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  1. TK
    January 21, 2014

    I was so shocked and thankful to see fiction books in your list! I love to read good Christian fiction (and have read both of your suggested books). In absorbing characters for 30-45 minutes each evening when I read before bed I do tend to absorb their good (or not so good if it isn’ t a good book!) character traits. :)

    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      I think a fiction book can stay with you and “haunt” you in ways that a nonfiction one can’t. I know I’ve read plenty of Christian fiction that has inspired me to be a better wife, a better mom, a better person. Fiction has its place for sure!

      • Michelle
        January 23, 2014

        I totally agree! Christian fiction shows us how to put into practice what the Bible says.

        Thank you for all your encouragement, guidance and direction to help us be the best wives God meant for us to be <3

  2. Annie Kate
    January 21, 2014

    I don’t know if this one was on the facebook list, but here’s a great new one about being friends in marriage: My Beloved and My Friend by Hal and Melanie Young. I got to review an advance reader copy and the book officially launches for Valentine’s Day, but I think it’s already available.

    For more info, you can check out my review: http://anniekateshomeschoolreviews.com/2013/10/review-my-beloved-and-my-friend-by-hal-and-melanie-young/

    Sheila, I hope it’s OK to include a link to my review. If not, please remove the link and just post the rest of the comment, because it’s truly a wonderful book and people should know about it.
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    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      Absolutely! Thanks Annie Kate.

  3. Angela
    January 21, 2014

    Thank you for posting this great list of books, Sheila! Some of those are new to me.

    If I could offer two additional suggestions: Timothy Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage (for its picture of what a Christlike marriage looks like) and Gary Thomas’s Sacred Influence: How God Uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands (for its practical suggestions for changing and refining a wife’s attitude toward and love for her husband).

    I think we have similar tastes in fiction (I adore Francine but am underwhelmed by most of Karen Kingbury’s novels, except for the one you noted above and the Redemption series she wrote with Gary Smalley). However, I have a different perspective of the wife in Francine River’s And the Shofar Blew. Considering the elders that her husband had surrounded himself with, I’m not sure any would not have listened to her. I think she did the most powerful thing she could do for her husband: she prayed. It took a lot of pain, but the Lord did answer her prayers.

    Finally, I’d like to suggest another fiction author who writes stories of characters overcoming real struggles in real marriages: Lynn Austin (book suggestion: Eve’s Daughters). Also, Robin Lee Hatcher recently published a redemptive marriage novel (A Promise Kept) that is based on her own marriage struggles, although I haven’t read it yet.
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    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      Angela, thanks for those! I love Gary Thomas’ Sacred Marriage and Sacred Search, and I’ve mentioned them both a ton on this blog, but I’ve never read Sacred Influence. I’ll have to!

      And I absolutely LOVED Eve’s Daughters! Thanks for reminding me. Maybe I’ll have to write a follow-up on the 10 best novels.

      • Kathy
        January 24, 2014

        Sacred Marriage is my favorite marriage book, and Sacred Influence is definitely a winner too! From a Biblical standpoint on marriage roles, he spends a few chapters telling wives they need to recognize who they are in Christ and that they aren’t anybody’s doormat, then he gives practical advice on specific situations.

  4. Janet
    January 21, 2014

    There is another book I would love to suggest it is by: Paul David Tripp “What did you Expect?” Redeeming the realities of marriage. It is really deep and to the point. We are teaching it in our marriage classes at our church, it is very convicting no matter where you are in your marriage. Very life changing for sure.
    Janet Surrett

    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      Looks great, Janet! Thanks. And readers can find it right here.

  5. Jessica McCleese
    January 21, 2014

    Sheila:

    Thanks so much for adding this list and descriptions for the books. I’m always looking for more resources!

    So far, the only one I have read from your list is the Boundaries book. It is really good! I’ve been meaning to read your book for a while since it was recommended to me. I will be getting it soon.

    :)

    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      I hope you love my book!

  6. Megan G.
    January 21, 2014

    The book Love and Respect absolutely saved our marriage. We buy it and The Good Girl’s Guide for everyone we know who is getting married! I’ve read a couple of these and will put a couple of them on my wish list. Thanks for compiling this!
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    • Sheila
      January 21, 2014

      Love and Respect is a great one, too! I guess I didn’t mention it because I feel like so many people have read it already. I was trying to stay away from The Five Love Languages and Love and Respect, etc. etc. But it is amazing! And thanks so much for buying my book for bridal showers! I appreciate it!

  7. J (Hot, Holy & Humorous)
    January 21, 2014

    How delightful to be in this list with such fabulous authors (including YOU, Sheila!). I see a couple here I definitely need to add to my reading list for the year. Thanks!
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  8. D
    January 21, 2014

    I am dismayed that no one has suggested Love & War by John & Stasi Eldredge! We read it when we were dating and then did it in a small-group a year later. We give it as a wedding gift to all our engaged friends.
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  9. Tammy
    January 21, 2014

    I was going to ask – I have two nieces that are getting married this year. One is younger, definately Christian, but VERY immature and shows no respect for her husband, even now. The other is a bit older (30), falling from the church, and I’m not sure on relationship, but from experience…I know being the breadwinner makes it hard on the relationship. For both, I am very worried for their relationship, and wanted to buy them a book for the couple for their wedding.
    From the above, it sounds like “Love and War” from one of the comments would be appropriate. Are there any other suggestions for couples starting out?

    • Sheila
      January 22, 2014

      Tammy, great question! I think Love and Respect would be a good one, especially for your immature niece. That explains what each spouse needs and alerts you to some of the conflicts you’ll likely encounter. It would likely work for the other couple, too. And, of course, I always recommend The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex to any new couple, even if they’ve had sex before marriage, because it explains how it’s all supposed to work once you are married, and helps people see what true intimacy is, which they were often lacking before marriage. Love and War would also be good, and maybe Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti, because that one’s just fun!

  10. shannon mitchell
    January 22, 2014

    Love this!

  11. Erica
    January 23, 2014

    Friends and Lovers by Sam and Geri Laing; I Choose Us by John and Karen Louis – two of the best we’ve read in our 18 years of marriage!

    • Sheila
      January 23, 2014

      Thanks for those recommendations, Erica! I’ll check them out.

  12. MrsSasquatch
    August 26, 2014

    This is a great list! However I want to present a little different opinion about the statement about the Francine Rivers book. Maybe a story is just a story – and maybe she isn’t telling someone how they should live out a similar scenario. Seems like she’s telling how one person did and it didn’t work out so well. It’s one thing I dislike about the *Christian fiction* genre is that everyone is expected to do the perfect and right thing all the time. That isn’t true of the Bible or real life. We dumb down rich and interesting stories of real people who are muttling through the best they can when we make them all robots.

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