I blog because I have a passion to help marriages.
I try to post things that will help you with difficulties you face, and in so doing I also try to point you to God.
However, I know many of you have specific problems or are in acute turmoil. And many of you email me. I do appreciate my readers reaching out, and I do pray over each email. I’m finding, though, that the volume is just getting too much. I can’t do each of them justice.
Right now I have a backlog of about 80 emails I’m trying to answer, and I can’t keep going on like this, because I don’t want to delay in answering you, but I also can’t handle the volume. So I’m going to create a post here with answers to the most common questions that I get, through links to posts that I’ve written. I hope that this may prove handy for many of you! And please, share it on Facebook or Pin It so that others can see it.
You are more than welcome to continue to send emails, and I will certainly pray over them, and I may use some as Reader Questions of the Week (with identifying details removed). I also love hearing your stories! However, I can’t promise to reply to each one anymore. I’m sorry about that. I wish I could replicate myself, but I can’t. And so instead I try to write posts on this blog that can help as large a number of women as possible. I think that’s the best use of my time.
So I hope instead that you all find this list helpful. This will be an ongoing post, and I’ll update it periodically with new posts, so keep it handy!
And remember, as much as these posts say, I go into way more detail in The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. Don’t settle for mediocre sex! The book is an awesome resource for those of you who want to take it to the next level, or who have specific problems and questions that you want dealt with.
Where to Find Specific Marriage Advice
Part 1: Christian Sex Advice on All Kinds of Topics
When You’re New to Sex
Top 10 Wedding Night Tips
When Your Sex Life Just Isn’t Working
Hitting the “Reset Button” and Starting Over
29 Days to Great Sex–try the challenge!
Experiencing Spiritual Intimacy when You Make Love
Top 10 Ways to Get Out of a Sexual Rut in Your Marriage
When Your Husband is Having an Affair
Hope After you Discover Your Husband is Having an Affair
How to Stop an Emotional Affair
When Texting/Facebook Cross the Line
How to Forgive Your Husband
When You Discover Your Husband has been Texting Another Woman
Books To Help You Deal with a Husband’s Affair
When Sex Doesn’t Feel Very Pleasurable
How to Reach Orgasm
The Pleasure Center
My Journey to the Big O
Why Is It So Hard to Reach Orgasm?
Foreplay Can be for Him, too!
Foreplay Can Be Fun
9 Tips to Make Sex Feel Great FOR HER
I’m Always Left Hanging in Bed–Sexually Unsatisfied
The ONE Tip That Will Make Sex Feel So Much Better!
How Do I Become More Orgasmic?
I Hate It When My Husband Touches Me THERE (when you don’t like a particular part of your body being touched)
Should I Tell My Husband if I Fake It/Fantasize About Other People?
When Sexual Dysfunction Hits
Dealing with Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation (3-part series)
Top 10 Sexual Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore
When You Have No Libido
Why You’ve got to Initiate, Baby
Libido is Use it Or Lose It
Women are Not Like Slow Cookers
Preparing for Sex Throughout the Day
How to Get Your Head in the Game
What Does 1 Corinthians 7:5 Mean?
Getting Over thinking Sex is “for him”
Why Sex Isn’t Just for Him
Why You Should Reconsider if You’re Not “In the Mood”
Rebuilding Your Sex Life After Years of Sexual Refusal
Top 10 Effects of Hormones (like your period!) on Your Libido (with links to the three part series)
10 Ways to Stop Being Too Tired for Sex
10 Ways to Get Turned on by Your Husband Again
Top 10 Positive Things to Say to Yourself About Sex
Are You Settling for a Dead Sex Life?
What Does It Actually Mean to Be Attracted to Your Husband?
For Men: When Your Wife has No Libido
A Post to Read to Your Wife to Explain How You feel
For the Guys: What To Do When Your Wife Seems to Hate Sex
When Your Husband Uses Porn
Top 10 Effects of Porn on Your Marriage and Your Sex Life
Is Porn Cheating?
How to Deal with a Husband’s Porn Use: A Man’s Perspective (great thoughts on how to get help)
Rebuilding Your Life after a Porn Addiction
Marriage VLog: When Your Husband Was Addicted to Porn
What To Do When You Discover Your Husband Uses Porn (3-part series)
Are You a Spouse or an Enabler?
Getting Internet Controls on Your Computer
Rewiring Your Brain after a Porn Addiction
When Should I Let My Husband Back into My Bed After a Porn Addiction?
How Can A Guy Make it Up to His Wife if He’s Used Porn?
3 Easy Steps to a Porn-Free Home
When You Use Porn (or erotica) and want to stop
The Effect on Women of Pornography
How to Stop Dissociation (or needing to fantasize during sex)
Why 50 Shades of Grey is Bad for Your Marriage
Top 10 Things to Know about Women and Porn
What Are Appropriate Sexual Boundaries (like what is it okay to do?)
What is Appropriate Sexual Release
Should Christians Use Sex Toys
Sex Shouldn’t Need Batteries
5 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage
Spicing Things up without 50 Shades of Grey
Deciding Your Boundaries
Sex Should be Mutual
When Your Husband Doesn’t Think You’re Adventurous Enough in Bed
Shouldn’t Sex Involve Intercourse?
Is It Okay to Watch Porn Together if We Both Agree?
Do I Have to Indulge My Husband’s Fantasies?
When You Can’t Decide about Birth Control
Birth Control Roundup
When Your Husband Doesn’t Want to Use Birth Control–and You Don’t Want to Get Pregnant
What About Sex & Menstruation?
Men: Here’s What I Wish I Could Say to You About Sex
Sex Should Be Mutual
Part 2: General Christian Marriage Advice
When You Feel Disconnected from Your Husband and Have No Hope
Hope for Those in Troubled Marriages
Revive Your Attitude
Why Your Husband Won’t Meet Your Needs
Marital Success is a Matter of Attitude
Sometimes Marriage is Just Tough
Do You Feel Really Alone in Your Marriage (vLog)
How a Marriage Changes
What the Vow Means
Living in a Loveless Marriage
Top 10 Truths About Emotionally Destructive Marriages
What If My Marriage Was a Mistake?
Top 10 Christian “Pat Answers” About Marriage That Don’t Work (and what to do instead)
Can You Get Past It? The Power of Forgiveness
What About Submission in Marriage?
What Does Submission Mean?
Why One-Size-Fits-All Marriage Advice Doesn’t Work
When the Way We Talk About Submission Turns People Off of Christ
Submission Doesn’t Mean You Never Have Conflict
Let’s Not Make Women Powerless in the Name of Jesus
Fully Alive: A Biblical Look at Gender
A Letter to a Woman with a Controlling Husband
Do We Know What It Means to Serve our Husbands?
When You Can’t Resolve a Certain Conflict in Marriage
Understanding the Issue in Conflict
Keeping Your Head When You’re Mad
When Your Husband Won’t Change (2-part series)
When You Feel Like You’re in a Catch-22 in Marriage
Why I’ve Stopped Resolving Conflict–and You Should Too (a different way to look at conflict)
When You Don’t Share a Friendship with Your Husband
Countering the Drift
Revive Your Friendship
Why Walking Together Works Wonders
Keeping a Friendship with Your Husband
Just Your Type: Personality Differences in Marriage
50 Conversation Starters for Couples–These are new, and they’re fun!
Part 3: General Christian Parenting Advice
What About Teenagers?
Why I Didn’t Rebel (from my 19-year-old daughter)
7 Ways to Raise a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young
What to do When You Discover Your Daughter is Having Sex
Dealing with a Depressed Teenager
Talking to Your Children about Sex
Helping Your Kids Develop Healthy Relationships with the Opposite Sex
Part 4: Christian Advice for Singles
Should I Marry Him?
Four Things that Make a Guy Husband Material
Should I Marry my Boyfriend if He Uses Porn?
10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Married
How to Prepare for Marriage (and not just the wedding!)
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