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  1. Lauren
    April 10, 2014

    I LOVE this. My husband’s family does a big blessing whenever someone gets engaged, and it’s so much cooler than a wedding shower. At ours, when we thanked everyone at the end, my husband announced that other than getting to marry me, that blessing is by far the best thing about being engaged. I love the idea of doing blessings for other life events as well. So awesome.

    • Sheila
      April 10, 2014

      That’s beautiful. What do they do exactly? I’d love to know!

      • Lauren
        April 11, 2014

        They invite people who have been influential in the couple’s lives (immediate and extended family, close friends, etc.) and they have everyone give an individual blessing and advice to the couple over their marriage. Typically, they start with single people or the people who have been married the shortest amount of time and end with grandparents and great-grandparents and it’s really, really sweet and awesome. Since I was the one marrying into the family (and I was from across the country), my immediate family and a couple of people from my extended family came, but my grandparents sent letters and my husband’s family took the opportunity to welcome me into the family and it is just incredibly sweet. We will absolutely do the same if we have kids and they grow up and get married. I have a book of personal written blessings and advice that people from that event gave me too. Best part of being engaged (other than getting to marry my husband at the end!)

  2. Emily
    April 10, 2014

    Our church always prays for the kids before they head off to Sunday School.
    About a year ago, the pastor decided it should be the same blessing every week, so that it goes deep into them and they remember it.
    Now my 4yo recites the prayer of blessing along with the adults every week, and a lot of the other kids know it by heart too. It’s so neat to see.

    • Sheila
      April 10, 2014

      That’s really neat, Emily! I love it.

  3. Monica
    April 10, 2014

    I love this. I usually say a special prayer and blessing over my children on their birthday at dinner or bedtime. I can’t remember where I came up with the idea. It starts with thanking God for them. And then asking God to bless them with a deeper relationship and walk with him, discernment of his calling on their life and whatever else comes to my mind. We are Catholic so every night at bedtime after prayers I trace a cross on their forehead and say may Almighty God bless you. That is kind of a generic blessing if there is a such thing. My children love it even the older ones they think they can’t go to sleep without being kissed and blessed. If I am gone at bedtime I usually arrive to all of them still awake in their beds. When I say why are you still awake they say daddy didn’t. bless us. That being said I have never thought of having a ceremony are party where important. people in their life blessed them as part of a kind of growing up ceremony. I have been thinking about something special to do because they are nearing those years and I had read that our culture lacked those ceremonies that marked their growing into adulthood. And that was important. So now I have some new ideas to ponder. Thank you. I love your blog Shelia

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  4. Polly
    April 10, 2014

    I love the Lord’s timing…I just wrote a post about turning our kids over to the Lord, especially through the heartache I feel as I watch my kindergartener become more independent. Our oldest (of 6) just turned 12. I am so glad I read this post before his 13th birthday! Thank you for the wonderful ideas for the blessing ceremony. It has me thinking already! (As a sidenote, I used to work at a physical therapy clinic where the boss would take us all out to a nice restaurant on each of our birthdays and speak a blessing over the birthday person in the prayer before the meal. It was really neat!)
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  5. A.
    April 10, 2014

    Very interesting! Thank you for sharing. I’ve actually been thinking about the custom of blessing a lot lately. In my family of origin my dad’s side were religious and formal blessings were a part of days like Christmas and the New Year. I’ve been grappling with what that meant for me spiritually, while also seeing all the strife and sins committed by my family (only human, after all). So my thinking has been going more in the direction of being a blessing for my kids, not just speaking one. By that I mean blessing them with life skills, by teaching and modelling these. Blessing them with the knowledge of God, by taking them to church and incorporating things about God into our daily lives. While I do think I am on the right track there, I also still kept thinking about just the spiritual implication of speaking a blessing over them. After all we do read about it way back in the Old Testament and it was a big deal. So this article has given me some more food for thought. I’ll be writing an e-mail requesting the PDF mentioned. My kids are still young, but the teen years will be here before you know it, and I like the idea of a formal type ceremony for them.

  6. amyjo
    April 10, 2014

    I read a book called the Powere of a Parent’s Blessing by Craig Hill…..LOVE IT!

    • Marie Viljoen
      April 10, 2014

      I read that book too. It’s great. We gave our eldest daughter a blessing party at 14yrs. After that she just flourished and is an amazing godly young women today. Our words are powerful as we speak into the lives of our children and this blessing ceremony is the cherry on the cake. Our second daughter anticipates her blessing this year at age 15yrs. We believe that a child/young adult needs to be ready in a receptive manner to accept the blessings given to them.

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