'Questions?' photo (c) 2008, Valerie Everett - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/Every weekend I like to throw up a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. This week’s question is about trust in marriage and accountability.

I have noticed a lot of discussion among my friends for years about how much “keeping an eye” on your spouse is “normal” or healthy. One of my friends thinks that if you don’t go thru emails, text messages, and even the finances looking for odd dinners, etc. then you are just naive and stupid. Another friend says it shows lack of trust to check up on your spouse. But what do you and your readers think? Where does healthy accountability end and paranoid spying begin?

What do you think?  Leave your thoughts in the comments!

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