It’s here!
And it’s sure to bring fireworks and intimacy to your marriage!
Do you yearn to feel truly intimate with your spouse? Do you wish that you enjoyed a sex life that was ALIVE, rather than one that was rather dull? Do you have this overwhelming feeling like you’re missing out on something–that God had so much more planned for your marriage, but you can’t quite figure out how to get there?
31 Days to Great Sex is for you!
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Eight months ago that I finished my 29 Days to Great Sex series, leading up to the launch of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.
Remember this?
And this?
Those posts were pinned a ton, and I’ve had so much traffic from them! And over and over again, people asked me, “when are you going to put this into a book?“
I finally did.
Here’s what you get:
- The first few days are devoted to seeing sex in a positive way, and talking through your baggage and insecurities.
- Then we spend a few days on building emotional intimacy (your friendship),
- a few days on building physical intimacy (the fireworks, making sex feel wonderful!),
- a few days on spiritual intimacy (the oneness), and
- a few days putting habits in place so that you can keep the momentum going once you’re done.
Sex is so important in a marriage, and yet often we lose hope. It becomes blah. We wonder if we can ever recapture that spark–or if we can ever light that spark in the first place.
This series takes you step by step in the process of building a fun and intimate sex life. It doesn’t only focus on the mechanics of sex–though there certainly are posts that will help you in that department. It also focuses on building friendship, experiencing real intimacy, and learning to have fun again.
Any two bodies can work together sexually. When we have problems in the bedroom, it’s often not because of our bodies. It’s usually because we aren’t communicating well, or we feel distant from each other, or we’re just nervous. The big benefit of this 31 days is that you’ll actually TALK and communicate about this important part of your life. Talking about it is difficult to do, but the prompts and the posts make it much easier. That’s often when breakthroughs happen!
Who will benefit from this book?
- Newlyweds who want to start off well!
- Couples for whom life has become blah and too routine
- Couples who have almost given up hope that sex can become great
- Couples in conflict because one spouse wants sex more frequently than the other
In other words–just about every married couple. In fact–true confession here–my husband made me promise this weekend that WE’D work the 31 days through starting after his next round of call at the hospital. It doesn’t matter where you are in your marriage, the 31 Days to Great Sex will help you talk about sex more, think about intimacy more, and feel much closer together.
How does it work?
Each day has a topic, like “Embracing the Skin She’s In”, “Hitting the Reset Button on your Sex Life”, or “How Do You Decide Your Sexual Boundaries?” There’s a short write-up you read together, and then there’s a challenge for you to do, often containing some conversation prompts. And yes–there’s plenty in there about how to make sex feel great, too.
If you’re looking for a fabulous but inexpensive gift to give your husband at Christmas, the book contains a link to some coupons you can download to stick in his stocking, announcing what you have planned.
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I was simply overwhelmed last February by the emails I had from you readers. Here are just a taste:
I have been amazed at the transformation in myself over the last 29 days. I can’t imagine a bigger sceptic than me going in…it was truly only my desire to walk in obedience that got me started and kept me going. But now my husband and I “joke” that we had more sex in Feb 2012 than in all 2009. Thank you for changing the way I think about sex.
I asked hubby to do this 29 days with me. He jumped at the chance – because he knows how much of a struggle this is with me. And tonight we started.
Wow – we haven’t talked like that in so long. It was amazing. Although we have a long way to go, thank you for making it possible for us to open the lines of communication.
Tonight, I want to cry because I feel like maybe, just maybe, there’s hope I’ll become the woman that God intends me to be, the woman that my DH prayed for, the woman I should be.
I just needed to tell you that your series has been a real eye opener for me. I don’t feel like I can post a public thank you yet because I’m a little embarrassed to say that it’s taken me 25 years to learn. And you were my teacher! This area of sex has had its issues throughout our marriage. I never understood about intimacy. No one ever took the time to teach me. It’s not something that’s talked about in “christian” circles. We’ve even been in counseling for the last two year–with a sex therapist who is a christian!!–and she’s never said these things to me.
I just wanted to tell you that I read your entire “29 Days To Great Sex” challenge last night. I know it is supposed to be a daily challenge but after the first couple of posts I started to feel… liberated. I am 23 and enjoy sex with my husband but also felt/feel incredibly embarrassed by my own sexual feelings. I love giving HIM pleasure but I struggle allowing him to give ME pleasure. I have always had an extremely crippling fear of “what if theres something wrong with me” and “what if I don’t do it right” and “what if hes just being nice but he thinks this is stupid/gross/annoying/taking too long”. When I was reading your posts I realized so many of my fears were unfounded. I realized that the way my body responds is completely normal and that in my fear, I have been preventing enjoyment in my husband. You kept saying that so many women just say “I guess my body just doesn’t work” THAT WAS ME and it really made me feel ashamed and embarrassed…..I know that as I learn about my body with my husband and as I learn to trust him in this way things will only get better and better for us. So… Thank you.
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This week I’ll be hosting some giveaways and doing some launch events to celebrate finally being finished! And on Monday night I’ll be hosting a live Facebook party at 9:00 pm EST, where you can ask anonymous questions, and I’ll answer. Come on over and “Like” my page to be part of that.
And on Tuesday night at 10 pm EST I’ll be hosting a Twitter party, hashtag #LuvMarriage, to talk about how married people have the best sex! Do join me there, too.
Finally, I’m doing a Pin it to Win It event on Pinterest. More details to come next week!
I know this book will help your marriage. Just writing it helped mine. And I’m offering it for only $4.99 right now.
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Will it work if you (the wife) just work on it yourself? I have not been that interested in sex- but DH is not interested AT ALL. I don’t even know where to start. When I try to talk about he just says uh-huh, and that’s the end of the conversation. If we have sex maybe once a month it is because I initiated things. And I always feel like I am just doing my duty. He just says he is tired all the time.
There certainly is a lot in there about examining your own attitudes, but it’s better done as a couple. I did direct the original 29 days series just to women, but it’s easier if your husband is on board. Maybe if you talk to him about it? The first week is really low key, kind of gradually easing you into it. It’s not like the 31 days is all “spend 45 minutes on amazing sex tonight!”. A lot is talking and learning to be affectionate again and to connect again, before we get to the overtly sexual parts (although you can make the earlier days sexual if you want to!). I’d suggest praying about it and talking to him and just saying, “I want to do this with you because I want us to feel close and intimate, not because I think there’s anything wrong with you. I just don’t want to settle for mediocre.” You know?
LOVE the cover. It makes me wish my husband wore a shirt and tie to work every day
I don’t have an e-reader, but hubby does. I may have to send him the link and have him buy it for us.
Sounds like fun! You can read the .pdf version on any computer, but I do think a Kindle is easier. And any ereader can also read a .pdf.
I hope a lot of people take the chance to get this book. I believe you point out so many wonderful ideas and thoughts concerning marriage.
When I get the chance, I plan on getting our books. 
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Congrats, Sheila!
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Will you be releasing it as a paper book in the future?
I’m looking into it! It’s just a lot more expensive to do it that way for me. I’ll tell you what–once I make enough of a profit off of the ebook sales that I can afford to then I’ll think about it! I really would like to–I think it would sell well when I speak, too.
I think these type of books are great for sticky noting pages and highlighting, something that’s harder to do on an ereader, harder to just flip right to a section. I’m excited!
Yay!!! We tried the 29 days but our baby was rather small then… so instead of 29 days to great sex it was more like 67 days to mediocre sex
We can’t wait!!
Awesome! I hope you love it.
I’d buy the book! I don’t have an e-reader and don’t enjoy reading on my laptop. But I’m really excited that you got it all put together, and hope it’s a big hit!
If you have a smartphone, you can download the Kindle app and purchase the book on Amazon and it automatically downloads it to your phone.
I don’t have a smartphone.
You could download it and print it out to read it.
I used to have to do that when I was doing .research back in college
This is awesome Sheila!! I’m so proud of you for continuing to create such brilliant products and events for people. Your hard work will certainly be rewarded. Keep going.
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Thanks, Gina!
For people looking at ereaders – target has a basic nook for $50 on Black Friday! Might be worth it
I love the cover!!! I like how it doesn’t show their whole faces and it is flirty. I also really like the title on the shirt rather than in a text box!
Congrats! I’ll try to get the pdf version soon.
Don’t forget ya’ll, that pdf’s are printable! How many pages are we looking at printing out, Sheila?
I think it’s 110!
Are you still giving away a copy to someone who voted?
Yes, I announced the winners on my Facebook page. I should go and just put that note up on that post. Thanks for reminding me!
So exciting! My husband says he will go to the doctor when he gets back from his month long business trip, and then hopefully we can work on this!
Woo hoo! Awesome, Maggie. I hope it pays dividends in your marriage.
I felt compelled to buy the e-book since you used my testimony in the post today.
I’m just kidding–I would have bought it anyway. 29 Days made such a difference in our marriage that now my husband wants me to share 31 Days with him. (I did download it to his Kindle since I’m not a fan of reading books on a computer screen.) Thanks so much, Sheila, for all you do for marriages!
Just bought a copy on my Kindle. Look forward to reading it!
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So I bought the book and decided to ask my husband to do it with me and he was very excited to do so. We did the first day last night, and well we are on very different pages….we had a pretty heated discussion/argument. He wasn’t so happy with the numbers I was giving, but to me sex feels like a chore since his primary focus is himself. I have decided to be very honest in my responses bc I feel our marriage deserves it and I want to be better for him. He always thought sex was great for me (when we had it since I never want it and see it more like something I have to do and try to delay it as long as possible) but now sees we have a lot of work to do! Here’s to hoping in 31 days we are somewhere different than here!
That’s okay that you’re on different pages! It’s good to figure that out at the beginning. As long as you both are dedicated to moving in the same direction, you’ll likely be fine. Honesty is wonderful! You can’t have real growth without it.
Wow that sounds so much like us MB. We had talked about reading this book and then last night a discussion started it ended in an argument where we both felt hurt and didn’t even end up… you know making up. I am afriad of intimacy (I just dicovered this about myself….) and we are on different pages like you said above and have much to work through in terms of our sex life. I think the best thing to do is pray pray pray through this!! I am sure our marriage is going to come under attack as we try to do this and we will need grace to hear and understand eachother. Blessings for the next 31 days
MB and Alexis, I want to encourage to complete the series. My husband and I started out earlier this year just like you both and your husbands are starting out now. I found I had to do some major rethinking! I have to believe the words my husband tells me about our sexual lives. It was not easy to recreate this part of our marriage. But is was so worth it!!! We are closer and more intimate now that we ever were the first 25 years of marriage. My prayers for your marriages!
That’s wonderful, Sue! And MB and Alexis, I’ve put up a post responding to what you were saying. It’s right here. Keep at it, ladies! Honesty is always a good thing.
I found the ‘Good Girls Guide’ in i-books on my i-phone. Will this book be available, too?
Absolutely! If you purchase this as a .pdf, and then you open it on your iPhone, you can then choose “Open in iBooks”, and then it shows up on the bookshelf in iBooks. Maybe I’ll do a visual post of how that works!
Total waste of money. My wife would never read it. I don’t even know why I come to this site. It just depresses me.
I’m sorry, Steve. I know there are many spouses–both men and women–in your situation, whose mates have shut down. I pray that there will be a break through.
Wife and I are enjoying going through this together. Still waiting for the coupons page to be up. Will ey be up soon?
Sheila, I just wanted to thank you for your boldness on this subject! I got married four months ago, and I really had nothing but a very, very basic understanding of sex before my wedding. It was so relieving to get this book at my bridal shower!
I never wanted to read a book about sex from a non-Christian standpoint, from fear that it would become too graphic or contain stuff that I didn’t want to know until my wedding day. Thanks a ton for writing openly, truthfully, and with a positive tone on a subject that not many Christian women write about! 
I found this blog on pinterest and just began to use your blog as a way to rekindle the flame in my marriage. I specifically took some of your advice from 29 days. Last night was the first night in YEARS i had felt the way i did, hubby enjoyed it too! Thank you for such wonderful information. This blog may have just saved my marriage!
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