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  1. Tammy
    September 11, 2013

    Love it – for all members of the family.
    I will admit – I love reading these marriage blogs. But for a couple of the women, I wonder how they address so much and deal with so many concerns that stem from the blog (which is helpful to us), but still maintain their marriage and other responsibilities.

  2. Joy Suo
    September 11, 2013

    My husband could have written this! I am so blessed by it, Thank you Sheila. I will follow the steps you have outlined and make the necessary changes, God help me so to do!

  3. J (Hot, Holy & Humorous)
    September 11, 2013

    Wonderful topic, Sheila! And your answers are spot on.

    Indeed, several months ago, my husband took a day off work and took me out to lunch. About halfway through, he said, “I don’t feel like you’re here with me. You keep checking your phone.” Indeed, I had posted that morning and felt compelled to check messages, respond to comments, tweet, etc. But he was right! Why was I throwing away that special time with my husband when the Internet could wait a few hours?!! Our new rule: No phone use on dates. If it vibrates, we can look to make sure the kids are okay. But if it’s not about the kids, the phone gets put away.
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  4. Ngina Otiende
    September 11, 2013

    This is such a great post Sheila! Before I began blogging, I was not on the internet at all. Now I have a blog and I use internet for work primarily but i have to fight to keep it that way.

    I really love # 4, it’s important to replace a bad habit with something else. Yesterday i curved some time to read a book, but since my books are in kindle i was stuck! Reading from a device made me feel like i hadn’t unplugged at all. So i took a nap instead! So maybe next time i should pick up a physical book (and i have plenty around my house!) :)
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  5. Tracy
    September 11, 2013

    This week my husband and I started turning off our computers one night a week, after our son goes to bed, so that we can spend more quality time together. When this becomes a habit then we may add a second night. He and I are both addicted to our computers.
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  6. Paul H. Byerly
    September 11, 2013

    I think it is usually (always?) useful to ask why someone does something too much. Often it is filling a need that is not being filled by anything else. Internet addiction, especially for women, can be filling a need to connect and relate with others. Women who are stuck at home, especially those with young children, may not get the social interaction they need to be healthy. The Internet becomes that for them, but because it is not as effective as real life connections it does not really fill the need and they seek great amounts of it to try to get enough.

    If this is the root problem for a woman, she needs to find real life interaction to fill her need. This will make it easy, even desirable to cut back on her Internet use.

    If the Internet addition is treating a symptom, reducing use will not change the root need, and some other harmful behaviour may come in to try to treat the symptom.

    • Sheila
      September 11, 2013

      Very true! I think it starts off fulfilling a legitimate need, and then it takes on a life of its own.

  7. Cassie
    September 11, 2013

    #3 is a big one! My husband was going to have to start getting up super early. I decided to start getting up with him so we would go to the bed at the same time as well. Best choice ever!
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  8. Letha
    September 11, 2013

    Wow! I would just love to have my husband want my attention like that. I’d give anything to have my husband go to bed when I do… And want to hold my hand, wow what a treat. Wish this poor wife really knew what she was missing.

  9. Becky
    September 11, 2013

    This hits me hard! Between homeschooling, my website, taking care of the house… my nights seem like the *perfect* time to relax! So here I am at 11:30 at night, alone in the office, looking at blogs while my husband is sleeping. I do need to work harder at keeping the internet away for the sake of my marriage and family!
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  10. KellyK(@RNCCRN9706)
    September 12, 2013

    My husband says the same. I told him, look, it’s partly YOUR FAULT! On Football Saturdays, you brought your friends over to our house to hang out & watch the games & have some beers… I had no females to chat with.. So once I got high speed Internet and a laptop(around the time MySpace took off) I used that to occupy my time. Then Facebook took over. Most of my friends are “online” I’ve met some in real life

    . Before I became a mom, I’d unwind after working 2nd shift on a nurses message board and some of us became friends chatting in the chat room there. We then started our own message board and 12 years later, are still friends today! We’ve gone through marriages, births, deaths, divorces, infertility, infidelity, you name it! We send each other Christmas Cards every year. One lives in Vega$ and we’re planning a reunion for next summer! These women sent me baby gifts when my son was born! One from across the Pond!

    Working a full time 3rd shift job makes it hard to make friends. I’ve lived in my town for 14 years and I STILL don’t have a girlfriend to call & hang out with :( Hubby works 2nd shift during the week so I see him for 10 min in the morning, if that. He wasn’t raised attending Church. I was raised Roman Catholic. I’ve been wanting to take our son to church but can’t decide whether I want to take him to the Methodist, Lutheran, Baptist, Church of Christ orChurch of God congregations in our community.

  11. Jennifer
    October 28, 2013

    Well Said. I just wrote a blog post a couple weeks ago about this very same topic and most everything I write is from personal experience. http://aheartformyhome.blogspot.com/2013/10/is-social-media-taking-over-your-family.html
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