It’s strange how that happens sometimes. God uses our difficult situations to teach us important lessons. I was blessed to have some very loving and supportive friends in my life during that hard time. I know that not everyone has that when going through a divorce. People often ask me how they can best help/support single moms like me. Today I want to share four ways that married couples can be a blessing to single parents and those whose marriage may be in crisis.
Prayer is one thing that you can never have too much of. There were many people praying for me as I walked the difficult path of divorce for 3.5 years. And there have been even more praying for me since. If you know of a family that is in crisis or a single mom or dad pray for them. Pray for healing and restoration for all involved. Pray for peace in the home and comfort for the children. If you have the chance to ask the family for specific prayer needs great! And don’t forget to pray about other ways to be a blessing.
2. Be a Mentor
One of the things that was sorely lacking in my marriage was a godly example of what a husband and wife were called to do. No one sat us down to walk us through the God required of each of us in our marriage. And no one was there to show us the godly way to resolve our issues. If you know a newly married couple or a couple that is having some trouble consider mentoring them. Walk with them on the journey of marriage.
3. Continue to be a Source of Support
I can’t speak for single dads but as a single mom I need lots of help and support. There’s no man in my home or someone that is around on a consistent basis to be a role model for my boys. There are things that I struggle with because I’m a woman and don’t truly understand all the inner workings of boyhood. I have a friend that has adopted my little family. She and her husband pray for us regularly. They have us over for dinner and her husbands takes some time to pour into my boys spiritually. There are no words that can express how much that blesses me. Divorce is hard and the hard part isn’t over when the judge signs off on the final judgment. Single parents need all the support we can get.
4. Be an Example
Invite a single mom and her children over for dinner. There are many reasons for this. You give her a night off of kitchen duty. You also have a chance to see if there are any needs that you can minister to. But another thing that is really important (and often overlooked) is that you have the opportunity to show the children in that family what God intended a family to look like.
There are all those scary statistics about children (especially boys) raised by single moms.
Want to help with those numbers?
- Be an example.
- Give those children a chance to see a husband loving and supporting his wife and children.
- Show them a wife serving her family joyfully.
- Let them see children, who respect and obey their parents.
It makes a difference!
When my boys started asking me what a man was supposed to do, it was hard for me to answer. I couldn’t point them to their father at the time because he was not walking with God. But I was able to point to my friend’s husband and say, “You see how hard Mr. X works? He is providing for his family and he always makes sure to do fun stuff with his children even when he is tired.”
There are many other ways to for married couples to be a blessing to single parents. What would you add to the list?