'Questions?' photo (c) 2008, Valerie Everett - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/Every weekend I like to throw up a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. This week’s question is a stirring one on our culture, what we read and how to speak the truth to others in love…

I have several Christian friends reading a series of erotica novels for females. When I mention I’m not reading the books or tell my friends I think it’s a bad idea, they accuse me of judging them. What is the appropriate or biblical way to be honest and judge the material, not the person? How can I question what they are reading without coming across as judgmental? I really care about my friends and don’t want to see their lives or marriages impacted in a negative way by these books. I’m not sure how to approach this situation. I feel like any time I disagree, I am going to be accused of judging them and that is not my intention. Please help!

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As a side note, I also received an email about Kindles and erotica novels, where my reader’s 12-year-old daughter received promo ads for these books and read some samples, only to discover she had stepped into the wrong thing.  This reader found that a good guard for her daughter was to upload approved books to her daughter’s Kindle and then de-register the Kindle, which disconnects it from WiFi and prevents the promotions from showing up.  We must be alert about these things.

I wrote this article on How Kindles Can Wreck Marriages, which addresses ways to guard ourselves by uncovering secrets and staying accountable with one another and our husbands. It is a FOR us kind of thing.

Don’t forget this summer: The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex makes a great gift for any woman about to get married!