Wifey Wednesday: Why Marriage Matters

It’s Wednesday, the day when we talk marriage! I introduce a topic, and then you follow up either by commenting or by writing your own post and then linking up!

Today I want to do something different. Instead of writing a long post on why marriage is important, I thought I’d just post this really well-done 2 minute video clip. Watch it!

That’s the truth. Too many people think that “living together” is good practice for marriage, because when you live together, you learn about each other. But living together and marriage actually have very little in common. When you’re married, it’s based on a commitment. I’m not going anywhere. I’m going to learn to love you. I’m going to learn to consider your needs.

Living together, on the other hand, is based on “testing”. Is he meeting my needs? Is he making me feel loved? And when you’re always testing, he’ll always fail.

That’s also why, in my opinion, marriages that follow cohabitation are 70% more likely to fail than marriages where the couple did not live together first. The relationship didn’t start out in this testing mode.

For a marriage to work, commitment has to be at the root. When it’s just about “love”, or “feeling good”, or “making my needs met”, it won’t work. Cohabitation is only about feelings, not commitment. You need the promise to keep a relationship together.

I wish more couples understood that. So spread that video around! Hit “share on Facebook” below, or “share on Twitter”. Thanks!

Now, what advice do you have for us today? Write your own Wifey Wednesday post that links back to here, and then leave the link of THAT POST in the Mcklinky below. Thanks!


  1. Lori Alexander says:

    >The article I wrote is about love being a choice and not a feeling also. Way too many Christian marriages are falling apart because they don't "feel" in love anymore…It is so sad! We are to be salt and light!

  2. Christie says:

    >Lori, my article goes hand in hand with yours. It's about how we can let our emotions be in charge of situations and the trouble that can cause. I decided to share mine when I saw yours there. A Holy Spirit moment?

  3. ET @ Titus2:3-5 says:

    >Sheila, I watched that video when you posted on fb yesterday, and it had me shaking my head. It's so true, and I totally bought into it. Thank the Lord that He redeems the messes we make of our lives!

  4. Jamie Meyer says:

    >Loved this! Very well said. :)

  5. Kellie Ross says:

    >It sure makes the "Royal Wedding" a whole lot less special since they have been shacking up….so sad. Thanks for the video!

  6. >Hi everybody! Sorry for not chiming in earlier; I was in Minneapolis for meetings all week. Anyway, Kellie I didn't know they'd been "shacking up"! I guess it's hardly surprising; I just wasn't aware of it.

    Now I've got to go read all these great entries!

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