***(UPDATE Now in Paperback, too!)***
Do you yearn to feel truly intimate with your spouse? Do you wish that you enjoyed a sex life that was ALIVE, rather than one that was rather dull? Do you have this overwhelming feeling like you’re missing out on something–that God had so much more planned for your marriage, but you can’t quite figure out how to get there?
31 Days to Great Sex is for you!
A year ago I finished my 29 Days to Great Sex series, leading up to the launch of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.
Remember the post about flirting with your husband?
Or the one about the “Act of Marriage?”
I finally did. I expanded the series, took out the “time out” days, and changed it so that it’s geared for couples, not just talking to wives. And I know it will change your marriage.
Here’s what you get:
- The first few days are devoted to seeing sex in a positive way, and talking through your baggage and insecurities.
- Then we spend a few days on building emotional intimacy (your friendship),
- a few days on building physical intimacy (the fireworks, making sex feel wonderful!),
- a few days on spiritual intimacy (the oneness), and
- a few days putting habits in place so that you can keep the momentum going once you’re done.
Sex is so important in a marriage, and yet often we lose hope. It becomes blah. We wonder if we can ever recapture that spark–or if we can ever light that spark in the first place.
This series takes you step by step in the process of building a fun and intimate sex life. It doesn’t only focus on the mechanics of sex–though there certainly are posts that will help you in that department. It also focuses on building friendship, experiencing real intimacy, and learning to have fun again.
Any two bodies can work together sexually. When we have problems in the bedroom, it’s often not because of our bodies. It’s usually because we aren’t communicating well, or we feel distant from each other, or we’re just nervous. The big benefit of this 31 days is that you’ll actually TALK and communicate about this important part of your life. Talking about it is difficult to do, but the prompts and the posts make it much easier. That’s often when breakthroughs happen!
This isn’t “31 Days of new Sex Tricks”–though there are days that will help you explore more! It’s 31 Days to Great Sex in every way. It will help you grow more intimate as you flirt, laugh, talk, and just revel in each other. Open up the door to real intimacy in your marriage.
Who will benefit from this book?
- Newlyweds who want to start off well!
- Couples for whom life has become blah and too routine
- Couples who have almost given up hope that sex can become great
- Couples in conflict because one spouse wants sex more frequently than the other
In other words–just about every married couple. In fact–true confession here–my husband made me promise this weekend that WE’D work the 31 days through starting after his next round of call at the hospital. It doesn’t matter where you are in your marriage, the 31 Days to Great Sex will help you talk about sex more, think about intimacy more, and feel much closer together.
How does it work?
Each day has a topic, like “Embracing the Skin She’s In”, “Hitting the Reset Button on your Sex Life”, or “How Do You Decide Your Sexual Boundaries?” There’s a short write-up you read together–about 1-3 pages–and then there’s a challenge for you to do, often containing some conversation prompts. And yes–there’s plenty in there about how to make sex feel great, too.
I get a lot of women writing to me saying,
My husband HATES to read books. Will he read this?
The thing is, it’s not like a regular book. You don’t have to sit down and read 30 pages and then discuss it. Each night you’re really only reading 1-3 pages. That’s it. Then there’s another page for the challenges. The reading is not time consuming, and it isn’t intimidating.
And most men will jump at the chance to make their sex life better!
If you’re looking for a fabulous but inexpensive gift to give your husband, the book contains a link to some coupons you can download to present to him, announcing what you have planned.
Can a Man Buy it for His Wife?
Absolutely! It’s a couple’s book, and if you’re male, and you want to work through it with your wife, here’s how I’d suggest talking about it:
- Stress that it’s about reading and talking together. It’s not 31 days of sex tricks where you’ll ask her to do uncomfortable things.
- Stress that you want to feel more intimate with her, and one of the weeks is on how to experience awesome intimacy.
- If sex has really been a sore spot in your marriage, ask her to read this post first.
I Would Rather buy the E-Book Edition to Have Access Right Away. But How Does an E-Book Work?
An ebook can be read on any device–a computer, an iPod, a phone, a tablet, an iPad–even an ereader! If you don’t have a particular e-reader (like a Kindle or a Nook or a Kobo), just buy the .pdf version from me. You’ll receive a link so you can download the book onto your computer or device, or you can even print it out if you’d like (it’s around 100 pages).
If you do have a specific ereader, you may prefer to buy it formatted for that reader. In that case,
Want to learn more about how to read an ebook? This post can help!
But remember–it’s available in paperback now, too!
I was simply overwhelmed last by the emails I had from you readers in response to this series. Here are just a taste:
I have been amazed at the transformation in myself over the last 29 days. I can’t imagine a bigger sceptic than me going in…it was truly only my desire to walk in obedience that got me started and kept me going. But now my husband and I “joke” that we had more sex in Feb 2012 than in all 2009. Thank you for changing the way I think about sex.
I asked hubby to do this 29 days with me. He jumped at the chance – because he knows how much of a struggle this is with me. And tonight we started.
Wow – we haven’t talked like that in so long. It was amazing. Although we have a long way to go, thank you for making it possible for us to open the lines of communication.
Tonight, I want to cry because I feel like maybe, just maybe, there’s hope I’ll become the woman that God intends me to be, the woman that my DH prayed for, the woman I should be.
I just needed to tell you that your series has been a real eye opener for me. I don’t feel like I can post a public thank you yet because I’m a little embarrassed to say that it’s taken me 25 years to learn. And you were my teacher! This area of sex has had its issues throughout our marriage. I never understood about intimacy. No one ever took the time to teach me. It’s not something that’s talked about in “christian” circles. We’ve even been in counseling for the last two year–with a sex therapist who is a christian!!–and she’s never said these things to me.
I just wanted to tell you that I read your entire “29 Days To Great Sex” challenge last night. I know it is supposed to be a daily challenge but after the first couple of posts I started to feel… liberated. I am 23 and enjoy sex with my husband but also felt/feel incredibly embarrassed by my own sexual feelings. I love giving HIM pleasure but I struggle allowing him to give ME pleasure. I have always had an extremely crippling fear of “what if theres something wrong with me” and “what if I don’t do it right” and “what if hes just being nice but he thinks this is stupid/gross/annoying/taking too long”. When I was reading your posts I realized so many of my fears were unfounded. I realized that the way my body responds is completely normal and that in my fear, I have been preventing enjoyment in my husband. You kept saying that so many women just say “I guess my body just doesn’t work” THAT WAS ME and it really made me feel ashamed and embarrassed…..I know that as I learn about my body with my husband and as I learn to trust him in this way things will only get better and better for us. So… Thank you.
I know this book will bless your marriage. Just writing it helped mine. And I’m offering it for only $4.99 as an ebook right now, or as a paperback for $12 (on sale from $15). And don’t forget the Valentine’s Bundle: 4 ebooks, just $10, including 31 Days to Great Sex!