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  1. Shannon
    June 6, 2013

    This post is so timely for my husband and me! I love being at home, so our recreational time is usually spent here.
    My husband mentioned last night that he’d like to get out of the house more often. He pointed out that there are a lot of distractions when we’re at home that can keep us from fully engaging in recreational activities. We may be doing something for fun (e.g., reading together, watching a movie, playing a game), but I’ll pause to start dinner, move a load of laundry from the washer to the dryer, load the dishwasher, etc. It’s hard to disengage from these tasks. If we leave the house, then they don’t pose a distraction.
    I think this is another reason why it’s good to get out and do things together.
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  2. Cheryl
    June 6, 2013

    Thank you, Sheila for yet another inspiring read. I know that as the organiser of the social calendar in our household that my mood influences whether we get out as a couple or a family. Thank you for the reminder that we do just need to make the effort some time.

  3. Scott Perkins
    June 6, 2013

    Great reminder. Interaction is active and builds knowledge and intimacy. Watching TV or a movie is passive, it has its place, but we as a culture tend to use it as a go to and then call it togetherness.
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  4. karen
    June 6, 2013

    My hubby and I take long drives together to spend time together. We pack up snacks or a picnic and his map books and go! We once drove to the Adirondacks and back in one day just because!! It is very easy to just get in a rut and not do anything together, you have to be intentional about making time for each other sometimes. Great article, as always, Sheila!

  5. Lori Ferguson
    June 6, 2013

    Perfect encouragement. My husband is the one who pushes me to get out and “do” – and though it’s a struggle, every time I’m thankful. He’s very aware of my introvert “time-alone” needs, and honors our differences, but doesn’t let me get stuck in a rut. It’s such a blessing when our spouse’s know us well.
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  6. Kari
    June 6, 2013

    Great post!! We find this particularly challenging because while we would LOVE to go out and do things, there are almost no places that we are able to go that I’m not allergic to. It makes it tricky to plan dates and memorable evenings when we’re not able to participate in “normal” outings. For those of you that can, please enjoy the fact that you are physically able to go out on dates and explore activities with your spouse – it really does enrich your relationship!

  7. Jennifer Mitchell
    June 6, 2013

    I love this , but what do you do if your husband refuses to to do things with you. I BEG my husband to do things, anything with me. At this time I would be thrilled if he walked to the mailbox with me. It’s not about the money, like I said I beg for time together where it wouldn’t cost him anything. He is just not interested in spending time with me and I’m not sure what to do. Keep begging?

  8. Corrie Anne
    June 6, 2013

    I’m a super home body — but we’re going to a Rockies game tomorrow night! And we go to our CrossFit gym together every day.
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  9. Heather
    June 6, 2013

    Before I even finished reading this I had to buy the album on itunes! Paul Brandt is so great. I met him once about 15 years ago in Edmonton, Ab. Naturally, “Alberta Bound” is one of my favorites. ;)

    Once again, great advice Sheila! My family just moved and we are completing renos, and have a whole lot of unpacking to do! Does that count as doing something together? Lol

  10. Sarah Ramsey
    June 6, 2013

    Wow. This is something I really needed to read. I am often guilty of turning down my husband’s suggestions for going out and doing things together. Thank you for sharing this and I am looking forward to having the opportunity to surprise him by saying yes to his next idea for going out:)

  11. Elizabeth Selman
    June 7, 2013

    Sheila, thanks for this post. I always have this nagging feeling about when at night my husband sits on his phone playing cards or on the laptop doing something. I will sit on mine sometimes too, but am not as tied to mine. It bothers me. It really does. But reading this lets me know that my feelings are okay to have and I probably should talk to him about it. I feel like we don’t engage in things together much anymore. Now he is very much a people person and needs people around him, so he likes to entertain. I don’t mind, but then the house needs cleaning, and so it goes. That part isn’t fun for me. I would love for him to want to do more things outside the house with me. But at least the entertaining part is getting together with friends and sharing some memories. Anyway thanks for the post and acknowledging that going out and DOING is better for the couple and/or family than sitting passively in the same room!

  12. Katie B
    June 7, 2013

    Thank you!! Even though I only work part-time I still manage to have a mile-long to-do list! :P We are starting a family in just a few months so things certainly won’t slow down. That list can easily become an idol and make it hard to do recreational things my husband so wants to do when evenings and weekends come. And I may not be a great planner or great at making sure I am social enough like your mother, but when asked I almost always say yes. And secretly dread it the day of… thank you for your honesty and understanding along with me! I am ALWAYS thankful I went and walk away blessed. :)

  13. Judy
    June 10, 2013

    Oh, that sounds like a wonderful evening! I would love to do something like that, if it were possible for us. (It’s just the place we live in right now…northern Canada.) This weekend there happened to be a carnival in the community we were visiting, and even though my husband took the boys when I was busy one evening we took the time to go as a family and just go on one ride to make that family memory. Also, I have the same reaction to “It is Well With My Soul” since my grandfather’s funeral many years ago.

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