It’s Wednesday, the day when we talk marriage! I introduce a post, and then you all can link up your own marriage posts below, or leave a comment on the topic at hand.
Rather than write a big post today, I thought I’d post this video that I just uploaded of me talking about how for women, sex is primarily in our heads.
The moral here? I’ve presented the NEGATIVE side of it: when we’re distracted, or when we have a negative view of sex, then sex is unlikely to feel good.
But there’s also a POSITIVE side: think good thoughts about sex, and deliberately, throughout the day, think about how great it’s going to be, and your body will likely follow.
We need to start thinking more positively about our husbands and about making love, rather than just hoping that mood strikes us. For us our sex drives are primarily in our heads, so use that to your advantage! Sure, there’s a downside to it–it can be harder to get aroused. But the upside is that when we do anticipate and when we do think positively, things can go very well.
So work on your friendship so you feel close to your husband. Go for walks so you can talk and get all of your distractions out. Be vulnerable with him and share some deep things that are on your heart. All of that helps us feel more positively about him.
And then look forward to making love tonight! That can make all the difference in the world.
Now, what advice do you have for us today? Link up a marriage post in the linky below, or leave a comment!
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