What I'm Reading: New Books for You to Enjoy

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I’m starting a new feature here at To Love, Honor and Vacuum! I get so many requests to review books, and I can’t get through them all. But I wanted to give up and coming authors a chance to get in front of my audience. So once a month I’ll be letting you know about three books by new authors that I think may interest you. I try to choose books that focus on marriage, parenting, or Christian women’s themes. You can be featured in the future, too!

Through Eyes of Grace

We’ll start with my friend Debi Walter, who, together with her husband Tom, writes at The Romantic Vineyard. Debi’s novel Through Eyes of Grace tells the real life story of her grandmother growing up in Oklahoma just after the turn of the century.

Fifteen-year-old Grace is an innocent, one of the older children in a large family that works hard. Living on a farm with mostly girls, and not boys, hard work started young. And Grace has romantic dreams of the future. But when her dreams are centered on the wrong boy, calamity strikes. She’s brutally raped, and the rape results in pregnancy.

Grace’s childhood ends quickly, and she has to learn to grow up and leave everything she knew behind. She has the baby, and her parents prepare to raise it, sending Grace to live with relatives in a city. But does Grace have the courage to start over? And how does she leave a baby that she loves, even if she never wanted her?

It’s a story of second chances, and I found it remarkably poignant and beautiful. In the background to the story is all the hustle and bustle as the west was settled, with trains coming through, and caravans, and baseball games, and the thrill of expansion.

Debi writes beautifully, and Through Eyes of Grace is a lovely story that every woman will love. I’m going to get my 15-year-old to read it next! Perhaps the story meant more to me because I have a 15-year-old right now, and being forced to grow up quickly is something I’m so glad that she does not have to do.



Tanya Eavenson’s debut novel asks the question: How far would you go to hold on to a marriage? If someone keeps rejecting you and running away, do you keep coming back, over and over again, even if the coming back leads to more pain?

At the opening of the book you just hate Chris Roberts. He’s the kind of man you want to hate: he’s having an affair at the same time as his infant daughter is sick. And he leaves his wife Elizabeth in the hospital with their daughter to go running into the arms of another woman.

Yet when tragedy strikes, and the little girl is taken from them, Chris realizes, too late, what’s really important. By that time Elizabeth wants to give up.

Her life is too difficult. Suffering from memory loss from an injury a year previously, she inadvertently pushed her husband away. The only person she truly knew was her little baby girl, and now her daughter is gone. Can she pick up the pieces to her life?

And when someone enters her life from the past–a past she can’t remember–feelings start to return. Should she turn to him?

By this time Chris starts to look appealing. He’s confessed his sin, he’s repented, and he wants his wife back. But she doesn’t want to take him. Or rather, she keeps repeatedly changing her mind, dangling the poor guy like he’s a yo yo. It’s a theme we talk about a lot on this blog: when you’re married to someone who messed up, how do you get beyond that? And many women do what Elizabeth does: they leave them right when the guy is actually starting to get his life together.

So even though Chris had an affair, you find yourself rooting for him, and angry at Elizabeth for not realizing what she still has.

Much in a marriage can tear us apart. Ultimately it’s our choice whether we’re going to let mistakes wreck things, or whether we’ll look beyond those mistakes and rebuild what we have. When God rebuilds something, it’s often even more beautiful than it was before.

A thorough exploration of what it means to say that marriage is Unconditional–and a challenge to us to see beyond the mistakes and into the heart inside our spouse.


Building a Marriage Fit for Champions

Faithful blog reader Akinyele Ojo lives in London and saw firsthand all the hooplah surrounding the Olympics in 2012. And he asks–what do the Olympics and marriage have in common?

Winning a medal is a source of great joy and fulfillment–as is succeeding in marriage. But, says Yele, “this type of marriage does not happen by accident. It is the result of a conscious effort and a lot of hard work.” Just as Olympians need to train and constantly better their sport, so do spouses if they want to succeed and experience great joy in their relationships.

And I love this story that Akinyele includes: Fauja Singh was a 101-year-old torchbearer for the Olympics. He started running when he was 89, and ran seven marathons in his 90s. The lesson? It is never too late to start training. It is never too late to work on your marriage and turn it around.

Throughout the concise ebook Ojo weaves in stories of Olympians who believed in themselves, who set goals, who never wavered, and who were dedicated to excellence. And then he brings Scripture in to encourage us forward.

Change yourself; don’t try to change your spouse. Imagine what kind of marriage you want and then work unwaveringly towards it. We do that in our work; we dedicate ourselves to a task, we master it, and we complete it. But somehow we think marriage should be easy. Why don’t we put the same work into marriage as we will into other areas of our lives?

Dwelling on the importance of communication, trust in God, and even learning how to relax, Akinyele’s purpose is to help us believe that a marriage fit for champions is more than possible–it’s just about guaranteed! As long as we decide to put the kind of work and training into it that it deserves.

A short, concise motivational book, Building a Marriage Fit for Champions serves as a bridge for those who may not have thought about what goes into a good marriage. Everybody understands sports; few understand relationships. He uses the two to encourage us to press forward.

Thank you to the three authors for sharing these books with me this month. I look forward to bringing more to you next month!

I was compensated for these reviews.


  1. KellyK(@RNCCRN9706) says:

    I think I have ADD when it comes to books! I start a book and then another one catches my eye and so I start that one before finishing the last one.

  2. Too funny Kelly! Me too! In all seriousness, the only non fiction book I’ve finished is Sheila’s To Love, Honor & Vacuum. I can read a novel no problem, but non fiction not so much! :o)

  3. Sheila, I appreciate you writing about “Unconditional.” I think that’s what happened with me recently. My husband finally started making real changes, but I couldn’t accept them because I had been hurt so many times. The fact that I was severely unstable made it impossible for me to see the reality of the work God has been doing in his life. I too went back and forth. Fortunately, God is merciful, and my husband has become merciful as well, so I am now on the same page and seeing God and my husband in a new light. No more confusion. Now I just have to forgive myself for wanting to leave him and for being blind to the good things when I was so unstable. However, I think that God will even be able to use that in my ministry to others. He is able to use even our mistakes to minister to others. I see both my husband and myself coming to a point where God is using us in each other’s lives, and in the lives of people around us. He uses greatly flawed people with deep struggles to bring His light to hurting people, because we know their pain and we know their struggles, as they have been our own as well. God is also using people who have experienced struggles similar to mine as a ministry in my life. It is….I can’t think of how to say it. I have never been more fulfilled than to think of our struggles and the struggles of other people in this way.
    Jenny recently posted…a real church, sex and intimacy, deep hurt and ministryMy Profile

  4. Sheila,
    Thank you for the kind review. It thrills me to know you’re going to have your daughter read it. This was exactly what I hoped my grandmothers story would encourage.
    Blessings my friend,
    Debi Walter recently posted…8 “We Do’s” To Keep Our Marriage StrongMy Profile

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