1. The Wimp Factor
I took my car in for an oil change yesterday. I’m driving to Pennsylvania for the Allume blogging conference next week, and I have several speaking engagements along the way, so my car needed to be in tip top shape. But lately my tires have been losing air really quickly. And no matter how many times I fill them up, they still leak. So I asked the guys to take a look at them.
Turns out the reason they leak is because I don’t put the valves on tightly enough.
Guess I’m wimpy!
2. The Prayer Factor
The other night my husband and I were having rather a heated disagreement, and it didn’t seem to matter what we said, we just kept hurting each other. Then, in the middle of it, my husband got down on his knees by the bed and said a simple prayer out loud.
We kept talking, but I was able to see his point of view. He was able to see mine. And we came to an agreement rather quickly.
Why do we try to do things without God so much?
3. The Amazement Factor
This comment came through the website the other day:
I am so thankful for this series! My husband and I have been…married 10 years. We had 2 children and lived together for 4 years before we married. Marriage was an after thought. I had many misconceptions about marriage, sex, and intimacy. I was raised that sex was dirty and disgusting…I am so thankful that the Lord found and saved my husband and I in September of 2005. He has done so many wonderful things including healing alot of the pain and bondage that held our marriage at arms length. My husband has recently been really pushy about asking me what I wanted in our sex life and I was so uncomfortable telling him. Even though I thoroughly enjoy making love with him I just couldn’t talk about it with him and I didn’t know that I could feel connected to him on a deeper level. Sex was purely physical. I knew that he needed it and that I was just going to have to deal with the fact that I would never connect with him that way. WHAT A LIE FROM THE ENEMY! I started praying (really praying!) that God would help me to be the wife my husband needed me to be and I happened across an article (it was totally God) about 16 ways to flirt with your husband. I started reading the rest of the articles and went through them all in 2 days! I have talked to my husband about things in the past few days that I never thought I would or even could. I realized that there is nothing wrong with me and that we can have that connection. Sex is NOT dirty and I am allowed to enjoy it! We have already had more intimacy in the past 2 days than we have in a long time! We have understood more about each other and have realized that things are worth talking about even though it’s uncomfortable. I cannot thank you enough for this wonderful God given gift that you have shared with us and how you have changed our lives forever! BTW we never really took the wedding seriously (even though we really loved each other and definitly wanted to be married) and we didn’t have a honeymoon but I have a feeling that this coming year that will change and we will renew our vows! Very excited about whats to come!
That comment, combined with the almost 400 (!) that you all left last weekend after I had my mini-breakdown online, meant so much to me. It has helped me to see that God is really using me online. That this is a ministry. And the thought that God could take my words and use them to actually help people is really humbling to me. And I did love the 29 Days to Great Sex! (The ebook the 31 Days to Great Sex is almost ready! I’ll be launching it in a few weeks).
So there you go: I’m wimpy. I need God. And sometimes He uses me anyway.
I think that’s a good place to be. And I’m just taking deep breaths right now, and trying to really FEEL that, because I’ve been awfully hard on myself lately for not living up to my own standards. Maybe I ought to just take a step back and let God set those standards, eh? (that’s the Canadian coming out in me!)
UPDATE: Okay, so I wrote about the tire incident on my Facebook page and learned that there is a difference between VALVES and CAPS. It turns out that when you fill up a tire you screw the caps back on, but the valves are different. So it wasn’t my fault! I’m not wimpy! All I am is ignorant.
So I’ll have to change my conclusion to this: I don’t know everything. I need God. And sometimes He uses me anyway.