause extra heartache because we assume the worst and forget the truth about those we love? Instead, we judge them by what’s going on right now. Maybe if we could take a step back, and not get so caught up in the moment, we could see the totality of the relationship. We could keep perspective. And that would help us love more, give more, and forgive more. And if we capture some burglars while we’re at it, all the better.


A Whole TON of Links–and MOTHER’S Day!

Hello, everybody! Happy Saturday!

Thought I’d share some quick things with you today.

How I’m Doing

First, I can’t tell you how enough how grateful I am for all the well wishes and prayers after my recent surgery. All went well, and it’s been a little over a week now and I’m feeling pretty good. Back to normal from before the surgery, and I’m hoping that soon I’ll feel back to normal from about two years ago, before I started the extreme fatigue.

Someone commented to me that the first thing she noticed after her surgery (she had the same thing) was her nails. They stopped chipping and they grew again! I looked down at my hands yesterday and saw this:

I’ve got nails again! I actually need to file them. How exciting!


How I’m Procrastinating

So instead of recuperating I am now full up into writing mode! I have the manuscript for 9 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage due into Waterbrook next month, and I’ve got to get some serious work done.

Now, I don’t know if that fact is AT ALL related to this fact, but my youngest daughter just posted a new video on procrastination. The In Denial procrastinator, who is playing 2048 like a maniac, and from whom you need to “back away slowly”, is not at all me. Not. At. All. She didn’t get that from someone in her household or anything.

In all seriousness, I’ve been a bit of a bear to live with lately, so I decided to leave my hubby and youngest daughter for a time and come and live at my oldest daughter’s house so I can get some serious work done without distractions. I just needed a bit of a retreat. So I’m hanging out here and writing like mad–or at least trying to.

I figured out why I was having such problems with some of the chapters yesterday. I think I was giving too many pat answers, and after the reaction to my column yesterday about the purity culture, I realized that what people really crave is authenticity, not rules or pat answers. The latter half of the book was already going to be a bit controversial; I’ve decided to bring more of that into the first half. And now I’m excited about writing again!

So here I am this morning in all my glory: glow in the dark pyjama pants, no makeup, and the “I Love My Husband” T-shirt from The Love Shirts!


That Purity Culture Thing

Speaking of writing, if you haven’t read the series of posts this week about purity and the purity culture, I encourage you to do so.

Here’s what I was trying to show with the three posts: purity is so important, but the way that we emphasize it is often counterproductive. First, because we talk about intimacy before marriage purely in physical terms and ignore the other aspects of temptation; and second because we make it all into rules and not relationship.

I do believe in purity; but I think maybe we need to stop saying “sexual purity”, because it implies that sexual purity is somehow more pure than other forms of purity, and it implies that purity is about genitalia and not the heart. We should be emphasizing purity before God, and when we do that, we’ll be talking about the right issues.

Sex Before Marriage: Why God wants us to wait until marriage to make love.I also absolutely believe that God saved sex for marriage for very good reasons. Here are some:

Why God Wants us to Wait for Marriage for Sex

Why We Should Wait

The Beggar’s Daughter also has a great series she’s written lately about boundaries in dating called “Kissing is Not Sex”. Here’s part 1 and part 2.

Finally, an AWESOME comment about how to make purity a matter of the heart when you’re dating.

The most interesting part of yesterday’s post, too, I think, was actually the comments section (though I did like the column, too, if I do say so myself). Thanks for all the great discussion!

The Nightmare in Nigeria

One of the very legitimate criticisms of the purity movement is that it makes those who have been abused or attacked sexually seem like “tainted goods”. And with the news being filled with the ongoing desperate plight of the 276 kidnapped girls in Nigeria, my thoughts and prayers have been very much oriented that way.

If you haven’t heard the news, a group of Islamic terrorists have kidnapped 276 Christian teenage girls and threatened to sell them into sex slavery or make them child brides. The girls are 14 to 18. I simply cannot comprehend this. How can anyone think that God would sanction this? As a mom to two teenage girls, I’ve been quite overcome this week.

And so I’d ask you to say this prayer with me, and help take these girls’ plights to God:

Dear God, you know each of those 276 girls intimately, and by name. You know where they are, and you know their state. They are not hidden from you. And so, Jesus, we bring each of them to you. Protect them physically. Protect them from the elements–from hunger, infection, and snakebites. Protect them from their captors. And please, bring them home.

Help them to stay strong in you, and to have a peace that passes understanding. Let them be strong for each other and be a support for each other. Lord, may they be so righteous that their captors will be brought to shame, and that they will “heap burning coals” onto the captors’ heads and cause some of these men to have pity and to help them find safety.

Be with their parents and families, and give them peace and strength and comfort. May they feel the world’s prayers.

Be with the Nigerian soldiers who are trying to locate them. Give the military wisdom and even visions from you. Let the foreign help that is coming in not be confusing, but let it be integrated seamlessly and quickly so that the girls can be rescued.

Most of all, Lord, let these girls always know that they are precious in your sight, that they are pure because of Jesus, and that no one and nothing can separate them from your love.

And be with all who are trafficked in the sex trade around the world right now, even those who are not front page news. Go to battle for them, and show us how we can be part of the solution.

In Jesus’ precious name,


It’s Mother’s Day!

Avoiding Mother's Day DisappointmentSomehow in all of the turmoil of writing this book and surgery I totally forgot it was Mother’s Day! And so I didn’t post on it.

I’ve posted on it in the past, though, and so I’ll link to some of those posts right now.

How to Avoid Disappointment this Mother’s Day

Mothering on a Weak Stomach

A Microwave and a Mother’s Heart

For those of you who are mothers, have a great day tomorrow!

And for everyone, have a wonderful weekend. Keep the girls in Nigeria in your prayers. And if you could say a prayer for me, that the words will come easily as I write, that would be much appreciated.

In Which I Share Too Much Information and Scar You For Life

I am getting old.

Obviously we all are aging, but somehow that process seems to have gone by faster for me in the last few years.

It all started when my cycles got out of whack. At first I blamed it on my daughters. You know how when you have a bunch of women living in one house their bodies tend to adjust to each other and your cycles line up? Well, I was living with teens who weren’t quite “regular” yet, so I thought that’s why I was going all wonky. I didn’t think much of it.

Then the wonkiness wasn’t wonkiness as much as it was frequency. I’ve always been a 30 day kind of gal, like clockwork. Then I went to 28, which disappointed me, but really was nothing to complain about.

21 days, on the other hand, is ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!!!! And having to sleep on top of a towel, and not go out for more than 2 hours during “that time of the month” in case Niagara Falls hits, is really frustrating.

And if said cycle also lasts way too long, too, life just becomes unfair.

But it’s not just that life isn’t fair. It’s that your body decides it’s had enough, and then it decides not to make any more red blood cells, because really, what’s the point? You’re losing them too fast anyway. May as well go kick your feet up and grab a cold one and take the day off.

So your body takes a whole bunch of days off, and one day you wake up and you are so TIRED you feel like you did during the first trimester of pregnancy. But you can’t figure out the reason, so you push ahead, and push ahead, and push ahead, until one day you come back from a speaking engagement and flying all over the country and you just lose it. You start crying uncontrollably because life is just so OVERWHELMING and you can’t do it anymore.

Eventually you decide maybe a visit to the doctor may be in order, and lo and behold, you have major anemia. Yay! You’re not going crazy. There’s a reason!

So you take iron supplements for a few months, and you’re happily contented because soon this will all be over. You go for another checkup, and–WHAM!–you’re even more anemic than before.

Your doctor is now worried, and sends you for an ultrasound and a specialist, but this is Canada, and both take forever. So in the meantime she puts you on a progesterone pill, hoping this will even out the cycles.

It doesn’t. It’s just as bad.

And not just that, but one day you wake up and you’re certain you have bed bugs, because you have bites ALL OVER YOUR LEGS. Everyday they keep coming. Then some on your hands. You do research on the internet, because, OH MY GOODNESS, THOSE ARE IN MY BED!?! And you want to throw out your bedding, but the internet says there’s no point, because the little critters may be in your night table. Or your beautiful wooden headboard. And you can’t throw everything out! So you do the biggest clean you’ve done in your entire life, and then fly out to Calgary for five days to speak at a marriage conference.

You’re happy, because there will be no more bed bugs!

But there are. The bites keep happening. And you REJOICE! Because this means the problem is with YOU, not your BED.

It’s those blasted pills. They gave me a weird rash.

Oh, and did I mention I gained five pounds within two weeks of starting them?

Then, right after the trip home from Calgary, your leg starts to feel weird. Within a few days you can’t walk the pain is so bad. You go in for an emergency ultrasound because they think it may be a blood clot. It’s not. You have an Xray. They don’t see anything there, either. Finally they conclude you have inflamed superficial veins, which are totally harmless but hurt like the dickens. So they give you Tylenol 3s, which make you very happy.

And you go home and put on old lady pressure stockings.


Oh, yeah, baby. Old lady pressure stockings. Muffin top. Old lady slippers. Doesn't get better than that!

Oh, yeah, baby. Old lady pressure stockings. Muffin top. Old lady slippers. Doesn’t get better than that!

You are officially an old lady.

Sixteen years ago, when you had varicose veins ripped out after your last child, the surgeon said, “you’ll have to wear these from now on, for the rest of your life.” You scoffed at him. You laughed. You were 28. You were invincible! And besides, it was July and it was HOT.

And now you’re wearing them all the time out of desperation. You’re even sleeping with them. They’re like one huge, tight chastity belt.

In the middle of all this you finally get that ultrasound appointment, where you become far too intimate with a probe. And after that humiliation, it turns out you have several things in your uterus that need to be taken out.

So you’re scheduled for surgery.

And that’s where I’m going. Tomorrow. My daughter has the biggest quiz meet of the year this weekend, and I’m just praying I’ll be well enough to go see her on Saturday.

Mostly I’m praying this will fix a lot of my problems, because I’ve just been so tired.

I understand what people mean now when they talk about having black moods, and just being so depressed and unable to move. I know what it feels like to just feel desperate, and logically you know you shouldn’t feel that way, but there’s no way to kick yourself out of that mode.

This has been a tough year in so many ways. Work is busier. I miss my oldest daughter. My husband’s work has increased, too. And I’m just so tired all of the time. Things that once were easy–like going grocery shopping–seem like so much effort I could curl up in a ball and cry. And sometimes I even do.

I love my husband, but so often I erupt because I just can’t handle life. And I find myself feeling so guilty all the time for not being a good wife and mom that I shut people out, which is totally counterproductive. I just want “me” back again.

Perimenopause and menopause are really hard on some women, and I have a feeling the next ten years are going to rather challenging for me. But at least if there’s one thing that I’ve realized, it’s that I can’t keep going full steam ahead with everything I’m doing. I really need rest, or my body is going to start to shut down!

So if you think of me tomorrow, can you say a prayer for me in surgery? It could either be something really simple or something far more complex, and they won’t know until they get in there.

Thanks so much! And I hope I didn’t scar any of you too badly.

Sheila Gregoire on FacebookOkay, totally shameless plug now that I have you all feeling sorry for me: Can you help me reach 20,000 likes on Facebook this weekend? I’ve been feeling a little down all week, and if I had something to look forward to–some goal other than just “get through surgery and hope I shaved my legs enough that I won’t embarrass myself”, then I’d be happier. I need about 700 more people–so come on over and “like” my page, and send other people my way, too!