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  1. Megan Elzey
    February 9, 2012

    Awesome. I am coming in late, here, so I will need to back up and read from the beginning, but I love this! I love it when women encourage other women to really enjoy their marriages and their spouses. Thank you!
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  2. donotdisturb blog
    February 9, 2012

    One way I have “trained” myself to think about sex throughout the day is by engaging my sense of smell. I in essence chose a scent for my husband to wear during our intimate times and then I chose to think about him sexually whenever I smelled it.

    I plan on writing a more in depth post about it in the near future but for now feel free to check out this short post on the sense of smell: http://donotdisturbblog.wordpress.com/2012/01/10/better-than-a-magazine-smell/
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  3. Lori
    February 9, 2012

    Another awesome post, Sheila. I have really been enjoying this series…{so has my husband!;)}.
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  4. Mendi
    February 9, 2012

    I too am joining late in this series of posts but I’m eager to find the time to retrace the previous eight days! Such great information & food for thought even for those of us who have been married for 20 plus years! :) Our marriage is great but real talk on subjects such as this can do nothing but further nurture the fruit of something that is already wonderful! Thank you!

    P.S.) Love the idea of using the sense of smell to be the “reminder” throughout the day…

  5. Angel
    February 9, 2012

    This is huge for me! I find I need to keep it on (at least) the back burner in my mind all day or it’s much harder for me to be in the mood in the evening. If my husband is home, I’ll make the effort to add more intentional touch to get me in the mood and show him I’m thinking about it. Works for both of us! :)

    • Sheila
      February 9, 2012

      Intentional touch–such an important one! I probably should have mentioned that more, to go along with the kissing post of a few days ago, so thanks for bringing it up again!

  6. kristin
    February 9, 2012

    texting a “Thanks for last night” message when he leaves in the morning, followed by a “wanna do that again tonight?” text. The answer is usually “please” :)

  7. Ngina Otiende
    February 9, 2012

    Wow, I love #4.

    I have trained my mind to dwell on God’s goodness and blessings in my life when I am cooling down after exercising. It’s almost automatic now and my thankful vocabulary is growing!

    I see how that is going to work when it comes to sex. Cos I am one of those who do not consciously think about it much until the last minute

    Thank you for sharing!
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  8. Danielle Jones
    February 9, 2012

    ^^ Kristin, I like that idea.! I just have to be sure I’ll be ready for that that night too.lol

    I also like that comment on ‘inentional touch’. That is so important, especially for my husband whose love language is touch. I am not a touchy-feely person, but I am learning. Even in prayer–even if we’re out at Bstudy, House Church or trainings–hold hands or touch his arm. He told me that it really meant something to him, that not only were we in agreement, but we were one in prayer. I loved that!

    I cannot wait for more of these posts, Sheila. They have blessed me today as I’ve caught up with each one. I will only have until next Wednesday and then we are going out of the country on a family mission trip! So excited! But, I will be back after that to catch up and participate.
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    • Sheila
      February 9, 2012

      Danielle, have a great time on your missions trip! That’s exciting. I always find that serving God together brings blessings in the bedroom anyway, because you feel so spiritually intimate. And we’ll still be here when you get back!

  9. Traci @ Ordinary Inspirations
    February 9, 2012

    Thanks! Great advice here! Love, Traci @ Ordinary Inspirations

  10. Vinae
    February 9, 2012

    I’ve found if I plan for an intimate evening, tell my hubby about my plan (so that I can’t back out!), and then think about it all day, I have a much more enjoyable time. Thanks for extra tips in making it happen!
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  11. Muriel
    February 10, 2012

    I just showed my husband the picture and told him that me knitting is good for our sex life ;-)

  12. Heather
    February 10, 2012

    I think I need to implement just about all of these! I have to admit thought that since we’ve started to make love more often, I have found myself thinking about it more as well.
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  13. Bri
    March 26, 2012

    What you said about making yourself feel pretty is TOTALLY true! We’re a young couple with 2 boys ages 1 and 2, and we both work full time. Needless to say we’re always super busy and super exhausted! However just the simple act of shaving my legs and throwing on some nail polish makes me feel SO much sexier when we’re being intimate. I feel much more comfortable in my own skin and I’m able to “get out of my head” and enjoy it a lot more. Just by seeing my cute toes and feeling my smooth legs :) Also, I recently bought a bra that fits, and a pair of jeans that are my size and flattering (instead of the size smaller I wished I was). It’s AMAZING how much of a difference those 2 pieces of clothing have made me feel. Anyway, I am absolutely loving these posts and will definitely be trying a lot of these ideas. :)

    • Sheila
      March 26, 2012

      That’s great, Bri! And I totally get what you’re saying about the jeans. Sometimes we just have to give up that dream of what we want to be and dress the body we actually have. We’ll end up feeling so much more confident and happy with ourselves!

  14. Chelsea
    July 2, 2013

    I think the shaving thing is so interesting. There was a time, when I was younger, that I would have felt embarrassed for anyone to see my unshaven legs. Now that I’m older and have chronic pain and fatigue, there are times I just can’t bring myself to shave. The first time I mentioned my insecurity to my husband, he looked at me like I had just said the silliest thing in the world. Not only did he tell me that he didn’t mind when I didn’t shave, he told me that he actually *liked* the hair on my legs, because it feels soft to him. (I didn’t think so at the time, but, in comparison to the hair on his legs …) Ever since, I’ve gained the courage to wear shorts even when I don’t feel up to shaving – sometimes for a few days, sometimes a few weeks – because I know that my husband is attracted to me either way. I’m so blessed to have such an understanding husband! Also, I just want to clarify that I think this is a totally personal thing. I guess I just wanted to publicly give props to the hubs for being so awesome!

  15. Allie
    December 15, 2013

    Can you suggest a resource that I could read to help me better understand how men work? “biological cues that remind us about sex the way men do. Men are very visually oriented, and so even if they don’t mean to think about sex, when they see a pretty woman their minds often turn that way. And if they haven’t had sex in a while, their body actually feels it.” This is ver enlightening to me, however, it’s still difficult to understand our differences. I’ve fully been enjoying this blog. Thanks!

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