105 responses

  1. Janet
    November 15, 2012

    Will it work if you (the wife) just work on it yourself? I have not been that interested in sex- but DH is not interested AT ALL. I don’t even know where to start. When I try to talk about he just says uh-huh, and that’s the end of the conversation. If we have sex maybe once a month it is because I initiated things. And I always feel like I am just doing my duty. He just says he is tired all the time.

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      There certainly is a lot in there about examining your own attitudes, but it’s better done as a couple. I did direct the original 29 days series just to women, but it’s easier if your husband is on board. Maybe if you talk to him about it? The first week is really low key, kind of gradually easing you into it. It’s not like the 31 days is all “spend 45 minutes on amazing sex tonight!”. A lot is talking and learning to be affectionate again and to connect again, before we get to the overtly sexual parts (although you can make the earlier days sexual if you want to!). I’d suggest praying about it and talking to him and just saying, “I want to do this with you because I want us to feel close and intimate, not because I think there’s anything wrong with you. I just don’t want to settle for mediocre.” You know?

  2. workinprogress
    November 15, 2012

    LOVE the cover. It makes me wish my husband wore a shirt and tie to work every day :-) I don’t have an e-reader, but hubby does. I may have to send him the link and have him buy it for us.

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Sounds like fun! You can read the .pdf version on any computer, but I do think a Kindle is easier. And any ereader can also read a .pdf.

  3. Crystal Green
    November 15, 2012

    I hope a lot of people take the chance to get this book. I believe you point out so many wonderful ideas and thoughts concerning marriage. :) When I get the chance, I plan on getting our books. :)
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    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Thank you, Crystal!

  4. Fawn Weaver
    November 15, 2012

    Congrats, Sheila!
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  5. Christina
    November 15, 2012

    Will you be releasing it as a paper book in the future?

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      I’m looking into it! It’s just a lot more expensive to do it that way for me. I’ll tell you what–once I make enough of a profit off of the ebook sales that I can afford to then I’ll think about it! I really would like to–I think it would sell well when I speak, too.

      • Christina
        November 16, 2012

        I think these type of books are great for sticky noting pages and highlighting, something that’s harder to do on an ereader, harder to just flip right to a section. I’m excited!

  6. Alexis
    November 15, 2012

    Yay!!! We tried the 29 days but our baby was rather small then… so instead of 29 days to great sex it was more like 67 days to mediocre sex :) We can’t wait!!

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Awesome! I hope you love it.

  7. Megan G.
    November 15, 2012

    I’d buy the book! I don’t have an e-reader and don’t enjoy reading on my laptop. But I’m really excited that you got it all put together, and hope it’s a big hit!

    • KellyK
      November 15, 2012

      If you have a smartphone, you can download the Kindle app and purchase the book on Amazon and it automatically downloads it to your phone.

      • Megan G.
        November 15, 2012

        I don’t have a smartphone. :)

    • Saretta
      November 19, 2012

      You could download it and print it out to read it. :) I used to have to do that when I was doing .research back in college

  8. Gina Parris
    November 15, 2012

    This is awesome Sheila!! I’m so proud of you for continuing to create such brilliant products and events for people. Your hard work will certainly be rewarded. Keep going.
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    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Thanks, Gina!

  9. Jody
    November 15, 2012

    For people looking at ereaders – target has a basic nook for $50 on Black Friday! Might be worth it :)

  10. Michele ºÜº
    November 15, 2012

    I love the cover!!! I like how it doesn’t show their whole faces and it is flirty. I also really like the title on the shirt rather than in a text box!

    Congrats! I’ll try to get the pdf version soon.

  11. Heather E.
    November 15, 2012

    Don’t forget ya’ll, that pdf’s are printable! How many pages are we looking at printing out, Sheila?

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      I think it’s 110!

  12. Anonymous
    November 15, 2012

    Are you still giving away a copy to someone who voted?

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Yes, I announced the winners on my Facebook page. I should go and just put that note up on that post. Thanks for reminding me!

  13. Maggie
    November 15, 2012

    So exciting! My husband says he will go to the doctor when he gets back from his month long business trip, and then hopefully we can work on this!

    • Sheila
      November 15, 2012

      Woo hoo! Awesome, Maggie. I hope it pays dividends in your marriage.

  14. Sue
    November 16, 2012

    I felt compelled to buy the e-book since you used my testimony in the post today. :-) I’m just kidding–I would have bought it anyway. 29 Days made such a difference in our marriage that now my husband wants me to share 31 Days with him. (I did download it to his Kindle since I’m not a fan of reading books on a computer screen.) Thanks so much, Sheila, for all you do for marriages!

  15. Gaye @ Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
    November 16, 2012

    Just bought a copy on my Kindle. Look forward to reading it!
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  16. MB
    November 16, 2012

    So I bought the book and decided to ask my husband to do it with me and he was very excited to do so. We did the first day last night, and well we are on very different pages….we had a pretty heated discussion/argument. He wasn’t so happy with the numbers I was giving, but to me sex feels like a chore since his primary focus is himself. I have decided to be very honest in my responses bc I feel our marriage deserves it and I want to be better for him. He always thought sex was great for me (when we had it since I never want it and see it more like something I have to do and try to delay it as long as possible) but now sees we have a lot of work to do! Here’s to hoping in 31 days we are somewhere different than here!

    • Sheila
      November 16, 2012

      That’s okay that you’re on different pages! It’s good to figure that out at the beginning. As long as you both are dedicated to moving in the same direction, you’ll likely be fine. Honesty is wonderful! You can’t have real growth without it.

    • Alexis
      November 16, 2012

      Wow that sounds so much like us MB. We had talked about reading this book and then last night a discussion started it ended in an argument where we both felt hurt and didn’t even end up… you know making up. I am afriad of intimacy (I just dicovered this about myself….) and we are on different pages like you said above and have much to work through in terms of our sex life. I think the best thing to do is pray pray pray through this!! I am sure our marriage is going to come under attack as we try to do this and we will need grace to hear and understand eachother. Blessings for the next 31 days :)

    • Sue
      November 16, 2012

      MB and Alexis, I want to encourage to complete the series. My husband and I started out earlier this year just like you both and your husbands are starting out now. I found I had to do some major rethinking! I have to believe the words my husband tells me about our sexual lives. It was not easy to recreate this part of our marriage. But is was so worth it!!! We are closer and more intimate now that we ever were the first 25 years of marriage. My prayers for your marriages!

      • Sheila
        November 16, 2012

        That’s wonderful, Sue! And MB and Alexis, I’ve put up a post responding to what you were saying. It’s right here. Keep at it, ladies! Honesty is always a good thing.

  17. Sarah
    November 19, 2012

    I found the ‘Good Girls Guide’ in i-books on my i-phone. Will this book be available, too?

    • Sheila
      November 19, 2012

      Absolutely! If you purchase this as a .pdf, and then you open it on your iPhone, you can then choose “Open in iBooks”, and then it shows up on the bookshelf in iBooks. Maybe I’ll do a visual post of how that works!

  18. Steve
    November 20, 2012

    Total waste of money. My wife would never read it. I don’t even know why I come to this site. It just depresses me.

    • Sheila
      November 21, 2012

      I’m sorry, Steve. I know there are many spouses–both men and women–in your situation, whose mates have shut down. I pray that there will be a break through.

  19. Paul
    November 27, 2012

    Wife and I are enjoying going through this together. Still waiting for the coupons page to be up. Will ey be up soon?

  20. Courtney H.
    December 16, 2012

    Sheila, I just wanted to thank you for your boldness on this subject! I got married four months ago, and I really had nothing but a very, very basic understanding of sex before my wedding. It was so relieving to get this book at my bridal shower! :) I never wanted to read a book about sex from a non-Christian standpoint, from fear that it would become too graphic or contain stuff that I didn’t want to know until my wedding day. Thanks a ton for writing openly, truthfully, and with a positive tone on a subject that not many Christian women write about! :)

  21. tarah
    February 2, 2013

    I found this blog on pinterest and just began to use your blog as a way to rekindle the flame in my marriage. I specifically took some of your advice from 29 days. Last night was the first night in YEARS i had felt the way i did, hubby enjoyed it too! Thank you for such wonderful information. This blog may have just saved my marriage! :)

  22. therapist
    April 21, 2013

    Do you address when a partner has been betrayed sexually?

  23. Feather
    October 6, 2013

    Hi there :)
    I bought the e-book yesterday, now, I don’t like reading, I’m not from this country and it’s easier for me to listen. Do you have an audiobook version of it? That is the best way for me to sit still and listen and learn, other wise it dose not work for me.
    I have another problem, my husband will never read it or listen to it, he dose believe that I can learn anything from books and I can only learn from myself and from listening to him which I know its bulshit. My question is, can I do it and read it/listen all by myself, without my husband? Will it work the same?
    I’m also coming from a place that I’m very shy woman about everything, yes I look good and sexy to other people but I don’t use it or show it at all, especially to my husband, I’m just not a sexual woman, I don’t like having sex and it’s always seems like such a hard work to do. My husband complain to me that I turn him OFF instead of ON because I don’t have any confident and sexuality.
    I’m really confused and don’t know how to help and change it.
    I hope you could help me :)
    Thank you very much!

    • Sheila
      October 7, 2013

      Feather, I don’t have an audiobook available yet. I’m sorry.

      But the book really is meant to be read and talked through. You can read it yourself, but you’ll get much more out of it as a couple, since most of the things are exercises you have to do together.

      Honestly, each day is really only 2-3 pages of reading. That’s it. It’s not that much. And I think you really need to put the effort in to read it and try to do the challenges. There’s nothing “magical” that just hearing will make you all better. You have to read it, and think about it, and make a decision to put it into action. It takes work and determination on your part, and on his. And so I guess I’d just say to all couples: do you want to get better? Because if you do, then you have to put the work in. There really is no other way. How much is this bothering you? Is it bothering you enough that you are willing to say, “I really need to change”?

      It sounds like it is. You’re not in a good place–you think sex is icky, and you feel ashamed in front of your husband. I’m so, so sorry for that, and I do understand, and you are totally not alone. Many women feel that way. But the only way through to the other side is to pray about it and then make the decision that you’re going to do the work. And so I’d talk to him and tell him something like this, “I really want this to get better in our marriage, but I need your help. I want this to be something we do together. It really only takes 15 minutes a night roughly–15 minutes for a month, and then we’ll start to see our marriage get so much better. Will you do this with me, because I want our marriage to thrive!”

      Can you try that? I really hope that helps!

  24. Denise
    December 17, 2013

    My husband wants a divorce and we’ve been going to counseling for about a month. Communications are finally happening and we’ve been making some positive changes. He is back to sleeping in our bedroom and – to my relief – he was willing to have sex again. I feel safe with this decision but I know that he is still not 100% back – be it confusion or guilt (he had an emotional affair that lead to the the asking for the divorce.) I have forgiven him and myself. I know he still needs time to forgive himself and move forward in a positive way. I would like to reconnect with him in this area but I am not sure if this book would be helpful. Please share your input.

    • Sheila
      December 17, 2013

      Denise, that’s hard to say, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but so glad that things are looking up! The book does take things slowly–and opens up a lot of doors to talking again. And near the end of the month there are some exercises to truly put the past behind you and move forward together. In that sense it could be just what you need. At the same time, its success is really going to depend on whether he is committed to making the marriage work and you both are really able to talk again. If you are, it likely will work. If there’s still a ton of doubt and you both don’t know if you do want to continue in the marriage, then it may be hard to be vulnerable and honest enough to do some of the exercises, because they do require at least a basic commitment that you want to work on your relationship. I certainly hope you have that, and you have my prayers!

  25. Richard
    July 25, 2014

    by any chance do you offer this book in Spainish?

    • Sheila
      July 28, 2014

      It isn’t in Spanish yet–but I hope that my new publisher will issue a Spanish version!

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