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It’s time for our Friday Round-Up, where I share what’s been big on the blog this week, as well as what’s going on in my personal life.

Before I do that, I just need to say thank you to all the great answers to my questions on LAST week’s roundup on how to make a wedding special. I was out of the house all day Friday and when I got back there were a whole bunch of really thoughtful comments. But by that time it would have taken too long to reply to each one individually, so I didn’t. And then I felt badly because you all had taken the time to write to me! But I hate replying to some comments and not all. It makes me look like I’m playing favourites or something. So I just wanted to say I did appreciate them! I’m sending them to my daughter to read, too.

Okay, now with the blog:

What’s #1 at the Blog This Week:

My post on grief went over so well with so many of you. Thank you for sharing it! That concept meant so much to me when someone shared it with me when I was going through a low point, and I just pray that it helped others going through low points, too.

The grief process: you don't just get over itWhy Do Teenagers Rebel? A 19-year-old explains how it doesn't HAVE to happen!#1 on the Blog: Grief: You Don’t Just Get Over It
#1 on Pinterest: A 19-year old explains: Why I Didn’t Rebel
#1 on Twitter: Have a sex question you’re afraid to ask? 
#1 on Facebook: Grief: You Don’t Just Get Over It
Big from Search Engines: 50 Bible Verses to Memorize

I’m adding another dimension this week that I thought you all may be interested in–what posts people arrive on from search engines. About 1/3 of my traffic is from search engines, and I think if my readers understood what search terms people use to wind up here, you’d likely understand a lot of my readers/commenters better! Unlike a lot of other marriage blogs, I get search terms from marriages that are really in trouble. So each week I’ll highlight a different post from the top 15. My Bible verse post has always been #1, but you may be surprised to see what some of the rest are!

Are You a Blogger and Want to Be Part of My Upcoming Book Launch?

Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage: Because a Great Relationship Doesnt Happen by AccidentIf you’re a blogger and you’d be interested in participating in my book launch, just leave a comment below and I’ll forward your information along to Waterbrook! I’ve got to start organizing all the book launch stuff for 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, and it’s kind of tricky to do that while planning a wedding. :) But once August comes I’ll be full speed ahead.

Happy Canada Day!

So Canada Day was on Wednesday–the day that we Canadians celebrate our great and mighty nation.

I didn’t write much about Canada Day–sorry, it was mostly wedding prep here at my house–but my kids did some pretty funny things that I thought you may appreciate.

Here’s Katie, from her Instagram:

Yes, that is a 4 litre jug of maple syrup. #HappyBirthdayCanada

A photo posted by Katie Gregoire🎶 (@katielizg) on

Yes, I know she’s missing a hockey stick. :) The funny thing is, it didn’t even occur to us until people started mentioning it in the comments. We’re so NOT a sports family! And here’s Rebecca, from her Instagram:

Diamonds may be a girls best friend, but Tim Hortons is a Canadians true love ❤️🍩☕️ A photo posted by Rebecca Danielle (@rebeccagregoire) on

A giant Tim Horton’s cup. Now that’s Canadian!

Becca’s got a bunch of other pictures from Canada Day on a funny post on her blog, too: The Most Canadian Things That Happened to Me on Canada Day.

I know most of my readers will be celebrating on the 4th of July, and I wish you all a wonderful weekend with family and fireworks and barbecues. May we always be grateful for the freedom that we do have.

If you’re not Canadian or American, I wish you a great weekend, too! I’m not even sure when the British or Australian celebrate–let us know in the comments! And if you’re one of my Caribbean or East African or Nigerian readers–welcome! And do leave a comment, too. It would be neat to see how many countries are represented.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

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