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  1. Shirley
    April 22, 2014

    I loved reading the post,I have been married for a year and now only I clearly understood the talks in marriage,thank u Emily

  2. Abby
    April 22, 2014

    Hi e:) great to see you here and I loved hearing this side of you:) I read to my hubby what you wrote under ‘sweet talk’ and it made us both smile:) We’ve been working on all of this especially the sweet talk and connecting at the soul level…what a blessing it all is. This Great Adventure in the journey together…Home:)
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  3. Kelly Davis
    April 22, 2014

    Loved reading this! With an almost 1 year old, I think all the time about how I don’t know who I am anymore, let alone my hubby sitting next to me. I will work on these!

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  4. Liberty Speidel (@LibertySpeidel)
    April 22, 2014

    Great post! I know my husband and I need to work on the Soul talk a lot, but the serious talk a little. Having had a child go through a bone marrow transplant in the last year meant our serious talk really improved, but some areas are still difficult.
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    • Sheila
      April 22, 2014

      Oh, wow, Liberty, that’s such a hard trial to walk through! I’m sure you grew a lot, but I’m sure it was awfully difficult, too. I pray he’s doing well now.

      • Liberty Speidel (@LibertySpeidel)
        May 6, 2014

        Very well now, thank you. We just got back from his 1-year post examinations.
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  5. gurian6
    April 22, 2014

    I really enjoy your blog. I appreciated the 4 S talks for a healthy marriage, however, I would like to add a fifth one – Silly Talk. This is different than Sweet or Small Talk. Silly Talk is about giggles, laughter, and lightening the load.

    • Sheila
      April 22, 2014

      I love silly talk! :)

  6. Dan
    April 23, 2014

    I am more to the introverted side and while soul talk comes easy for me, it is the small talk at which I am not at all good. The sad thing is, without the small talk, people don’t get to know me well enough to feel comfortable engaging in the soul talk. I know we are talking about mates here, but I am the type that likes to dig deep with people, and since I am not a small talker, I don’t gossip about the soul talk when it happens. Everyone needs someone to talk to who can who can keep secrets.
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    • Sheila
      April 23, 2014

      That’s actually an interesting point. I know other people like that, too. I’ll have to ponder that one for a while.

      • Dan
        May 7, 2014

        While you’re pondering it, a very good source about introversion and its disregard in western culture that is a very pleasant read is the book Quiet by Susan Cain. An interesting companion read is The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. Both your daughters need to read Quite for a better understanding of their differing personalities. Both books are not at all textbook like and easy reads. If you know an introvert who feels on the outside a good deal of the time they MUST read quiet. They are not broken, wrong, odd, or anti-social. They are just different and a minority. Like extroverts, they are probably not exclusively one way or the other, but a mix with one being predominant over the other.
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  7. keturah simpson
    April 24, 2014

    Thanks for such a lovely post… it was lokie readibg a page from ‘My Life’ book.

    I’m looking at my marriage in new ways now as we are in our 13th year of marriage. Somedays, it can feel hum drum and I wonder if my teenager and preteen see that too…
    I find this post very insightful.
    Thanks for the share…

  8. laurie
    April 25, 2014

    I love this suggestion and it may sound odd, but do you have advice on beginning topics? Communication is my weakest area and I would love some suggestions to get started.

  9. Jim
    April 26, 2014

    Laurie: go to – google (or other search engine) look for 77 questions, One Extraordinary Marriage. Good topics to get started.
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  10. Ugochi
    April 28, 2014

    I read your article,I must say its a blessing.You have really helped to boost my r-ship with my husband.My husband nd I have been married for 7yrs nw and recently we discovered we are loosing touch of the love we once had but immediately I stumbled on this article I began to separate a lot of things. By God’s grace we re coming back to what we used to have.

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