Screwtape Letter to an Exhausted Mom

Today, please welcome Kelsey, who writes at Organizing Life with Littles. She shares a delightful post ala C.S. Lewis’ Screwtape Letters, regarding an exhausted mother.

Screwtape Letter to an Exhausted Mom--We need to fight back!
My Dear Wormwood,

I was thrilled to hear you have been making progress with the mother.  You have a good lead, from what I hear.  She’s feels over-worked, unappreciated, and discouraged?  I’m so glad to hear it.  If you tread carefully, this can be a great opportunity.  With the kids waking her up every hour last night, we already have an advantage.  A tired Mom makes for a more emotional Mom, and an emotional Mom is a vulnerable one.

I do have a few tips.

First, aim your best efforts at her marriage.

As you know, we cannot do much with a unified marriage.  Luckily for us, a cranky and exhausted wife can do wonders to change that.  We must convince her that her husband is no longer the friend and ally she first married.  Instead, we must reveal every sin and selfish habit, especially drawing attention to his thoughtless actions (mal-intended or not) against her.

Sometimes it’s the less obvious things, things the husband doesn’t even realize, that we can use to offend her the most.  When he comes home from work and dumps his things on the counter nearest the door (instead of hanging his coat or putting away his keys), let her think of it as a direct assault on her work as a homekeeper.  When he treks mud in with his shoes, let her think it is because he does not love her.  Such extremes of thought may seem ridiculous to you or I, but to the exhausted mortal woman, it can seem possible.

Your goal is to make her think the husband does not notice, or even better, that he does not care about her efforts at home.

Secondly, do what you can to keep her focused on  her troubles and pains.

Remind her how much her back aches, how draining the children were all day, and how many undone tasks still beckon her.  Do not let her wonder what difficulties her husband faced that day or whether his back might also be aching.  Valuing others above oneself is one of those silly, though strangely effective, tactics of the Enemy.  If she stops to make him a cup of coffee, the next thing you know she’ll be rubbing his shoulders and flirting with him on the couch.  It can progress out of your control if you’re not careful.

Along those lines, be sure the Mother starts to value productivity above everything else.

Have her wake up early and work non-stop until bedtime.  If the husband relaxes in the evening with an hour of computer gaming, be sure the wife notices the pile of unfolded laundry or unswept floors.  Do not let her grab a book and relax alongside her husband.  Diligence, often one of the Enemy’s virtues, when overdone can be used to our advantage as well.  Convince her that as long as there is a shred of work to be done (and there always is), no one should be resting.  Then, as she folds and sweeps and he sits, you can introduce the sweet bitterness of resentment.

A word of caution here.  Remember, the love of a husband can be dangerous to our cause.

If he senses her unhappiness, he may begin to help or (even worse) show her affection.  This is where previously planted seeds of resentment can be guided into full bloom.  Make her think that his displays of affection are because he “only wants one thing”.  Do not let her view his help with the dishes (or kisses or cuddling) as having pure motives.  If he shows his desire for her, convince her that she is being used, not loved.  As we both know, the ultimate Act of Marriage can bond them together in a way that can undo much hard work on our part.  Because of this, do not allow her to prioritize that Act on her mental to-do-list.  It is in our best interest to keep the wife busy, busy, busy and be sure she’s far too exhausted to consider it by the end of the evening.

Now, onto the children.

Lovely little opportunities for us, the children, especially the little ones.

We all know that children are a favorite tool of the Enemy.  He calls them Blessings and Gifts and calls parents to lay down their lives for them, just as his Son did.  Insane, I know.  We must convince her that the obnoxious little people she has charge of are not really worth her sacrifice.  When the Mother first dreamed of having children, she probably imagined large, innocent eyes and chubby, happy grins taking up the majority of her days.  Do your best to shatter those expectations.

Instead, draw attention to how much they take from her.  Let them take and take and take…  And need and need and need, until the Mother feels totally spent.  Let them start crying at the same time for the most irrational of reasons.  Let the noise bother her.  Let their bad behavior surprise her.  Do your best to make the day-to-day monotony of diaper changes, meals, and baths seem simultaneously overwhelming and beneath her.  Let her think of all the better, more important things she could be doing with her life, if only she didn’t have the children.

Don’t let her think about the future responsible, faithful adults she is raising.

Society changers, friends, workers, husbands or wives…  Don’t let her think of them as life-long companions who will love her, converse with her, and care for her in her old age.  Oh, and definitely don’t let her think about the grandchildren she might be able to see in their little grubby faces if she looked hard enough now.  No, no, no…  Thinking ahead to when her work bears fruit, as the Enemy calls it, is always a bad idea.  Keep words like ‘heritage’ or ‘legacy’ far away from the runny noses and jelly stains of the day to day.

If there is any last piece of advice I have for you, Wormwood, it is to keep the Mother looking to her husband or family for her fulfillment and comfort.

We know that the Enemy is always watching and willing to take the burdens of his children, but if we divert the Mother’s attention well enough, this fact can be forgotten.  Make her look to her husband for worth and affirmation.  Then, when he lets her down (as he is sure to do), she will be ours to torment.  Yes, the worst thing that could happen would be for her to turn to Him with her needs and inadequacies.  Once she realizes that the Enemy offers a peace that transcends her situation, our work could be utterly compromised.

Your Malevolent Uncle,

Screwtape

Kelsey ShadeKelsey is a Christian, young wife, and mother of two boys under 3.  She blogs about home management, organization (with kids!), frugal living, and living faithfully at OrganizingLifeWithLittles.com.  You can also find her on Facebook! If you liked this Screwtape Letter, I’m sure Kelsey would appreciate you visiting her sites and connecting with her, too!

Comments

  1. Out-STANDING!

    This was really well done! I read Screwtape Letters a number of years ago, and this could drop right into the chapters perfectly!

    Thanks so much for this very enjoyable (and true!) read!
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  2. Butterflywings says:

    Wow I can’t imagine anyone grumbling about their husband spending an hour gaming. My husband spends on average about 6 hours a day gaming. When stressed (basically the entire last year) he has spent many days where he is play computers games for 16 hours or more. It is so painful when I’ve been up for 36 hours straight with the baby so my husband can get sleep to go to work and instead of sleeping he stays up playing computer games and then doesn’t go to work and sleeps during the day instead. It broke my heart when I was pregnant when I was in so much pain that some days I couldn’t walk (and missed a lot of my antenatal visits because of it) that I kept working until I couldn’t walk more than a few steps every day, while I was having panic attacks every day at work from worrying if my baby would make it through birth (being a very high risk pregnancy), while my husband decided he’d play computer games 16 hours a day and sleep all day and not work. And now we can’t even pay bills because he’s out of leave.

    Despite all that, I love my husband. I’m just so stressed about how we’re going to buy food, keep the electricity on and not lose our house. We can’t downgrade (have a baby, 12 year old and two adults living in a two bedroom townhouse), we’ve seen financial counsellors, there are no savings to be had anywhere. Hubby has to stop playing computer games all day and night and go back to work. My plan is to go back to work in a few weeks but with the taxation system here in Australia means that with a young child and a partner with a job, I keep only 30% of what I make and I earn half as much per hour as hubby does so me working is barely worth it, especially because my job is long way from home and have to put the baby in childcare if I get rostered a weekday shift.

    I don’t know what to do. I pray and pray, but hubby just keeps gaming day and night from the stress. I feel sorry for him – I am stressed too. But I keep being the responsible one and just wish he would be too.

    It’s also not helping our sex life is basically nothing. Baby is 12 weeks old and we’ve had sex three times. I know it’s quite common for women to not want sex after having babies, but I just wish people understood what it’s like to be on the other side – that even though it’s not as common, there are a lot of men out there who go off sex after having a baby and how painful it is to be in physical pain, trying to recover from what is essentially major surgery, while looking after a baby that feeds every 2 hours hours during the day and every hour overnight, and yet still try to have sex for your husband and still be constantly rejected by a man who would rather play computer games til he falls asleep on his keyboard.

    My husband has so many great characteristics but it’s just really hard right now. It’s not effecting our relationship thankfully, but it’s breaking me.

    • Charlotte says:

      Have you talked to him about this problem? 16 hours a day to me sounds like an absolute addiction. This is not stress relief but an actual addiction to the game.

    • Hi Butterflywings,

      I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially with a baby! That must be so hard.

      Just a few thoughts. Quite often in a marriage a polarization happens; maybe you started out with you doing a little bit more housework than him, but then the more you do, the less he does, until he’s doing none at all. It can be like that for most things; we start out about even, but as one adopts more and more of the responsibility, the other adopts less, causing the first to adopt more, and so on, and so on.

      It’s quite likely that he won’t step up to the plate if you’re doing everything. So you have to start cutting back.

      Perhaps you can go to work and he can stay home, even if you make less money, and then he has to look after the baby. He may soon tire of that and decide to go back to work. Or you can start saying, “it’s your night to get up with the baby”, and then you stop getting up with the baby, so that he has to.

      From your previous comments, I know that you haven’t been married all that long; maybe just 2 or 3 years? And I know from your comments that your husband has a very low sex drive; won’t work; plays video games a lot; suffers from depression; won’t make the effort to go to church; and basically does very little of anything.

      So if you don’t mind me asking, has this all changed since you got married? Or was this what he was like beforehand, too? In other words, what attracted you to him? Maybe if you started trying to get back to what attracted you to each other some of these obstacles could be overcome.

      If he won’t work, and won’t care for the baby, then you have a real problem because he’s now a drain on the household, and is costing you money. Are there pastors or brothers or fathers or his own mother that you can get to rally around you and make him step up to the plate?

      I don’t know what else to suggest, because it certainly sounds like a pickle from all that you’ve said in this post and the previous post, but I do know that things don’t change until we start acting differently. So ask yourself, “am I enabling him to be lazy in any way, and enabling him to not care for his family?” And if you are, you have to stop doing that.

      I hope that’s a bit of a help, but I’d focus on one or two things that you can actually do to start changing the dynamic, whether it’s doing less of something, getting others involved, or just sitting down and having a heart to heart and setting some firm boundaries and expectations on him.

      • ButterflyWings says:

        We have talked about his gaming and anxiety. He said he hadn’t remembered to take his anxiety medicine most days since the baby was born. But I’m not allowed to remind him just once a day because that’s “nagging” *rolls eyes*. When he’s not stressed though (and goes to work) he still plays 4-6 hours a day. I could cope with half that.

        We’ve been married 18 months. He was fine until we found out we were having a baby. I knew he had a history of anxiety but it hadn’t bothered him for nearly a decade. It took months before he’d even see someone about it – and only because his work basically threatened to fire him if he didn’t get professional help for it.

        He’s not deliberately lazy – he actually does half of the housework that actually gets done – he probably spends half as much time as me on housework, but because of my health he can do as much as I do in half the time so he is achieving half the housework. I’m not picking up the slack for him – basically a huge chunk of the house work doesn’t get done – and since we both hate mess, it’s just one more stress.

        Him staying at home and me working is not an option – my job is only part time (and I physically struggle to do that and am weighing up and praying over working less hours when I go back), my pre-tax hourly pay rate is half his and I effectively pay double the tax he does, so if I go to work and he stays at home, I earn less than 10% of what he does – I couldn’t even cover half our mortgage on what I bring home. We actually both need to be working – he earns enough to just barely cover our mortgage and bills, while I need to work to cover my medical expenses and pay off our other debts (despite what most people think, healthcare is not truly free in Australia and where we live healthcare is especially expensive). Moving isn’t possible either.

        The church situation is a worry to me. When we were visiting our hometown for a few weeks over christmas, we went every week, alternating between his old church and my old church, mainly because they have a night service. I feel bad because I’ve been too sick to go in the morning for years and our church here only has morning services. It’s complicated – neither of us want to change churches because we love our church, but if I’m not well enough to go in the mornings and he won’t go without me, what then? In saying that, we do still go to bible study nearly every week so we are getting fellowship and teaching.

        My frustration is the nights I’ve stayed up with the baby literally all night so he can go to work and then he stays up too late gaming, and then sleeps in and doesn’t go to work. There have been a few nights in the last few weeks where I’ve just not been able to take it anymore and wake him up at 4am and just hand him the baby. The thing is, he’s really good on weekends – he has her for 12 hours so I can get some sleep but daytime is when she actually sleeps so it’s “easy shift” if you can call it that. And some of his time off work isn’t his fault. He’s been really good with driving me to medical appointments and scans because the hospital is too far away for me to drive to yet (still recovering from c-section). I have had so many appointments and scans in the last 2 months because I couldn’t get them done while pregnant – yesterday one scan involved going to the hospital 5 hours which he stayed and looked after the baby.

        He’s a good man. He does have a gaming addiction and it’s something I think we need to discuss in our next marriage counselling session. We’ve been having a lot of arguments since the baby was born, a lot of it to do with him not going to work on the days he should. We’re both so tired. There have been a few nights where I couldn’t take it anymore and just went to bed and he has taken over but then he’s too tired for work too. The baby hardly sleeps at night to the point where we’re actually going to spend a week in hospital next week to try to get to the bottom of why as we know it’s not normal. And another part of the problem is our house is so tiny that when the baby cries, she wakes up anyone who is sleeping no matter where they are so we’re both getting broken sleep and my older daughter is noisy during daylight hours (when the baby actually sleeps a bit) so no one can sleep when she’s home and awake either.

        That’s why I’m not upset at him or anything. Neither of us are coping with the sleep deprivation.

        I don’t think there really is anyone to involve. The pastor he was close to for years left our church to go to another interstate a few months ago, all his family are interstate and while he’s close to one of his brothers and his dad, they are all the silent type (ie they simply don’t talk about anything with any emotional content, my husband is the only one diagnosed with aspergers, but I’m pretty sure his dad and the brother he is close to both have it too), I’ve approached his mum, especially when he started getting anxious and depressed and started skipping work 10 months ago because I honestly thought she’d speak to him (because he’ll do anything she says) but basically the response was he’s a grown man. I get it – it was a good thing she raised him that actions have consequences and it wasn’t his parents place to pick up after his mistakes and that his decisions had consequences, but it’s different being a wife than a mother because the consequences of his actions effect the kids and I as well, whereas parents don’t have that. In saying that, I’m pretty sure the only reason he started medication was because she suggested he do it otherwise he wouldn’t have. (and that hurts that I can suggest something to him for months or years and he won’t listen, but when his mum suggests it, he usually does it immediately). She has actually spoken to him that she’s worried about him missing work and gaming too much, but this time, he’s not listening.

        There is our bible study leader, but he and his wife have spoken to us together, but I find it difficult because it also involves criticising me for not keeping the house cleaner which I find leaves me feeling even more depressed (and I’ve been diagnosed with a severe depressive episode recently with all that is going on) because I genuinely can’t do more than I am doing. I am struggling just to walk around the house and do things like pick up the baby out of her bassinette because of the pain and I keep missing important medical appointments because I’m too tired and in too much pain to go. It’s very difficult to cope with having it implied that I’m lazy for not doing what most people can do when I genuinely can’t do because of my health – but few people understand (or even believe) what it’s like to be a young person with serious chronic health problems. We’re really hoping and praying that the baby starts sleeping better soon because it will help with my health, and we’re hoping soon I can go back on some medications that I had to stop when trying to conceive. Now that I’ve stopped breastfeeding I can start back on some medications (starting tonight actually), but have to wait before going back on the better ones.

        It’s also tough because in the last week I’ve found out that being pregnant also masked some of the deterioration in my health, a lot worse than I was expecting. Things like my arthritis (osteo and rheumatoid both) are degenerative, but didn’t expect so much. I get the results of some scans today (although the radiologist actually told me some of the results during the scan because it was so visible) and I’m hoping it comes back that knee and wrist surgery is all I need at this stage and not more but really scared about it being more.

        What I love about my husband is he married me despite knowing about my health. He knows that I may be in a wheelchair by the time I’m 40 (although I’m not sure he actually accepts the possibility – he believes me it’s possible but refuses to accept that it actually could happen). He does all the little things like helps me get dressed on the days I can’t reach above my head to get shirts on etc. When I was pregnant he’d even do things like take my shoes and socks off on the days I couldn’t reach my feet. Even though he’ll make me wait til he’s finished whatever “mission” on his game he’s playing, he’ll do things like bring me the baby bottle so I don’t have to hurt myself getting up and down. And what means the world to me is he treats my older daughter like his own flesh and blood, and he does all the things for her that I can’t like driving her places and trying to stop her annoying me when I’m trying to sleep.

        I don’t understand the low sex drive. I really don’t. I feel sick and constantly exhausted and in a lot of pain and I still want sex more than he does. It’s been three times in three months now and the last time was a disaster because the lock on our bedroom door is broken so our older daughter walked in (and this is after warning her that we were going to be having grown up time after she went to bed and that if she woke up for any reason not to disturb us). Maybe he’s unconsciously scared of falling pregnant, I don’t know, but we are fine with contraception and since we’re using condoms and I know when I ovulate (it’s painfully obvious unfortunately), there is next to no chance of falling pregnant.

        I don’t know, I’m not even sure if my post is making sense anymore I’m that tired (it’s 5:30am here, been up all night again and haven’t had a proper sleep in too long). Just waiting for 7am to come so baby can go to childcare (she goes one day a week so I can manage medical appointments) and I can get some sleep for a few hours til my first appointment this afternoon.

        • Just a thought, Butterfly Wings, you say that your husband is a good man and that your relationship is not at risk because of his behaviors. However, if you want to continue to believe that, you might want to lay off from talking so negatively about him, even if it is online to strangers. I have found that I can feel negatively about my husband from time to time, but if I speak positively of him and highlight his good traits, I can focus on the good rather than the bad and I can truly feel lucky and blessed to have him. Much of what you have said is about how your situation is terrible but there is no chance that it will ever get better. It sounds like one of the best things you could do for yourself is to look at the positive side of things. It will take a conscious effort to do that, but if you want to continue believing that your husband is a good man, you should probably describe him as a good man to yourself and anyone you may talk to.

          • ButterflyWings says:

            I understand what you’re saying Lauren. I do think he is a good man, but that he does have an addiction. Our relationship isn’t at risk, but both his and my mental and physical health are at risk. I guess with a blog that addresses marital problems, I feel safe sharing the problems so that when it comes to those in our “real life” I can just talk about the positives and not the negatives. Just that there needs to be a safe place to seek help for the negatives. I do think things will get better, just it’s going to take a while. We need the baby to sleep at night so I can get enough sleep to go back to work, and once I’m back at work the pressure he feels at being the sole income earner will lift and he’ll stop feeling so anxious. It’s just been a long 3 months of little sleep and lots of stress for both of us.

        • Hippie4ever says:

          I’ll be praying for you ButterflyWings

        • Dear Butterfly Wings,

          I could have written this post almost verbatim for years. I have good news for you. It gets better. Here’s the thing, it may take a while. It will probably require a ton of prayer. No, not probably. It will. Make Philipians 4 your mantra. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God that transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally brothers, whatever is good, noble, kind, praiseworthy, admirable, excellent (etc) think about such things.

          You will not get better when you continue to dwell on things that you cannot change. Oh my goodness, my house was a disaster. I’ve been taking St. John’s Wort with some enzymes to help with depression. It is literally the difference between night and day. I had so many health issues. I changed my diet which helped with that. God has not left you. He will NEVER leave you nor forsake you. Read verses that talk about how God sees you. In the hands of the Lord you are as a royal diadem. In other words, you are amazingly beautiful. Don’t let the way that your husband does NOT show his desire for you become what you think of yourself. Realize that you are spectacularly beautiful in the hands of the Lord. AND STAY THERE. In God’s hands, you will blossom and flourish, and guess what, your husband will probably take notice. It will take a while. I may seem like forever. And it won’t be perfect, but if you persevere, you can make it.

          While your taking care of what you need to, don’t do it so he will notice you. Don’t do it so he will want to desire you. (No, that’s not redundant, there was a long time that my husband didn’t even WANT to WANT me.) Don’t make his issues your issues. Pray that you would find favor in the eyes of your husband, but while you’re waiting upon God, do ALL things joyfully as though you are doing them for God. God sees it. It pleases God.

          Take care of yourself. Do the things that make you feel good about yourself. Not hedonistic, mind you, don’t go all out–I’m just going to do this because it makes me happy. No, I’m talking about putting on a little makeup if that’s what makes you feel human. I’m talking about losing weight if it makes you feel better. I’m talking about buying that scarf at the thrift store because it pulls your outfit together and makes you feel classy.

          But most of all, take all of that hurt and despair and give it to God. He’s listening. He loves you with an everlasting love. And He’s going to take care of you. LET HIM.

          HUGS. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I would rather you didn’t have to. But just remember that you are not alone.

          Love,
          Someone who’s walked in a very similar pair of shoes

          • This would have been my advice….but much more eloquently put!! Beautiful words, RV!

            I have a baby around the same age as yours and trust me, I know the exhaustion. I don’t have the other issues that you had/have but I know the feeling of being crazy tired. I just said a prayer for you, Sweetie! I hope things are better now.
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    • Butterflywings, I can tell how much pain your husband’s actions are causing you, but have no advice that’s not already been said. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. Have courage, dear sister. Our God is mighty to save, even the most addicted of us. Turn to Christ with your sufferings, do your husband good despite his sin, and cling to Jesus. Prayers and hugs your way!
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  3. Wow, this post is right on target. I agree with so many of the temptations described in this post. Very well done.
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  4. Brilliant.
    And timely. Thank you.
    I have been feeling like it was “all my job” lately, and last night my (amazing, wonderful) husband reminded me that we’re team, and if I let him know the game plan he is more than willing to work with me. He’s so right. I was trying to do it all, and not letting anyone know what I was trying to do. Now we’re on the same page again, and I know everything will get done without me losing my mind!! :)

  5. Well done Kelsey! This is well-written and so true as to how the Enemy uses those pressure points to bring about bitterness, resentment and chaos.
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  6. Bravo this was well written. I love Screwtape letters so this caught my eye I will be sharing
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  7. Anonymous says:

    What a picture of my life. Fortunately I am well aware that the enemy is my battle and not my family. I just love reading it because it just helps encourage me and helps deal with the day to day stress of a busy mother and child of god!

  8. Well done!

  9. Well written! I adore the Screwtape Letters, so I had to come read this. I especially love the last bit of advice to keep her looking her to husband and children for affirmation. How often we mamas/wives fall into that trap! I’ll be sharing this one around. :)
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  10. Heather P says:

    This is wonderful! Really makes you think about keeping your thoughts in the right place, as well as your thoughts on the right priority. Well written! It looks and sounds like the original “Screwtape Letters” by C.S. Lewis. Cannot believe I had to process through several authors before coming up with his name.:(

  11. Kelsey this is such a interesting post! It’s so on point! I just recently read the Screw tape letters, and I find this to be a wonderful “rendition” for the tired mum. Not there yet but I appreciate the perspective in advance! Thanks for sharing.
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  12. I love this! I sent it to a friend, shared it on Facebook, and pinned it! Maybe “love” is an understatement! Thank you!
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  13. Wonderfully Written, Jack would be proud!
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  14. What a wonderful piece, Kelsey! Truly informative and entertaining. Thanks!
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  15. Wow! This is amazing and spot on. It’s creepy how I can picture demons strategizing in this exact way! Great reminders!

  16. Hippie4ever says:

    Marvelous job! Sounds as if c.s. Lewis could have penned it! I recommend a whole book, I would buy it :)

  17. Jeannie K says:

    This is so great! Thank you! It’s like you have a window into my brain and all my thoughts. Thank you for putting everything into perspective.

  18. This. Is. Amazing.

    Well written and it really reveals the enemies plans so clearly, for anyone who wonders. You are keeping the legacy of C. S. Lewis alive, and encouraging wives at the same time. Bless you!
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  19. This is awesome! Thanks for sharing. ; )

  20. This was really well done! Great Job! You did an excellent job replicating lots of the tactics that the Adversary uses quite often. It is almost overwhelming to think about all of the different ways that we are tempted to sin or to not acknowledge all the ways that God loves us. I know for me, at times it seems as though there is almost no choice other than to give in to those temptations. It is inspiring to me however, to remember that we always have a choice. We can always choose what we do and how we react in every situation. God will always allow us to choose to make steps back towards him. One of my friends, Dan, wrote an article where he talks about how we are often surrounded by the temptations you mentioned and also how we can choose to not give into those temptations. I think that you would really enjoy it. You can find it here http://goo.gl/3vJe50 I hope you enjoy it and thanks again for your article!
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  21. Wow. Poignant and true. Thanks for this reminder not give the enemy a foothold.
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  22. Mary Rathbone says:

    Fantastic! As someone who had taught this book and adores CS Lewis I felt this post was sent right from God to me. Well done.

  23. Kelsey…you spoke to my heart today. It was so painful to see images of myself through the years and even more recently in here. A very timely reminder at a very stressful time in my life. I know that my coming to Sheila’s site today was no coincidence. Thank you so much!I’ll be sharing this one for sure. God bless you.

  24. Worn out, exhausted new mom right here. A friend shared your post with me and it is wonderfully encouraging. Thank you!

  25. Excellent! Well done!

  26. I am with Jason up at the top: OUTSTANDING! I just started reading The Screwtape Letters and THIS could not have come at a better time! It’s scary how much this pertains to my life. Fantastic piece! Thank you for sharing!
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  27. Well, this sat me right back on my butt this morning. I called my husband over and we laughed (and I cried a little bit) because it was word for word exactly the things we’ve been fighting about lately – rather, the things that I was letting satan tell me was true. I was so busy feeling justified and right, I forgot to check if maybe I wasn’t. I’m not saying I don’t have valid concerns, but this post just put things into perspective for me. And my husband realized that he’s not the only one in the world who has to hear all this from his wife. Thanks for helping me see that I need to repent of some things, and also not feel alone in my frustration. And for making both of us laugh at our situation, which was definitely needed.

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