Top 50 Most Romantic Movies to Watch as a Couple

50 Most Romantic Movies to Watch as a Couple: Best Date Movies!

I recently asked the 9500 women who follow me on Facebook: Name your favorite romantic movie. Every movie that got more than one vote I entered into a spreadsheet. Then I ranked them by number of votes. So if you’re looking for the best romantic movies or the best romantic comedies, you came to the right place!

And so, without further adieu, here are the top 50 most romantic movies according to the readers of this blog (and my followers on Facebook), along with a bit of my commentary:


1. The Notebook

An unlikely couple fall madly in love as teens, but are separated by her parents and circumstances. They find each other years later, and the love is still blazing.

Honestly, I don’t think this movie would have worked without the parallel story of the couple when they’re older, played by James Garner and Gena Rowland. The young love story is a little annoying. The witness of the love through the years is lovely. And the final scene is the best I have ever seen in a movie. I totally understand why this was #1!

The downside? Lots of sex before marriage. And I’ve told my girls not to watch it because it’s really quite erotic. They don’t need that at their age.


2. Pride and Prejudice

I combined votes for both versions (the BBC version and the Keira Knightley version) into one. There really is nothing more romantic than Mr. Darcy, who loves Elizabeth, and pursues her relentlessly though he’s rather bad at it. The five hour version is still my favourite.

What I love about Jane Austen, who wrote the book that inspired the movie adaptations, is that she treats love like it should be a serious choice, not just an infatuation we give in to. Elizabeth doesn’t care for Mr. Darcy at all at first, but as she knows his character, he becomes attractive to her. That’s the way to decide whom to marry; to look at the person objectively and realize whether or not they would be a good choice. How many women have rejected perfectly wonderful marriage partners because that weak-kneed feeling wasn’t there right off the bat? Austen shows us that true, deep love is a combination of attraction and deliberation, and it really works.


3. Fireproof

A lout of a guy has taken his wife for granted, used porn, and acted selfishly. Now he’s in danger of her leaving, and reality hits and he does a 180. He decides to love her unconditionally. His pursuit of her is certainly romantic, and it gives us hope that even difficult relationships can be turned around when one party decides to fight for love. A beautiful gospel message intertwined, too.


4. PS I Love You

Definitely romantic. A husband dies young, and his bereft widow is completely at loose ends. Can she ever love again, or even get on with her life? I really enjoyed this movie, though I found the final relationship she settled in a little bit too typical. They go to bed first, then the love comes. A little much. But what I appreciated about the movie was that it portrayed her marriage realistically. She and her husband hadn’t always gotten along. They’d both annoyed each other. They’d both done things wrong. Yet the love was real and enduring.


5. Princess Bride

Sometimes, when I want to tell my husband I love him, I still say, “As you wish”. You cannot explain this movie. You have to experience it. It’s in a category by itself, and even kids can enjoy it along with adults. Robin Wright did a superb job as Buttercup. And there are certain lines you will never, ever forget. Is it romantic? Perhaps that word doesn’t mean what we think it means.

6. An Affair to Remember

An oldie but a goodie! But true confessions: I’ve never seen it. My whole knowledge of it is tied up in all the references to it in Sleepless in Seattle. So this is on my “must watch” list now! It is a classic, though, so I’m going to assume it’s great because it’s stood the test of time.

7. You’ve Got Mail

The first big blockbuster movie to delve into the question: can we fall in love with someone we met online? Director Nora Ephron brought Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan together again for this movie after the success of Sleepless in Seattle. The two seem destined to do movies where they’re each other’s love interest, but appear together in hardly any scenes. I really did enjoy this one. Again, it shows that the main point of choosing whom to love is delving into their character. I’m all for movies like that!


8. A Walk to Remember

True confessions: I haven’t seen this one either. Never even really heard of it, but so many people rated it the most romantic ever! So now I’ll have to. I have nothing to say about this one, except it’s next on my list. It’s based on a Nicholas Sparks book, and while I love some Sparks books, I don’t love them all. So we’ll have to see whether this is a good one!


9. Ever After

Love this movie! Drew Barrymore stars in an adaptation of Cinderella that truly works. As long as you realize this is supposed to be a fairytale, the movie is lovely. The scene with the gypsies is hilarious, well done, and definitely romantic. Best of all, there’s nothing objectionable in this movie. Old and young can enjoy it together. I think we watched it when our youngest was 7 for the first time, and we all loved it.


10. The first 9 minutes of the movie Up

If people realized they could vote for PARTS of movies, and not whole movies, I’m sure this would have been #1. The most romantic 9 minutes of movie time ever. Here it is:


11. Time Traveler’s Wife

A man is born with a horrible condition where he travels through time involuntarily. Things could be going well, and all of a sudden he’ll be gone. And you don’t know when he’s coming back.

But in his travels he meets and marries his wife, who has to live with never knowing when her husband will be there. And everytime he comes, he’s out of sequence. Sometimes he’ll be 50 when she’s 20, and sometimes vice versa.

I suppose it’s romantic, but I couldn’t really get into it. Still, it’s pretty high on the list. Not one of my favorites, though. I think I analyze time travel movies too much.


12. Sense and Sensibility

I love Austen! And the scene where Elinor finally loses it, after a whole movie of keeping her emotions in check, and starts bawling at Edward’s proposal is one of my favourite movie moments of all time. This movie is as close to perfect as any movie I have ever seen. Emma Thompson, who stars in it but who also wrote the screenplay, did an amazing job of capturing Austen’s story in just 2 1/2 hours. And I totally agree with the main message of this movie: Don’t let your feelings carry you away; love should be deep, and based on something beyond just feelings.

A warning, though: this really is a chick flick. Watch it with your girlfriends, don’t make your husband sit through it!


13. Titanic

Two Kate Winslet movies in a row! Yet this one is the opposite of Sense and Sensibility–it’s all feelings and drama and emotion. And no one has to wonder what the ending will be. Everything in this movie is big–the love, the emotion, the tragedy. And it’s all magnified because we know what’s coming. The love in this is just over the top–I mean they only had a few days to fall madly in love because the ship’s going to sink. If you’re in the mood for a sweeping escape, fine. But don’t think that this is actually true to real life love! And the sex scenes are graphic, too.


14. Sleepless in Seattle

The quintessential romantic movie. In fact, Nora Ephron made this movie to celebrate romance in movies. It works. You really root for them by the end. A fun chick flick. What I like about it, too, is that they include Hanks’ character’s son in the romance. It’s not just about two people; it’s about taking on an entire family that needs love. That’s real love. It’s not profound, but fun.


15. The Vow

I was a little disappointed in this movie, as I’ve written before. The true story is better than the fictional one presented here. The truth: a couple has been married briefly when she suffers a serious head injury. She awakes and does not remember him (and in fact thinks she’s still in a relationship with someone else). Her personality has changed. Yet he sticks by her because he made a vow, and in the end they’re happy together. The movie version isn’t really about the vow, it’s about “true love”. We have to push through because we had the real thing. I agree to an extent, but I just wanted it to be about commitment, not feelings. Still, a nice movie, if seeing Channing Tatum shirtless multiple times won’t make you think your husband’s a schlub.


16. Letters to Juliet

A young, idealistic girl discovers a letter left 50 years ago, and decides to answer it, putting in motion two lovers, long separated, finding each other again. In the meantime, she discovers things about herself, and explores what love really means. A cute movie, but again, it’s probably one best saved for girlfriends and not husbands.


17. Sabrina

It’s the girl from the wrong side of the tracks meets the uptight rich guy and helps him embrace life and not just business. I’ve combined votes for the two versions into one, though some really preferred the Harrison Ford one, and others preferred Hepburn I’m not certain that marriages based on opposites actually work in the long run that well (though they certainly can). Whichever, it’s a nice story. Not profound, but very, very nice.

18. While You Were Sleeping

Poor, lonely Lucy (Sandra Bullock) works at the subway, watching other people go by and lead their lives. And in her imagination, she’s going to marry Peter. When Peter is thrown in front of a train and Lucy rescues him, she’s mistaken for his fiancee and embraced by his family. When Peter awakes with amnesia, he starts to believe it, too. But in the meantime Lucy learns how to live in real life, and falls for Peter’s brother instead, whose character is immensely better. I liked this one a lot.

19. The Man from Snowy River

I’ve never seen this one either, but reading about it on Amazon has made me want to rush out and get it! Set in the 1880s in the sweeping Australian outback, the movie follows a young man with a way with horses trying to keep his family farm together. Apparently the romance in this is lovely, the acting perfect, and the cinematography gorgeous.


20. Somewhere in Time

I read this book and really loved it, and I know I saw the movie ages ago, but I don’t remember it. Now I’ll have to watch it again! Starring Christopher Reeve, it tells the story of a man in present day who falls in love with the picture of an actress from 1912. He figures out a way to transport himself back in time to meet her, where the attraction is mutual. But the slightest reminder of the modern world can send him back to the 1980s, so their relationship is always in jeopardy. A tear-jerker, apparently.


21. North and South (British version)

Okay, this one I can endorse wholeheartedly. It’s a British miniseries that tells the story of an earnest young woman, the daughter of a pastor who has been ostracized for stating his true beliefs. So they leave their idyllic home in the south to go to the industrial north, where she is thrown into the path of rich factory owners. Torn between her sympathy for the plight of the workers and the growth of her feelings for one particular rich dude, she has to make a choice. A very romantic ending, and an interesting look at social justice issues from the early days of the industrial revolution.


22. Love Story

This 1970s film follows law student Ryan O’Neal, who defies his family to marry musician Ali McGraw. But their marriage is destined to be short lived when illness strikes. You can’t get more tear jerker than this. For two decades this was THE romantic movie of all time, until people started to forget it. I’ve never actually seen it, either. Perhaps I’ll watch it, but it sounds just too sappy to me! UPDATE: A commenter said that it has the F word throughout, so you may want that warning!


23. Return to Me

Another one I haven’t seen, but after reading the reviews on Amazon I think I’ll have to. It’s billed as a comedy, and lots of people said it was hilarious, but the plot seems so SAD. A man in a great marriage loses his wife to an accident. At the same time, another woman (played by Minnie Driver) is about to die unless she gets a heart transplant. She received the heart, and then a year later the two meet (without knowing their connection). It’s on my list!


24. 50 First Dates

Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler did so well together in The Wedding Singer that they were brought back for this movie, focusing on Barrymore’s character who has suffered a brain injury which means that each time she goes to sleep she loses all memory after her accident. She can only remember one day at a time, and every day she meets Sandler for the “first time”. It was cute, not profound. His pursuit of her is lovely, and the ending is satisfying.


25. Young Victoria

A wonderful movie about a real-life love story. Everyone is trying to control young Princess Victoria, for when she is queen, they all want power. Yet what Victoria really wants is to make her own decisions. Meanwhile, everyone is trying to control Prince Albert of Prussia, too, though he, too, yearns to be his own man. He’s sent to London to try to woo her, and ends up succeeding, though not for the reasons his family wants. A lovely story. If only the two have been together longer in real life, for she spent so long in mourning for him. A great movie to watch with your teens (especially girls), too.


26. Family Man

I cannot say enough good about this movie, either (I even featured it in this post!). Nicolas Cage plays a selfish jerk who has every material comfort and success. Then one day, an angel figure gives him a glimpse of what his life could have been like, had he chosen to marry his college sweetheart. He lives in a small house; he has a bad job; his clothes are ugly. Yet he has the love of a wonderful, faithful woman, and his kids are darling. In the end, that’s what he wants, and when he gets back to his “real” life he decides to pursue it. A great movie showing that what really matters in life is relationships, not success. Guys will like it, too (though there’s a rather scantily clad female at the beginning you may want to fast forward through).


27. Ghost

The ultimate in romance, supposedly. Patrick Swayze’s character dies, but is desperate to get a message back to his love Demi Moore, who is now in danger. He finds that he can channel himself through a reluctant Whoopi Goldberg. Honestly, I couldn’t get past the weird spiritual ramifications of this one. I think it’s dangerous to flirt with the paranormal. But this did resonate with many of my readers.


28. Beauty and the Beast

If a cartoon can be romantic, my readers think this one is it! I agree it’s good, but only if you see the relationship properly. We have too many “beauty and the beast” fantasies as women about how we can tame our beasts, and we forget that The Beast was tamed because he was accepted AS A BEAST. The acceptance allowed him to flower. It wasn’t that she loved the potential inside of him; it was that she loved him. A good lesson for us all.


29. Emma

Another Austen movie! Rich Emma doesn’t want to marry, but she loves making sure that those around her do, and so determines to find a proper husband for Harriett. Yet all goes wrong as she convinces Harriett to throw aside a perfectly good match and aim for something higher. In the meantime, Emma strains her relationship with her Mr. Knightley, whom she eventually does marry. What I love about the film is that it shows, Austen style, that character should always trump all other considerations when marriage is involved. Another great movie to watch with girlfriends, not to make your husband sit through.


30. Love Comes Softly

I loved these adaptations of the Janette Oke books. In the first movie, Marty (played by Kathleen Heigl) travels west with her husband in search of a new beginning. But when her husband dies in an accident, she finds herself alone and in trouble. Clark, a recent widower himself, suggests a platonic “marriage of convenience”. And predictably, their love deepens. It’s a very satisfying movie, and I enjoyed it immensely. Great to watch with kids, too.


31. Bridges of Madison County

Clint Eastwood and Meryl Streep star in this movie asking what real love is. Meryl Streep’s marriage is loveless. She isn’t understood and isn’t cherished. Then one weekend, when her family is gone, she meets Clint, and they have a passionate, enthralling affair. At the end, she turns him away and chooses her family, but she never forgets him. Honestly, I have a hard time including this movie in the list, but I’m trying to be true to what my readers reported. This is a dangerous one to see. Is it romantic? Some may say so. But it’s about an affair, and any woman who has ever felt dissatisfied in her marriage could easily watch this and just yearn for that time away from her husband, where she could briefly live another life. I think it’s better to spend our emotions trying to make our marriages more romantic, rather than dreaming of something better.

UPDATE: I’m not sure I made my reservations about this movie firm enough, so I’m going to take another stab at it. The problem with this movie is that it makes an affair SEEM romantic. Affairs wreck marriages, tear families apart, and haunt children forever. It is NEVER worth it. And I’m a little disappointed that so many of my readers voted for this one. The love story in it IS enticing, but honestly, we should know better.


32. Anne of Green Gables

I’m Canadian, so how could I not agree? A great series, and a lovely story, based on the best children’s book of all time. :) If you haven’t watched it with your kids, do it! There are three Anne of Green Gables installments; the first one is her childhood (great for kids); the second is the romantic one. And the third? Well, the directors and writers lost their minds with the third and wrecked it. Just watch the first two and you’ll be fine.


33. The Proposal

The classic opposites attract movie. She’s uptight and emotionally repressed; he’s from a close-knit family and is remarkably stable. But she’s the boss. When she needs a marriage of convenience to avoid deportation, she blackmails him into marriage. Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds are both great in this, and it’s a FUN movie. The end scene back in the office always makes me want to jump my husband. But it treats marriage far too lightly, and forgets that it is a commitment. Everyone does everything backwards here. So see it for fun if you want, but don’t try to glean any great truths out of it.


34. The Magic of Ordinary Days

Never heard of this movie until it made the list, but now I have to see it! It’s “clean”; no bad language or elicit scenes. But a young girl makes a mistake and winds up pregnant during World War II. Her parents insist that she won’t bear a child out of wedlock, so she marries a reserved, shy farmer. Love apparently develops. Sounds lovely. I like the whole premise–that too often we are looking for wild passion, when it is the loveliness of ordinary days, with ordinary love, that ends up being so extraordinary.

35. Last of the Mohicans

Is this actually romantic? I don’t remember. I just remember a lot of violence, but I saw it so long ago. Apparently my readers think it’s romantic, though! Maybe this is a good date night movie, then, since the action will satisfy the men, too.


36. Gone with the Wind

“Frankly, Scarlett…” this is just too cheesy for me! And I think I didn’t like it because Scarlett is so unlikable. She marries the wrong people. She hurts those she loves. She’s just so selfish. But I think the reason the story works is that in Rhett she finally meets her match. She finally finds a man who will stand up to her. In the end, though, she can’t keep him. It’s great to see from a historical standpoint, just to watch what they thought was entertainment and romance back in the 1930s.


37. When Harry Met Sally

The only thing people remember about the movie is that ONE SCENE that made Meg Ryan famous. I wracked my brain trying to remember the rest of the movie to figure out something to say. So here goes. What I like: it shows how the deepest love usually grows out of an enduring friendship. Sometimes we focus too much on wanting to be “swept away” that we miss the decent guy that’s right in front of us. A good lesson.


38. Music and Lyrics

Another Drew Barrymore one–this time pairing her with Hugh Grant (who really is too old for her), which I never thought worked. Hugh Grant’s character had one hit song back in the 1980s, and now he needs a comeback. So together poet Drew and songwriter Hugh try to come up with a hit song. A cute movie, though I didn’t think much of it at the time. The absolute BEST part of it, though, that I will never forget, is the “mock” 1980s song they created to have been the hit. They even made a video, and my girls and I STILL sing it all the time because it is just so bad (and I don’t know how they managed to encapsulate all the badness of 1980s videos so well). Honestly, even if you don’t see the movie, watch the video. I laugh so hard I almost pee every time:


39. Something’s Gotta Give

Here’s a romantic comedy for those who aren’t 20. Jack Nicholson’s character has always dated younger women. Diane Keaton’s character is sure that she is past the age of romance. And you can guess where this one goes. It’s cleverer than most movies, and it doesn’t pander to the young. Still, it doesn’t focus on traditional values at all, so if you’re offended by that, here’s your warning.


40. As Good As it Gets

Another Jack Nicholson offering. In this one, he’s a romantic novelist of all things, but in real life he’s mean and he’s suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder–truly suffering from it. His relationship with his gay neighbour and a down-on-her-luck waitress (Helen Hunt) start to personalize him and help him step outside of himself.

I remember liking this as a movie but not as a romance, because Hunt was too young for him, and I always thought he didn’t deserve her.


41. Bed of Roses

Few people have seen this, but I really loved it. It answers the question: can love and marriage heal a person? Christian Slater is very together. He’s relatively wealthy, he has a great family, he’s stable. But he’s lonely. Mary Stuart Masterson is successful but highly screwed up, stemming from a tragic, abusive childhood. She tries to keep everything under control, and doesn’t understand romance. Slater falls deeply in love and pursues her. In so doing, she gets scared and runs away. In the end, what the movie shows is that love CAN heal, but only if you enter the relationship strong. If you’re too needy, love can’t make up for the hole in your heart (and, as I believe, only God can). But it’s a beautiful story of how we really aren’t designed to be alone.


42. Sweet Home Alabama

Reese Witherspoon’s character has a problem. She’s rich, she’s successful, and her even more successful boyfriend wants to marry her. But many years ago, back home in Alabama, she was married. And they never technically divorced. So now, before she can marry the boyfriend, she has to confront her past (and her ex) and get him to sign divorce papers. At the same time, she has to juggle a false identity she’s been parading to her New York friends. Guess what happens? (yeah, it’s kind of predictable). A highly satisfying movie, if a little forgettable.


43. Persuasion

The last Austen movie to make the list! This is actually the most romantic Austen book, though the movie isn’t as high calibre as the others on the list. A decade ago Anne refused the hand of Frederick because he wasn’t wealthy, and she was persuaded by an older, female mentor to wait for a more eligible match. Ten years have gone by and she has never gotten over her love, and never had another offer. She has withered away, and lost her beauty. Frederick, meanwhile, has made his fortune and he returns home. And now she has to watch him court other women. Will they ever find each other again? (Yeah, you probably know the answer to that one). Incidentally, they think this was the most autobiographical of Austen’s books. She likely was persuaded against a marriage early in her life, and she never received another offer.


44. Hope Floats

In a story that mirrors Sandra Bullock’s real life a little too much, Bullock’s character discovers that her husband is cheating on her when he reveals it on a national talk show. She heads back to her mother’s home in Texas to lick her wounds, where she meets a guy (Harry Connick Jr. ) who has held a torch for her since high school. Another feel good movie that is a tad forgettable, but fun at the time.


45. Shall We Dance

Okay, I really liked this movie because of what DIDN’T happen. Richard Gere’s character needs something more in his life, and when he keeps passing a dance studio on his way to work, he decides to stop in and start taking lessons. Jennifer Lopez’ character is the teacher, and the two develop an obvious attraction. As he gets better at dancing he’s in demand as a partner, and his wife (Susan Sarandon) starts to worry he’s having an affair. But he never does. And in the end, he asks her to dance. From that movie is one of my favourite clips of all time, that I included in yesterday’s post. But I think what it teaches us is that all marriages get into ruts. Gere wanted to pull his out, but he did it alone. If he had talked to his wife first, and involved her, they would have been so much happier. Ruts aren’t the problem; how we deal with them are the problem.


46. Lake House

Another movie I haven’t seen, but it looks intriguing. Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves team up again after the success of Speed for this romance. Reeves moves into a glass house on a lake, and starts corresponding through the mailbox with a former tenant (Bullock). But soon they discover that they’re actually living two years apart. Sounds like a cool time travel movie.


47. Far and Away

Want to watch Tom Cruise before he went nuts? Here’s your chance, in this epic movie sweeping across Ireland, New York immigrant communities, and the race for land in Oklahoma. It’s another opposites attract movie: Cruise is a scrapping Irish tenant farmer; Nicole Kidman is an aristocratic Protestant. Thrown together in New York they pretend to be siblings, but eventually something deeper grows. It shows the underside of early New York so well, and shows the desperation, and the hard work, that went in to building North America.


48. My Big, Fat Greek Wedding

Don’t watch this one without a bottle of Windex handy. Oh, my goodness, what a fun movie. Guys will love it, too! And it’s a great portrayal of how we can both decide who we want to be, and keep those roots with our families, too. Toula has always been embarrassed by her big loud Greek family, and yearns for a different life. But when she starts dating Ian, who comes from a staid, WASP family, she finds that she loves her family after all, and there really is room for all.


49. Notting Hill

The only Julia Roberts film to make the list, which is interesting since she’s usually considered the queen of romance! In this film, she’s a famous movie star, and Hugh Grant plays a boring bookstore owner. A chance encounter leads to a brief affair. And when Roberts needs to escape the paparazzi, she turns to Grant. But is he willing to live in her kind of life? I thought the portrayal of Grant’s friends and family were lovely in this movie, though I wasn’t overly fond of their romance. It was focused too much on sex. And it seemed they were both looking for an escape from their lives, not really for each other, and I don’t think that reason for marriage bodes well in the long run.


50. Shakespeare in Love

If you can fast forward through the graphic sex scenes (that show Gwyneth Paltrow naked) and live with the fact that William Shakespeare was actually having an affair, this is a great movie and definitely deserved its Oscars. I’d see it not as a romance but as a historical movie, because I think it raises some interesting historical possibilities. What was the story behind Romeo and Juliet? Was there more to Shakespeare’s subsequent plays than we think? In this movie, Paltrow wants so badly to be an actor, but she’s a woman. So she dresses up as a man, and is hired to play Romeo. Shakespeare discovers Paltrow is really a girl, and the two start an affair. But Paltrow can’t escape her family obligations to marry a complete lout, and so she does, knowing she’ll be miserable. Great performances by all, including Joseph Fiennes, Geoffrey Rush, Ben Affleck and Judy Dench. But seriously, fast forward through the sex scenes. :)

So that’s what you all picked! Thank you for your votes. I’d like to add one more movie, just another feel good one, that sums up my attitude towards romances, and it’s The Wedding Singer. It’s hilarious as a look back at the 80s, and Sandler and Barrymore are great. But one thing I really liked about it was the central message that when you’re choosing a mate, you’d better look at character. Don’t get married for the sake of getting married; really look at WHO you’re marrying. The most romantic movies will have that as their main theme! So I’ll let Sandler have the last word:

Sheila is the author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

Comments

  1. Great list!!! You really MUST watch The Man from Snowy River (and the sequel) and Return to Me is very sweet … A Walk to Remember is very Romantic, good movie, some sexy action but a great message as well!
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  2. I am so glad you added the disclaimer about the third Anne movie or you would have lost any credibility in my mind ;-)

  3. A walk to remember is great but the book is better! Both good in their own right but as usual lots of changes. Definitely in my top 10!

  4. Only watch Love Story if you want to hear the F word every few minutes. I bought it at T for $5 thinking it was going to be great. I hadn’t seen it before. I couldn’t “see” the movie because I was so offended by the language. Sorry, I just don’t do movies with a ton of language in them anymore. Just my opinion.

  5. You must watch Return to Me. It is so good and so romantic.
    I am going to try and watch all of these movies over the next year!

  6. “Return to Me” is the movie my husband and I consider “our movie” and not really because of the romance between Minnie Driver and David Ducovny. It’s the married couple with 5 kids who both can’t get enough of each other and who bicker in a hilarious way. Also, the old men who sit around playing cards at the restaurant…awesome.

    LOVE “Music and Lyrics”! The chemistry between the two of them is cute.
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  7. Great list! Some of those movies I’ve never seen and there’s a few I think I’ll watch now!

    Return To Me is a great movie…you will love it! Wanna borrow my copy? LOL! Yes, it is sad in spots but the whole movie isn’t like that.

    And I love that 50 First Dates made the list and that The Wedding Singer got a mention…my husband and I love Adam Sandler’s movies and those two are our favourites! I think the scene in The Wedding Singer where he sings the song he wrote for her on the plane is the best!

    Now I’m going to have to watch a movie…it’s rainy out so it’s a perfect day to do that! :0)

  8. Those are all great movies but you have to take your spouse into account and mine HATES watching these kinds of movies so that takes the romance out of it. If we can find something we both laugh our tails off at, then THAT is a romantic movie in our house. :) Just another perspevtive :)
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  9. Elizabeth says:

    My husband sang the song from the end of The Wedding Singer when he proposed to me! It is by far my favorite!
    On another note, having been through an affair and living now in a redeemed marriage, I just have a HUGE problem with any movie that glorifies adultery. No matter how Hollywood spins it, in real life there are not words to describe the agony, distruction and pain it causes. It makes me sick to my stomach to watch it.

    • That’s really sweet, Elizabeth!

      As for movies that glorify adultery, you’re totally right. I think I’ll go add an update and make my reservations even more firm!

      • Elizabeth says:

        Thank you!
        Its something I was desensitized to, until I had to live it. Now, I have noticed how much it is in mainstream media, and how we’ve begun to romanticize it, when in reality, there is nothing romantic, and everything tragic about it. But singing praises that we serve a redeeming God, who can take something so awful, and use it for His glory!

  10. A tv show from when I was a kid that I absolutely loved, and if I remember correctly had a lot of real stuff in marriage, and was about real commitment: Mad About You. I know that wouldn’t make it on the movie’s list, but as tv shows go it’s the best one on marriage that I’ve seen. Also, it’s very funny. :)
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  11. My husband and I really enjoy watching funny movies together….He believes that these ‘romantic’ movies give us married women an unrealistic picture of what romance really is…which I guess they do….We laugh together that he has no romantic bone in his body, but he swears that he is romantic everyday because he will clean the house before I get home from work/before he leaves for work, or do the laundry, etc. etc….I say these are shared responsibilities because we both hold full-time jobs, but he says he’s being romantic LOL!!! He thought about blogging for men about how to do the ‘everyday romance’ as he calls it :)

  12. I can’t believe you haven’t watched A Walk To Remember! Let us know when you have, and bring out the kleenexes! I’m a weepy mess most of a the way through :P I own like 3 movies and thats one of them. A warning for The Proposal, I used to watch all those kinds of movies when I was in high school but since then I’ve made a promise to God that I would try to stop watching things that take His name in vain ( as you can imagine this cuts my movies down quite a bit) but it scares me that His command to keep His name hallowed is ignored in many of our living rooms. I tried to watch the Proposal since then and was appalled at all the swearing and in appropriate comments. Just a thought though, considering the sacrifice Christ has made for us I don’t think its such a sacrifice to cut out movies that you wouldn’t watch if Christ was beside you :)

  13. Wow, that’s quite a list. I voted for the Bridges of Madison County, even knowing that you’d likely disapprove because of the nature of it. Thank you for including it, despite your reservations.

    But, I’d like to clarify that the MOST romantic part of the movie, in my opinion, is not a moment shared between Francesca and Robert. Instead, the moments that made me break down and bawl like a baby, revolved around her husband:

    1. In the truck, even as she longed to throw herself out of it, reached for the handle and all, her heart made a choice: she chose her marriage and her family. It was a difficult one, some would say the wrong one, others the right. But that struggle, oh, that struggle and the decision…well, it darned near broke my heart.

    2. As her husband lay dying, years after the affair, he takes her hand gently and says something like, “I’m sorry I couldn’t give you all your dreams, but we had a good life.”

    In the end, that he loved her enough to try and she loved him enough to try, too….well, that’s worth a whole lot.

  14. A Walk to Remember makes me cry every time I watch it! I love that movie!
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  15. Speaking of romantic stories, I’ll give you a real life one. My mom was at work one day, a few years ago, and an older man came in. He was in his 80s. His wife had died just a few weeks before, and that day (the day he came in to my mom’s work) would have been their 60th wedding anniversary. He was telling my mom a lot of stories about their marriage. One thing he told her, during the first year of their marriage he had done something really, really bad. The worst thing he had ever done. He didn’t say what it was, but it sounded like maybe he cheated on her. He asked her to forgive him, and she looked at him straight in the eyes and said, “I’ll forgive you, but I’ll never forget.” Well, when she was sick before she died, he once again told her he was sorry for that. She took his hand and said, “I had already forgotten.”

    Tears.

    The talk of affairs reminded me of that.
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  16. stephanie says:

    I totally agree that the third Anne movie is horrible! I wonder why they did not make Rilla of Ingelside into a movie. It is such a beautiful story about an enduring love that can stand strong in loss (Anne and Gilbert) and a new love that grows even during adversity (Rilla and Ken). I love this book – especially the last page.

    There are so many movies on this list that seem like old friends.

    If you like classic romantic movies a few of my favorites are The Best Years of Our Lives, Kitty Foyle, Mrs. Minniver, The Bachelor and the Bobbysoxer, and Cheaper By the Dozen (the one with Myrna Loy — not Steve Martin). I have seen these so many times and I still cry everytime!

    • Oh, Rilla of Ingleside is my youngest daughter’s favourite Lucy Maud Montgomery novel! She cries buckets every time she rereads it. Cheaper by the Dozen (the BOOK) is absolutely awesome, too.

  17. stephanie says:

    of course I was crying in laughter at the Bachelor and the Bobbysoxer. I also seem to have liking for Myrna Loy movies since I listed three of her movies.

  18. Ok, tiny quibble about Persuasion :) The reason why Anne’s mentor/mother figure persuaded her to give up Captain Wentworth wasn’t just that he wasn’t rich enough. It’s more that she was young, and he was in a rather unstable financial position. The way the story tells it, his fortune was based on him getting a big enough cut of the prize money (from capturing ships) and on him working his way up the ranks to make sure he got a big enough cut. So there was essentially no way to tell whether or not he was going to get a break or end up crippled and penniless.

    (Sorry, Austen junkie over here.)
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  19. witness9 says:

    Thanks for the list!
    We especially like Sense and Sensibility with Emma Thompson, Hugh Grant, et al. It’s great to see Alan Rickman in a ‘good-guy’ role.

    Can’t resist: Ever After would be *so* much better with a leading lady with an English accent. ;)

  20. Heather P says:

    I love movies, just about as much as I love books. I like a lot of the movies you mentioned. Some I had never heard of and some I still want to see. Thanks!

  21. Is there a printable version of this list? Maybe just the titles? And DO watch “The Man from Snowy River.” It is wonderful!

  22. What a great list!! We don’t really watch Rated R movies anymore, and try to avoid anything w/ much nudity/sexuality, so we usually end up watching Super Hero movies, which don’t always really make me that excited! I will bookmark this for sure. Thanks!
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  23. Since you love Jane Austen, you’d probably enjoy “Becoming Jane,” which is loosely based on her life. It is one of my absolute favorite romantic movies, and one that even my husband will watch with me. Jane falls madly in love with the nephew of a rich politician. Because Jane is so very poor, said politician forbids his nephew to marry her and vows to cut him off financially if he does. Jane and Tom try to find happiness away from each other, but end up realizing they are each others’ only true love. Jane discovers that Tom is sending most of his allowance home to support his parents and siblings, and she realizes that in marrying her, Tom has resigned himself and his family (and her) to a life destined for poverty. Loving him too much to do that to him, she walks away. It is heartbreaking and wonderfully romantic all at the same time.
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  24. stephanie says:

    The sequel to Cheaper by the Dozen is a very sweet movie and great book. It is called Belles on Their Toes. Rilla of Ingelside is my favorite Anne Book (your daughter has great taste), but my favorite L M Montgomery book is The Blue Castle. Very romantic.

  25. I have seen most of these (can you tell I like movies?). You HAVE to see Return to Me!! Great cast!

  26. Want a good marriage movie: The Story of Us. Absolutely wonderful.

    • I agree the Story of Us is a great movie that didn’t make the list. There are parts unfortanetly where the language is bad, but I watched this with my wife and we both agreed that this is the typical story of so many couple we have known that try to “fix” everything themselves without putting God at the center. Most marriages end up falling apart with one or both spouses giving up. This movie has a better ending than most marriages today.

  27. Grow Old with You was the song we had sung at our wedding!

  28. It was good to see a good portion of movies to be in the marriage relationship. However, I am disappointed to on how many promote premarital relationship or relationships outside of marriage. Anyway, I can preach to the choir about all that, but won’t. Just a bit disappointed.

    Anyway, my wife and I are always encouraged and find more romance in the movies that have a better view of marriage even if they are “rough”. A few that we have enjoyed that are not in the list:
    “Did You Hear About the Morgans?”
    “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” (this one even most men will like)

    Those are two off the top of my head. There are more that I can not think of right now but not enough for our liking.

  29. Jennifer O says:

    Thanks for the list. I’m not a movie person; it’s hard for me to sit through anything. I constantly think about what needs to be done. Well, we had a dreary day today and my toddler was fussy, so we watched North and South. Wow. I got so into it that I watched all 4 hours today (mostly while she napped). I wouldn’t have given it a second glance if I hadn’t seen it the other day in your Facebook post. Thanks again!

  30. Cindy Jones says:

    Follow the Stars Home is one of my favorites that I would like to recommend.

  31. I love A Walk to Remember (except for how they dress Mandy Moore, looks like bed sheets), the movie is very romantic but the book – wow!! And it is from the guy’s point of view. I loooooove it! And it is set in the ’50s.

    Return to Me is also wonderful, very beautiful and romantic and sweet and funny.

    I am disappointed that The Notebook was first on the list, I was very disappointed by it. All they do is sleep together and make weird noises! But there was a worthy second in Pride and Prejudice. Also, loved how you summed up Anne of Green Gables! Haha! I thought your summaries were good. Man from Snowy River is an Australian classic, we are all made to watch it in primary school, which means I think of it as a horse movie :)
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  32. I watched the 4 hour north and south last night on your recommendations. absolutely loved it. depth of the characters, plot. hank you Sheila!!!!! i’m spreading the word. these so called modern romances need to find their way back to the basics of Pride and Prejudice AND NORTH AND SOUTH. Thanx again ;)

    • If you loved North and South, Wives and Daughters is next on your list, beautiful movies all of them!

      • NinaBean says:

        I have seen wives and daughters and enjoyed it so much. Hadn’t seen north and south so @ your suggestion I did. It was very good. I do wish there would have been one more episode that showed what her life was like after the train station reunion.

  33. fun to read through your list and the descriptions! There are a few I’ll have to watch. Just wanted to mention a lovely movie about a good marriage…Friendly Persuasion. It’s an oldie but a goodie, and is coming up on The Essentials on Turner Classic Movie channel sometime soon. A Quaker couple during the Civil War. If you read the book, you find out that he became a Quaker and marries a Quaker minister, something different!…anyways, just wanted to add that….it’s really a beautiful family friendly movie.
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  34. My husband and I have a DVD player/filter product called Clearplay. You’ve never mentioned it on your site, but it seems like something that would be right up your alley. You download filters that edit out the profanity, violence, and sex from movies. The filters can be set at different levels. Filters are not available for all movies, and sometimes, especially on kid movies, I feel they go a little overboard filtering out things (burp humor, sometimes) but it has really made watching movies more fun for my husband and I.

    The website is http://www.clearplay.com
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  35. I should correct myself: You’ve never mentioned Clearplay on your site that I’ve seen.
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  36. Fun list! A few new movies for my list… :)

    I’d add Benny and Joon!!! Cutest, quirky romance!

  37. NinaBean says:

    Anne of Green Gables is my favorite movie. I watch it every couple of months or so. I am always swept away by the father daughter love story between Matthew, and Anne. It starts off right away when Anne is in the wagon chatting away when she looks @ Matthew and says Am I talking too much? I can stop if I really need to. He looks @ her & says its ok I don’t mind. I love that right away you know he’s going to be such a blessing to her. Then after she tells off Rachel Lind he comes up stairs and asked her if she could sorta smooth things over and she realizes he doesn’t want her to go . He wants her to stay. For the first time in a long time in this orphans life someone wants her. It touches me so deeply my eyes tear up every time! It doesn’t stop there he braves the mercantile to buy her a dress with puffed sleeves for the Christmas ball, and ends up buying 20 lb’s of brown sugar and a rake (in December) before he gets the nerve to ask for the dress. ” 20 pounds of brown sugar” gotta love marilla too! This movie is full of love and humor its a must watch! Thank you for adding it to your list.

  38. stephanie says:

    Hi Emily,
    I think we just might be kindred spirits. =) Another good LM romance is The Tangeled Web.

  39. You know what movie I find very romantic is “Julie & Julia”. It’s not intended to be a romance but I love the relationships between the two couples. The playfulness and adoration between Paul and Julia Child is just wonderful. “You are the butter to my bread and the breath to my life. I love you, darling girl.” And the belief Julie’s husband has in her as she struggles with her identity and the direction of her life is so touching. He tells her she IS a writer even when she believes she has failed at it. They have their struggles but they work it out. The scene of them eating the chocolate cake is SO CUTE.
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  40. The restaurant scene in Harry met Sally isn’t the most memorable for me, but rather Harry’s words of love near then end of the movie:

    I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

  41. WHAT ABOUT ONE FINE DAY, GEORGE CLOONEY AND MICHELLE PFEIFFER, SWEET MOVIE.
    IT IS NICE TO HAVE MOVIES WITH NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. THIS DOES NOT HAVE THAT BUT LEAVES YOU TO IMAGINE THE REST. AS WITH ALL MOVIES LIKE THESE FROM YOUR LIST, THERE IS PREMARITAL SEX, DIVORCE, AND JILTING FIANCEE’S (AN ENGAGEMENT IS A COMMITMENT TOO) WE NEED GODLY DISCERNMENT WHEN WATCHING.
    MAY THE GOOD LORD GUIDE US ALL.
    IN CHRIST

  42. I LOOOOOVE A Walk to Remember. Because of this movie, for the longest time whenever someone would ask me what kind of movies I like, Keith would interject, “She likes Mandy Moore movies.” As you can imagine, since he works in Hollywood, all of his colleagues would look at me a bit cross-eyed over that one. And of course, that was his point. And even with his teasing about it being a teeny bop movie, I still LOVE it :).
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  43. I was a little sad to see YOU’VE GOT MAIL on the list, but not the original movie from which this one is derived: THE SHOP AROUND THE CORNER (with the inimitable Jimmy Stewart). I’m a classic movie buff, though, and I like a lot of older romantic comedies. It’s good too because you usually don’t have to worry about language and sex scenes with a movie made in 1947 or whatever.

    I’d give RETURN TO ME a thumbs-up. Yes, LAST OF THE MOHICANS has a beautiful love story–not so much the main one, in my opinion, but the sister and Native American. And I may be the only person alive who thought PRINCESS BRIDE was one of the most incredibly stupid films I’ve ever seen. But more than twenty years later, I still want my two hours back.
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  44. I watched North and South. It is so sad to see such feminism creeping through even then. Margaret Hales storming through Mr. Thorntons factory in those days….I wouldn’t dream of behaving like that now! Jane Austin too has these feministic views in her writings. I think a lot of these characters who play the heroine need to read Debi Pearl’s Created To Be His Helpmeet Book.

    • I haven’t seen that movie, but there is nothing ungodly about strong women! :) I’m a Christian woman, I love God and love my husband, but I would consider myself a feminist of sorts. Feminism earned us the right to be treated as human, to have protection against abuse and rape, to have the ability to vote, to have the dignity of an opinion. Pretty important things!

  45. While it is not a romantic movie as such, I’ll mention Field of Dreams (1989) – IMDb Directed by Phil Alden Robinson. With Kevin Costner, Amy Madigan, I think the relationship between husband and wife ( great to have a movie where there is no sex before marriage) is lovely. She is so supportive of her husband! Wonderful.

  46. i thout i should recomand the movie “a walk to remember”….i saw it once and quite a long tym ago…so i don’t remember the details ..but what i do remember that i loved the teenage love story showing how much we care for our loved ones….

  47. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about 50 most romantic movies.
    Regards

  48. If you don’t mind long movies with subtitles, then Veer-Zaara is a good one to watch. The honor and character displayed makes the movie.

  49. Hi ladies, speaking from the opposite sex, the list is pretty good. I’m a hopeless romantic and have seen the majority of them. There are a few you might want to check out that are not on the list.

    1. If Only(2004) starring Jennifer Love Hewitt and Paul Nicholls.
    It takes a tragedy to teach the young businessman Ian to put love ahead of work and open up to his musician girlfriend Samantha
    2. Legends of the Fall (1994) starring Brad Pitt and Julia Ormond
    Epic tale of three brothers and their father living in the remote wilderness of 1900s USA and how their lives are affected by nature, history, war, and love.
    3. Serendipity (2001) starring John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale
    Magic happens, if you let it; and sometimes even fate or destiny– or whatever you want to call it– steps in to lend a hand.

    Hope my additions will brighten your day.

  50. Life is Beautiful HAS to be on this list somewhere – a heavy story, but renewing to the spirit of staying with your life mate through thick and thin. I recommend watching the original Italian version, with English subtitles.

  51. Great post!! SO many of these movies are on my top list! And I like the fact that you tell what isn’t good about these movies (sex scenes, affairs, etc). And I also love movies that show the character of the person. That is so important in any relationship. :)

  52. These are the best romantic movies.

  53. These movies, the old and the new are without doubt the best romantic movies of all time. If you are a movie couple you would want to go over all 50 movies for sure!

  54. Rand Klatzel says:

    Hi & thx so much for the list! Great idea! Tho I must suggest a few & am a tad surprised some of these weren’t on here.
    Agreed abt Man .. Snowy River but the sequel Return To Snowy River is even better!! Pple seeing much of today’s drivel but
    missing out on a movie like this are indeed MISSING OUT!!! Or how abt Serendipity or Say Anything for John Cusack fans
    or Kate & Leopold for another fab Meg Ryan movie!? [May have a t-shirt made saying .. Yes indeed I LOVE MEG RYAN
    MOVIES!! (So shoot me!)] Just Like Heaven (Witherspoon/Ruffalo), Dante’s Peak (Linda H/Pierce B)), & Groundhog Day
    (Andie M/Bill Murray) are all just FAB in their own ways too, I think! Cheers!! Randy

  55. Thank you for such a nice list of movies! I’m always searching for chick flicks. My favorites are Rom – Com’s. Though I have seen most of these movies on this list I would like to add a few more:

    Maid of Honor
    Cutting Edge ( Original version)
    Straight From The Heart ( my ultimate fav! )
    Step Up ( Original Version)
    You may not kiss the bride
    Mad about Mambo
    Safe Haven
    My fake Fiancee ( Hilarious!)
    Love n’ Dancing
    This Means War
    Love’s Long Journey
    First Daughter
    North Shore
    Head Over Heels
    Christmas Mail
    The Decoy Bride ( Funny )
    Just Married
    Just go with it
    The National Tree
    Under the Mistletoe
    Four Christmases
    Dear John
    Leap Year
    The Last Song
    Dance With Me
    Love, Wedding, Marriage
    My Life In Ruins
    My One and Only
    The Ugly Truth ( Hilarious but watch out for some content!)
    Two Weeks Notice

    I hope this helps. There are so many more but I can’t think of them right now, I may come back and post more later.
    It would be good to see more posts to keep this list growing! This is pretty helpful.

  56. Do you recommend any of these movies for unmarried couples/ single people dating (seriously)?

  57. “Want to watch Tom Cruise before he went nuts?” hahahahahaha LOVE your commentary!!

    I adore the concept of 50 First Dates, but it was so unnecessarily crude. The rude best friend character all but destroyed it for me.

    Anything Jane Austen for sure.

    My husband H-A-T-E-S The Notebook. It is “the worst movie” he has ever seen. And let me tell you, the man has watched thousands. It is his ULTIMATE standard in declaring a movie awful or not: “Well, it wasn’t as bad as The Notebook.” lol
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  58. You mentioned many of my favorite movies: While You Were Sleeping is at the top of my list! The Princess Bride is a close second. Both are fun and sweet! :). Thanks for sharing this list, it reminded me of quite a few that we haven’t watched in awhile, and gave me some good ones to be on the look out for. I loved Cutting Edge as well, though there a couple of scenes it could do without. As a side note, I didn’t know anyone else besides me that knew about Bed of Roses! :)
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  59. Watch AWALK TO REMEMBER!!!! you won’t regret it! :)

  60. I have seen almost all of these. The Magic of Ordinary Days is my favorite. A must see. I got it from the library.

  61. I thought Groundhog Day was a great romantic movie. Bill Murray’s character had to learn what true love was before his life could change. Lots of fun, too.

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