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  1. Ngina Otiende
    October 2, 2013

    Great words of truth Rajdeep!

    What you’ve said about food is so true..Nothing gets us spiraling down faster, on those “down days” than a lot of over-processed foods and carbs, too much sugar and salt. They clog our systems and make the body, brain and emotions raw, slow. sluggish, dull and clouded. Funny thing is that when we are battling down days is when we crave some of these unhealthy things…so we need to MAKE choices!
    Thanks for sharing your journey.
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  2. Gaye @CalmHealthySexy
    October 2, 2013

    These are great points! Like Ngina, I feel especially passionate about #2. Taking care of our bodies through regular exercise and healthy food choices are essential to feeling good AND feeling good about ourselves. I’m sharing a post here today about the importance of moving your body every day – for me it makes all the difference in the world. Thanks so much for sharing.
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  3. Michelle
    October 2, 2013

    That is exactly what I needed today. I too have gotten into the same game of blaming myself for all problems. Simple or big. My husband is frustrated to say the least…I have already started doing some of these things and my thoughts toward myself are starting to change. Thank you so much for your honesty.

    • Rajdeep Paulus
      October 2, 2013

      Your welcome, Michelle. :) And we’re all guilty of falling back into bad patterns when conflict arises, but once you and your hubby know better, you can tackle the problems and not each other. Work in progress is what I say, we are all on a journey. -Raj
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  4. Heather D
    October 2, 2013

    I love the suggestion of spending more time with girlfriends. I really don’t have a lot of girlfriends, as most of my closer friends moved away in the past few years. The other day my sweet husband suggested that I get away for a weekend and spend some time with my friends. I seriously had no idea that I was exhausting him with my emotional chatter. This post really opened my eyes!

    • Rajdeep Paulus
      October 2, 2013

      Can’t imagine my life without girlfriends. They say a woman says 3000 words for a man’s every 300. I think I surpassed this today when Hubby came home for lunch. Poor fella. I usually try to unload most of my external processing on my BFF and my sister. And my blog, of course. :) Thanks for stopping by an leaving a comment, Heather. -Raj
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  5. Crystal
    October 2, 2013

    Great article. However, I am not there with the #1 suggestion. I absolutely do not see myself as pretty or even cute. I used to be when I was 45lbs lighter. However that was when my hubby & I were separated & on the brink of divorce, 2 kids, 2 c-sections & 10 yrs ago. I have tried to list 5 things I like about my body, per “31 Days to Great Sex.” But I only focus on the flabby belly with stretch marks, surgery scars, fatter ( fuller sounds better, but just being honest) face, ugly haircut, eczema-stricken hands & gnarly feet. I just see my body looking more like my overweight mother’s body. Yuk. So when I look at my body, I see my moms. Ugh. My hubby made a comment that I was “hot” when he saw a picture of me 10 yrs ago. That has stuck w me. He does tell me at times that he loves my butt or if I high heels on. But I just don’t see myself as a sexy person like some celebrities. And that I shouldn’t have hot, steamy enjoyable sex. I’m trying to tell myself differently after reading “Good Girls Guide…” But the lies override my positive thoughts. Sorry for all the ranting.

    • Hanlie
      October 2, 2013

      It’s important to remember that celebrities and models don’t even look like celebrities. They are all photo shopped and air brushed. They also diet every day of their lives and spend between 1 and 4 hours a day in the gym. Sure we could look more like them if we had personal trainers, dieticians, chefs, make-up artist, hair-stylist and style consultants to look after us and hours a day to exercise but we don’t. So please don’t compare yourself to women in the media. I stopped watching TV and I never read magazines and guess what? I feel way better about my body.

      Do something nice to your body every day (sleep 7/8 hours, eat 5 fruits or vegetables, go for a 15 min walk whatever) and keep telling yourself the truth: you are a daughter of the Most High King! You are lovely.

      • Rajdeep Paulus
        October 2, 2013

        Nicely handled, Hanlie. Especially the final line. I always tell my princesses (all four of them) that the only mirror that matters is the reflection in God’s eyes. But I also challenge them to love themselves by taking care of their mind, body, heart and spirit. And anything worth wanting takes hard work. Fight for your best self, Crystal. We’re all in this fight together! :) hugs, Raj
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  6. Summer
    October 7, 2013

    I LOVE this Sheila!! Thanks for encouraging us ladies not to forget about ourselves in the process of loving our hubbies. Great list!
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  7. Sarah
    February 19, 2014

    Excellent post. I would add that sometimes one spouse’s insecurity may be magnified by the other spouse’s sinful behaviors or put-downs, and that such things need to be addressed through Biblical counseling. Learning how to love each other selflessly and communicate in a way that honors the Lord can make a huge difference.
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